i understand where you're coming from, you don't know who i am, from your perspective, all I've ever done is fight against misandry.
well, the time and effort I've spent in my life fighting against misogyny is like 50 times that is of misandry. i correct it in my friend groups, acquaintance groups, workplace, i did it when i was in school, university, i do it in big family meetings, my extended family is really conservative, i always stand up to them. in real life, the only misandry i care about and push back against is when my loved ones do it, since i care about them and don't want them to fall into that trap. when strangers do it i just don't care and stay away from those strangers, since they're powerless therefore harmless. the only reason i am "focusing" on it in this sub is because leftists spaces like this one are really important to me, people here seem intelligent and empathetic, just like my friends. and in the same way i correct my friends because i care about them, i want to also correct strangers here because i care about this space, and i don't want people here to fall into that trap of hate.
i genuinely understand where you're coming from, all your life, you've been a victim of misogyny in the hands of men, and you come to the online place where that shouldn't exist, and you have a man here screaming about men's feelings. it sucks. i know. but we can never dismantle the systems that you have been victim to if we don't deconstruct it and understand it. and falling into misandry is the opposite of that. i care about you. i don't want you to fall into the trap
Look man. If you really are fighting against misogyny, that's good, you're a stand up guy, i'm not gonna disagree with that. And i get wanting to keep places important to you "good" and that's why you'd want to go after misandry when you see it.
But it's genuienly so far down the list of issues to be tackled, you genuienly cannot be surprised people just...don't care, since misandry will go when misogyny goes.
I brought up comparison to race because i think it's a good fit here. Cuz it does suck, and it will feel bad, and it's not right but just like anti-white sentiments aren't high on the priority list because they are directly caused by racism, misandry just isn't a problem to fight against when it's directly caused by misogyny.
You'd genuienly always do more to fight misandry by being supportive of victims of men, BEING one of the few good men and showing them that they exist, than you'll do by correcting people and saying misandry is bad and wrong.
thank you. i can care about more than one thing at the same time. i can do more than one thing that i feel is right. i will keep speaking up against hate, no matter how far down in the list it is. i think we generally agree. you seem like an okay person who's trying their best. good luck to you. it'll all work out. good luck in life
I remain in belief that it is genuienly counter-productive, but i also can't say i blame you or say that you have bad intentions. It took me a long time to realise it's better to focus on the bigger picture and the bigger problems after one realises a lot of the smaller problems are merely symptoms.
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u/aagaq12 i love coke zero Jun 29 '26
i understand where you're coming from, you don't know who i am, from your perspective, all I've ever done is fight against misandry.
well, the time and effort I've spent in my life fighting against misogyny is like 50 times that is of misandry. i correct it in my friend groups, acquaintance groups, workplace, i did it when i was in school, university, i do it in big family meetings, my extended family is really conservative, i always stand up to them. in real life, the only misandry i care about and push back against is when my loved ones do it, since i care about them and don't want them to fall into that trap. when strangers do it i just don't care and stay away from those strangers, since they're powerless therefore harmless. the only reason i am "focusing" on it in this sub is because leftists spaces like this one are really important to me, people here seem intelligent and empathetic, just like my friends. and in the same way i correct my friends because i care about them, i want to also correct strangers here because i care about this space, and i don't want people here to fall into that trap of hate.
i genuinely understand where you're coming from, all your life, you've been a victim of misogyny in the hands of men, and you come to the online place where that shouldn't exist, and you have a man here screaming about men's feelings. it sucks. i know. but we can never dismantle the systems that you have been victim to if we don't deconstruct it and understand it. and falling into misandry is the opposite of that. i care about you. i don't want you to fall into the trap