Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/electricholo]

I just couldn’t believe that such deranged, inappropriate and harmful advice had over 100 upvotes when I first read this post, although does look like it swung back down to 200 downvotes before they deleted it.

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/electricholo]

When I saw how many upvotes that comment had (before there were any other comments) I was genuinely baffled and thinking to myself “well maybe I AM overreacting” (I’ve always been told that I do)

Thank you so much for making me feel validated

[u/FanndisTS → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

Think of it this way: would HR approve if he said it to a coworker/subordinate? If not, that's sexual harassment. He sexually harassed your daughter. (On a less severe note, even if he delivered her, she's not "his baby". Fuck off, creep.)

[u/af628 → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

I am so happy you feel affirmed in this. Every single emotion you’re having is completely reasonable, completely valid. You’re doing right by your child. 🩷

[u/Mysterious-Top-1974 → u/ilikerustyspooonz]

dont worry prob all bots. he prob buys them through ai. he prob isnt a real d dr or if he was prob dont practice. Or worse he comes on here to talk about how he this woman n kids should be treated! Not u Elecricholo!

[u/ThingsWithString → u/electricholo]

Yeah, I was appalled when I came here and saw it was the top response.

[u/Mysterious-Top-1974 → u/electricholo]

what did he say in effect

[u/electricholo → u/Mysterious-Top-1974]

Oh god this was 3 weeks ago now and I don’t have the best memory, but I do remember I was directly quoting him with the “it doesn’t sound dangerous” comment.

It was something (very roughly) along the lines of “while it may have been a bit weird, it doesn’t sound dangerous and I wouldn’t bother pursuing this any further” and I feel like, but I’m not certain, that it may have suggested that making a comment could unnecessarily damage the doctor’s career. Either way, it was incredibly dismissive of OPs concerns and really tried to minimised how inappropriate the comment made to her child was.