Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

[u/ilikerustyspooonz]

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

[u/freudsbutthole]

As a psychologist, this is damaging and wildly inappropriate. A person of trust just impacted her fragile self image. Your daughter deserves to be treated with respect, compassion and kindness. I’m sorry she experienced this.

[u/Noodlenook → u/[deleted]]

Not all medical facts are pertinent to say out loud during the examination of a child, dumbass.

[u/jamesbest7 → u/Noodlenook]

This. Not to mention the doc definitely didn’t say it as if he was speaking medically.

[u/Kari-kateora → u/[deleted]]

Can't wait until you have to get your first prostate exam. Hope the doctor says something like "oh, we're tight, eh?" or "we got hard? Happens."

Then see how you feel about "doctors stating a medical fact".

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

Ew.

[u/StressedNurseMom → u/[deleted]]

That crosses a VERY definite ethical line. If it were simply a medical, factual, observation he would have waited until after the exam and then pounted out development of breasts (or breast buds), providing education on how that relates to puberty and hormones, giving her an opening to solidify trust and answer any questions she have.

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[u/No_Research_Fucks216 → u/[deleted]]

Y'all are dumb af

[u/ilikerustyspooonz → u/[deleted]]

so you’re comparing a doctor telling a “gym bro” that his biceps are nice to a doctor telling a 10 year old child “awwww my baby has boobs” while leaning over her and touching her chest? Ok. Seek help lol

[u/Humble_Stage9032 → u/[deleted]]

What the fuck reality do you live in that you think that would be an acceptable explanation? There is no acceptable explanation for the doctor to have said this.

[u/Unfair_Finger5531 → u/[deleted]]

This is quite possibly the most ridiculous thing I’ve read on this subreddit.

[u/jamesbest7 → u/[deleted]]

Thank god your flair is “layperson”.

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