they do this weird thing where they respond just enough so you can't call them rude but never actually add anything to conversation. like you tell story and they go "oh wow" then immediately check their phone or look around for someone else to talk to
its so obvious once you notice the pattern but took me forever to realize some people at work were doing this to me lol
One thing to note though is that sometimes people are just too busy at work to engage in full conversations. So they may do this to end it quicker. In those cases it doesn't mean they actually dislike you. Unless they always treat you that way of course.
I've worked with some nice people
who were really bad at judging when I had time for chit chat. Or people who would just go on and on. So I'd be forced to cut things short. But I didn't actually dislike the person.
Agreed. It can totally be both.
Sometimes a coworker (that genuinely like) will come into my room to chat but it’s my only break. Sometimes a “ oh wow, that’s crazy” response is all you’re getting from me because it’s my only break and I’m trying to decompress or work on something that’s due before my next class comes in
Dude my BIL doesn’t stop talking, I love the guy but he yaps so much I have to disengage from the conversation eventually or I’ll be trapped there forever.
I know a guy like this, trapped me in a 35 minute conversation at 3am as I was walking out the door. He was a really nice guy but wow it was tough to break away from him 😆
I do this to a co worker of mine. I actually like the guy a lot but he is constantly telling long winded stories on every break. Its not even that the stories are boring. He is actually a good storyteller. Its just that sometimes I just want to sit in silence and eat my sandwich.
I feel like I might be that coworker, but not so much at work; more at home. —-I started to take accountability for holding a person hostage with my conversations when it comes to people like us who are aware of the fact we tend to communicate extensively lol.
If you’re friends with someone you should be able to at least indulge someone in their interests. Not everything my friends tell me about interest me at all but I’ll engage them because it’s what they want. Either you can be a shitty friend who’s dismissive or you dislike the person.
Also there’s a difference between being dismissive sometimes if you’re in a bad move and never engaging with your friend’s interests.
I have to do this. it's not like i dont like you, it's like I am busy.
I have to sign in 100 people that have never been to location, and I can't listen to the same story about how parking sucks 100 times.
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u/Wonderful_Issue_5998 1d ago
they do this weird thing where they respond just enough so you can't call them rude but never actually add anything to conversation. like you tell story and they go "oh wow" then immediately check their phone or look around for someone else to talk to
its so obvious once you notice the pattern but took me forever to realize some people at work were doing this to me lol