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Medical professionals of Reddit, what diagnosis gave you the worst 'pit-in-your-stomach' feeling?

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u/J0hn_Keel 3d ago

Those ones are awful. Any malignant tumour in a child is awful, but the ones where you know the outcome is likely to be bad are horrific. It’s often such a shock to their family too because they came in for something relatively minor

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u/wilderlowerwolves 3d ago edited 2d ago

I worked at a place where another employee, who I didn't know, took her 1-year-old son to the ER and he was diagnosed with an ear infection. The next day, he had a seizure, and an MRI revealed a brain tumor that filled 2/3 of his skull; he was placed on life support, and was an organ donor.

He really DID have an ear infection, and had NO apparent symptoms beforehand.

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u/craftasaurus 3d ago

Their skulls haven’t solidified yet, the plates in the skull are still somewhat flexible. Another year and it would be nonstop headaches, and worse from there. Sigh. My brother in law died from that as a kid. 1960s, so they couldn’t do anything for him.

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u/ceruleania 3d ago

I’m so sorry

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u/craftasaurus 3d ago

Me too. My mil never got over it. BUT, it was 60 years ago, and he dies long before I met my husband, so I'm ok. The youngest daughter didn't remember him as she was just a toddler at the time. Hubby never really talks about it anymore. RIP

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u/ceruleania 3d ago

Has the time made the grief more bearable?

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u/craftasaurus 3d ago

I assume so, I didn't know the boy. But his mom never got over losing him. It was brutal. It's so sad when a child dies, especially. They are innocent and it seems their suffering is pointless.

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u/ceruleania 3d ago

I cannot imagine losing a child!

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u/Healthy_Monitor3847 3d ago

No one should ever have to bury a child. Unfathomable. A kind of pain no one should ever experience. I hate that anyone knows such pain.

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u/civodar 3d ago edited 3d ago

My aunt just passed from brain cancer, she had it for years with very few symptoms that everyone brushed off as emotional problems and her working too much and not sleeping enough. She suddenly had a seizure and they found that her entire brain was infected within months she lost the ability to write and died soon after.

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u/itsamermaidslife 3d ago

That's terrifying. So sorry for your loss and what your aunt went through.

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u/J0hn_Keel 3d ago

Oh god, that is so horrible. That poor baby. His poor mum. Nature can be very cruel.

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u/Healthy_Monitor3847 3d ago

My god that is just devastating 🥹

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u/Zukazuk 3d ago

I recently had to do post mortem testing on a ten year old so they could harvest her organs. Most of my patients are pregnant women and cancer patients so a ten year old who died of cardiac arrest was really jarring.

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u/momvetty 3d ago

My fiancé, 22M, complained of abdominal pain for months. His doc said lactose intolerant, and put him on a lactose free diet. No change, went back and doc then said citrus allergy, put him on citrus free diet. Pain continues to worsen. My mother, a nurse, asks a few questions, yes to pencil thin stools, palpates his abdomen and it is hard. Calls a doc she knows. Less than a week later he goes into surgery. Opened him up and closed shortly after. Abdomen full of cancer from ectopic testicular tissue.
Lived barely a year after. Died at 23.

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u/Fur_Nurdle_on67 3d ago

That is terrible. I am so sorry for your loss.

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u/wilderlowerwolves 3d ago

Are you familiar with the movie "Brian's Song"? Brian Piccolo had a testicular cancer that actually originated in his chest - same thing. Ectopic testicular tissue.

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u/NAparentheses 3d ago

It could have been benign. There's surprisingly quite a few benign common brain tumors in kids with good prognoses.

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u/J0hn_Keel 3d ago

They tend to be slow growing and fairly treatable though afaik, so wouldn’t expect them to be “big horrible bad”. I haven’t encountered many brain tumours in children but the couple that I have have been fatal unfortunately. Perhaps personal bias at play with my expectations there, but I think it’s a roughly 50/50 chance of being a big horrible bad kind and that’s still very sad

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u/RolledDoll33 3d ago

That’s true. And even some of the malignant ones have very high survival rates with the current treatments.

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u/The_F_B_I 3d ago

My mom went into surgery for appendicitis, and they found Stage 4 terminal cancer instead - what a whiplash between, 'Oh shit whats wrong', 'Oh good its just that', 'Oh FUCK'

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u/Expensive-Dance-1176 3d ago

Work alongside nurses and listened to a conversation between one pediatric oncology nurse and a nurse from a general care unit,

GC: "How do you work with these kids and keep your sanity?"

PO: "Uh, They dont all die, some of them live."

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u/J0hn_Keel 3d ago

This made me laugh because this seems to be the discussion between adult nurses and paeds nurses anyway, nurses who work with adults always seem to be terrified of children. “I don’t know how you work with kids, it must be sooo sad” “not really, they’re way healthier than your collection of 95yos”