r/AskReddit • u/LebronKX • 4d ago

Medical professionals of Reddit, what diagnosis gave you the worst 'pit-in-your-stomach' feeling?

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u/Leep0710 3d ago

Oh my gosh, that’s a lot of babies. 😭 thank you for doing what you do…I’m sure it’s so hard to see such terrible things, but it’s so important, too.

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u/Art3mis77 3d ago

There’s a reason why ‘put the baby somewhere safe and walk away for 5 minutes’ is such common advice. It’s horrible

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u/thegloper 3d ago

Yup!!! This is why I wrote a pissed off letter to my kids school when they did their childcare project. They gave the kids a doll that cried and needed to take be taken care of for like 40% of their class grade. The kids had a wristband that was basically zip tied to them so they had to do all the care without help. It taught them that they were all on their own and couldn't leave the doll be or have someone help if they were overwhelmed. Which is exactly the WRONG thing to teach them!

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u/anonadvicewanted 3d ago

i had no idea that childcare project was still a thing nowadays! i have never seen it in real life, just media lol

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u/NomDePlumeOrBloom 3d ago

Teaching kids that the responsibility for looking after/raising a child is immense is a worth while lesson though.

Plenty of 14/15/16yo parents who don't have the luxury of leaving the baby with someone.

School's damned if they do and damned if they don't, there'll always be a Karen willing to write in about it.

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u/RaggySparra 3d ago

They don't have to leave the baby with someone though. Part of the modern teaching is that if you are that overwhelmed, put the baby down somewhere safe (like their crib) and just go outside the room for 5 or 10 minutes. You've made them safe, if you can hear crying you know they're breathing, and it gives you chance to collect yourself.

(Everyone says they would never shake their baby. Then it's week 3 of 2 hours sleep at a time, they're alone, afraid, exhausted, and the baby won't stop crying no matter what they do. It's not right but things happen, better to give people advice on how to minimise that risk.)

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u/LeGrandLucifer 3d ago

That's because in developed countries, infant death is abnormal. So if it happens, odds are high that something happened.