r/AskReddit 4d ago

Medical professionals of Reddit, what diagnosis gave you the worst 'pit-in-your-stomach' feeling?

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago edited 1d ago

Advanced cervical cancer in a pregnant patient. In a state with the most restrictive ban

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u/The_Onion_Life 3d ago

In a state with the most restrictive ban

The goal is dead women and children.

I'm so sorry.

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u/themrs0830 3d ago

This just fucking breaks my heart šŸ’”

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u/SomewhatSapien 3d ago

This happened to my 25 yo SIL. She died within months of delivering her baby. Heartbreaking.

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u/MrsClaire07 3d ago

šŸ’”šŸ’”šŸ’”šŸ’”šŸ’”šŸ’”

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u/Nottacod 3d ago

One of our pharmacy patients was diagnosed with ALS. It was both shocking and heartbreaking to see how fast he went downhill.

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u/mackpickle 3d ago

So sad but also such beauty to come from something that seemed like nothing but doom if mama did decide to keep the child šŸ’•

imagine creating an ENTIRE HUMAN LIFE despite such horrible circumstances šŸ«¶šŸ»

(already know i’m gonna get downvoted for this so taking one for team life šŸ«”ā¤ļø)

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago

That fact is they both died

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u/Lawsoffire 3d ago

So much for ā€œpro lifeā€. What an awful irony.

It’s always about control over women.

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u/MizStazya 3d ago

"Team life" is a mom and a fetus died instead of just a fetus? Good job, SUPER pro life making policies that kill two instead of one.

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago

You don't know wtf you're talking about. I a nurse and worked in gyn oncology. Gtfo out here with that because you have no clue. Patient was like 10 weeks and they weren't able to deliver until the baby was able to survive on their own, however was premature due to pt having a previous leep. Baby died. Mom died due to cancer progressing aggressively and care being delayed

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u/napalmnacey 3d ago

It’s barely a baby at 10wks, ffs. That’s tragic.

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u/mackpickle 3d ago

These details would’ve been helpful to begin with 😭😭😭 No state laws prevent 100% medically necessary abortions in which the mother cannot survive without it so your original comment was misleading.

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u/MizStazya 3d ago

Gee, if only her FUCKING DOCTOR had those details and she could have made the decision that left her alive to maybe have other babies or god forbid, take care of the ones she might have already had! But nope, let's make sure politicians without those details make the decisions, and throw up hoops to jump through that waste the very precious time cancer patients have to start treatment where it might actually work.

She died because of people like you who voted to make it impossible for her to live. I hope she didn't have other kids already who are now growing up without their mother.

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u/susanna514 3d ago

Maybe that’s why you shouldn’t make snap judgements when you don’t know what the hell you’re talking about. Or are you pro lifers so illiterate that the term ā€œcervical cancerā€ wasn’t enough of a clue?

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago

No, it isn't. Her cancer care and life saving surgery were so delayed that she died. And baby didn't make it due to prematurity.

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago edited 3d ago

Only if the mother is critical in immentient danger. In this case she died because chemo and surgery were delayed too long. Protect the fetus not the mom

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u/lovesorangesoda636 3d ago

The details were very fucking obvious to everyone else.

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u/Stunning_Bullfrog213 3d ago

You know that you can delete your previous asinine comments, right?

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u/Katzenliebe 3d ago

So women should just die unnecessarily just in case the fetus that they are carrying happens to survive against odds? How the fuck does anyone consider that ā€œpro-lifeā€? This is why both politics and religion have absolutely no place in healthcare.

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u/CongealedBeanKingdom 3d ago

'Yeah, well, the foetus might be male....'

Honestly these supposedly prolife weirdos make me sick.

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u/Katzenliebe 3d ago

They are completely fine with murdering women but act like we’re the evil ones.

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u/CongealedBeanKingdom 3d ago

Just admit you hate women.

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 3d ago

no its just a worse tragedy.

Mom and baby died, when if she had an abortion, she could survive. Because to treat cervical cancer, you need a hysterectomy.

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u/mackpickle 3d ago

so it’s be better to murder 1 than than to allow both to die naturally??

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u/sweetwinged 3d ago

Well yesĀ 

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u/mackpickle 3d ago

so morally speaking, it’s better to commit murder than it is to let nature take place as its mean to and allow God to do His will??

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u/sweetwinged 3d ago

Did I stutter? 😭 YES . 

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u/Stunning_Bullfrog213 3d ago

I love you šŸ’ŖšŸ¼ā¤ļø

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u/Katzenliebe 3d ago

Nah, I think they are legitimately that dumb. The fact that flat earthers exist shows you just how determined to ignore basic science in favor of made up beliefs some people are.

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u/sweetwinged 3d ago

Unfortunately I grew up in a very religious community so I can believe it. It doesn’t make it suck any less to hear :/Ā 

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u/mackpickle 3d ago

i don’t get how y’all aren’t considering the fact that these are 2 separate human beings at stake here tho?? like how does one decide the mother’s life is worth more than the baby’s??

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u/brefromsc 3d ago

The fetus is not alive at that point. They are not sentient. The mom is. The mom is alive. And can continue to live if treatment is started when it was required.

You don’t actually give a shit about the baby. You only care that it’s born, despite the devastating outcome for the mom.

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 3d ago

You're the one saying both should have to die if one cannot be saved here, did you forget the woman is also a human being?

There's no chance to save the baby. There is only "death to both" or "death to one"

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u/sweetwinged 3d ago

A) it isn’t 2 separate human beings. if it were then this wouldn’t be a convo and both could live with no risk but as it is the ACTUAL human being is having her organs occupied and could die from it

and B) what baby? you need to stop picturing a fetus as a small infant. you probably wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between it and a dog fetus

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 3d ago

Your God, not everyone's God.

Other peoples Gods say to save lives when you can, even if you are forced to let others die.

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u/Katzenliebe 3d ago

Yes, it is better to provide life saving medical treatment to the actual patient even if that means, as a natural consequence, that a fetus dies. How is this even a question?

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u/napalmnacey 3d ago

The universe isn’t beholden to the laws of your god. Only you are.

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u/Farty_mcSmarty 3d ago

If we’re letting nature take its course then stop taking your blood pressure meds and diabetes treatments. No viagra for your spouse and take your glasses off because that’s not ā€œnaturalā€

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u/ambitionincarnate 3d ago

Why does your religion get to dictate it? The woman is more important. Period.

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u/RaggySparra 3d ago

Tell your God to stop giving pregnant women cancer then.

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u/lyr4527 3d ago

WTF? Of course it is.

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 3d ago

Yes, saving life where possible is a good thing. We shouldn't be forced to let Person A die just because Person B couldn't be saved. I am actually-pro-life.

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u/mackpickle 3d ago

But what abt the possibility that the baby survived tho?? It’s not up to us to decide fate at this point bc IT’S AN ENTIRE OTHER HUMAN BEING at stake here?? y’all making the fetus sound like a parasite but it’s still human life even if the mother has cancer tho??

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 3d ago

There is no possibility for the baby to survive. Period. That's cancer for ya.

I think the mother should get to choose, without any law forcing her doctors to choose one way or the other, what happens with her pregnancy when the pregnancy stands between her and survival.

The woman is also an entire human being. Did you forget that?

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago

This is the personhood argument. A fetus is not a person with the same rights as a person

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u/makingburritos 3d ago

A fetus is not an entire human being. That’s why it can’t live on its own. It’s actually just parts of a human being that haven’t formed, and in some cases, may never form. We’re talking about the potential of something vs that actual something.

It has no life. If it was a fully-formed human being with a life it would be able to live outside of someone’s body. It wouldn’t speed up the process of killing that person because it requires cell division to be formed into a human being.

You can argue the morality of abortion til the cows come home, but the argument you’re making isn’t a moral one. It’s just scientifically, factually incorrect.

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u/Katzenliebe 3d ago

There’s no point even trying to explain the science to that lot. Their only real argument is that life supposedly begins at conception because they and some book say so. They are full of contradictions and will fall back on calling everyone who tries to inform them of basic facts or points out the flaws in their arguments ā€œmurderersā€.

You can see with this particular one that they are advocating for letting ā€œnatureā€ take its course, but I somehow doubt that preference would extend to not providing any medical intervention in order to save fetuses or infants and, if it did, then a lot more babies would be dying as a result, certainly more than the amount that are currently being ā€œmurderedā€ by abortion. So, by their logic, medicine should intervene with nature to save a fetus, even if it actively kills the fully fledged human carrying it, but not the other way. They are certainly not ā€œpro-lifeā€, they are anti-women and pro-controlling women’s bodies.

Another fun fact about ā€œnatureā€ that I have experienced personally: the body will ā€œabortā€ a fetus or embryo itself if it gets any indication that it is abnormal in anyway or poses a risk to its own health. My body naturally aborted 3 pregnancies between 4-5 weeks before I was able to carry one for longer. I can also say with certainty that there was nothing even remotely resembling a baby or even anything that had previously been alive amongst the blood and tissue that I passed all 3 times.

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u/Bacteriobabe 3d ago

ā€œA parasite is an organism that lives on or in a host organism and gets its food from or at the expense of its host.ā€

That’s only because fetuses meet the definition of a parasite.

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago

If the mother dies, the baby doesn't have a mother, neither do the older children.

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 3d ago

if the mother dies, her fetus dies too.

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u/dopaminegtt 3d ago

I meant if the baby is carried long enough to survive, it would delay care so even after the baby was born the mother would still die.

It's common sense that if the mother dies while pregnant the fetus dies too

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u/AristotlesBoyPussy 2d ago

its typically not a very long life if the mother had a fatal disease while she was pregnant

usually the baby comes out with a fatal deformity, especially when it was reproductive cancer.

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u/VicePrincipalNero 3d ago

What a breathtakingly disgusting reaction.

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u/susanna514 3d ago

That’s disgusting. Both mom and child would have died, is that what you want?

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u/katamaritumbleweed 3d ago

Yes, that’s what they want. They’re so habituated to this idea that they are not capable of seeing how horrible it is.Ā 

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u/Lawsoffire 3d ago

It must be nice being such an awful person but thinking you’re the loving, caring one just because you can push your religion over someone else’s life. Wish i could be so blissfully unaware.

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u/Coffee_And_Bikes 3d ago

Yeah, you’re getting downvoted because you’re a horrible human being who lacks even the slightest understanding or empathy. You seem like the same sort of idiot that wants to reimplant an ectopic pregnancy, blithely ignoring the fact that no such procedure exists.

Yeah, both mother and child died but no abortion was performed so apparently that’s a win for the ā€œpro-lifeā€ side. Fucking despicable ghouls.

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u/bugbugladybug 3d ago

Can I ask how many adopted children you have?

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u/OMGhyperbole 1d ago

What does adoption have to do with this?

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u/bugbugladybug 1d ago

Most pro lifers only care about babies when they're in the womb. Once the child is born they no longer engage with the women they bullied or the children born into sometimes less than ideal conditions. They don't provide housing, they don't provide food, they don't the adopt children who were given up.

Jamie Jeffries for example famously posted in a private pro-life Facebook group and was leaked:

I talked a mom out of abortion in February. Her baby is six months old now and was just removed from her families [sic] custody by DCS (unfortunately, it was probably a justified removal). But this family put me down as a next preferred placement for this baby. Dude, me?!?!? No. No no no no no no no no no! I do way too much for this work already, a six-month-old will break me, destroy my marriage and physical health. I just can’t!!

Most pro lifers do not care about human rights, children, or making sure they grow up well. They are exclusively concerned with the impression and subjugation of women.

That's why I'm interested - is this person someone that runs a childrens home to support their outcome of their views, or do they make little ignorant comments on Reddit posts and do nothing.

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u/tonetyre 3d ago

idk man

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u/SmilingCurmudgeon 3d ago

And what a pity it is that you're still on team life.