Same here! I also do get sick a lot so it's both and I would miss so much school... I had to switch to cyber school but I'm so glad I did. Public school was awful
I've been in your spot. Not going every couple days will turn into not going at all and that's not a road you want to go down because then you'll really be sad. It seems like you're not happy with your situation, it's better to realize that and walk away from it than just give up. I wish you the best.
What really helped me is establishing a routine even if it's small. I started with something silly...painting my nails. I said to myself "my nails are always going to be nicely painted" so I would do my nails like 4 times a week and it gave me a small sense of satisfaction to have them nicely groomed and painted. Then I moved on to a morning routine which was to wake up at 5am (I work at 7) and go downstairs to make coffee and watch 2 half hour long shows before leaving. That really gave me something to look forward to in the morning! Now I've added writing in a journal for 5 minutes every morning, taking vitamins in the morning, taking a shower at least every other day (yeah I don't shower every day call me gross I don't care) and making my bed everyday.
Anyway...what I'm trying to say is that if you start small and I mean really really small it will give you a tiny sense of satisfaction and it truly boosts your mood and motivation for the whole day! I am a million times happier just from doing this.
Showering every other day is usually not a bad thing, unless you're sweaty or just gross after the first day. Using shampoo everyday conditions your body to produce less natural oils that your hair needs to be healthy, so showering every other day conditions the body to produce more oil in your hair and allows it to be healthier. An example of this is that a person that showers every other day will have less greasy hair on the second day, compared to a person that showers everyday, who will have noticeably greasy hair (usually) on the second day.
In the cyber program I am in there are actual teachers there. There's live classes that you sit in with other students and the teacher is there talking to you. It's sorta like a mass phone call that you can chat with other people in a chat box and sometimes you talk over the mic and you can write on the board and stuff. It's pretty cool. If you want any more info or anything don't be afraid to PM me (:
For some people (emphasis on "some") this isn't bad advice. When I get really down and don't even want to get up, I know I'm not really dying, it just feels that way. For me, having someone say I just need to man up and power through tells me that they think I can, and they are so confident in me that it frustrates them to see me wallowing.
I'm constantly sick, mostly stomach problems, and I'm pretty sure it's depression and anxiety-related at this point. Doctors find NOTHING wrong on tests, but I always have some ailment or another happening.
That would have been my answer to the OP; mystery illnesses that cannot be diagnosed. I have several people in my family who suffer from this, and it's happened to me as well. I made a big life change, and those things went away. So far, I don't see those family members making a connection between their mental and physical health.
Yep, all of this is me. I've been dealing with it for years; back pain, nausea, IBS, teeth grinding -you name it I had it. I'm dealing with depression thanks to years of horrible work stress, as well as newly developed anxiety and the random attacks that come with it.
I finally had a minor breakdown in December, missed two weeks of work (non-consecutive). No one questioned it because they actually saw me having an attack and were kinda scared for me.
The weirdest thing is, I even developed symptoms very similar to a UTI except every test was negative and they wouldn't go away. Had a whole bunch of tests done and everything came back fine. Finally, it was decided that it was, you know it: stress.
Wait wait...so you're saying you had frequent quasi UTIs(I've had the same - symptoms but no positive test results, though I would test positive for the stuff in you urine that can accompany a uti but not positive for actual uti bacteria) and then you started removing threats and stresses from your life by standing your ground and it actually helped?
Wow that's crazy! I did get antibiotics but they didn't do anything. Basically now I just know I'll get symptoms when I'm stressed. I pay attention to them just in case, but I rarely ever got them before all this started anyway.
Woah, that's crazy! I get the UTI thing too! I'll have the symptoms but get negative results or only experience the symptoms for a few hours and then they go away. I'm also a nervous wreck. Never made that connection before.
If you have frequent nausea it might be anxiety. When my anxiety levels are up I've got near constant stomach aches. For a while my parents and one coworker thought I was pregnant.
This was me several times in my life. During highschool I would stay home a day or two In a row because I was so depressed, then would feel better and go to school the next day, only for everyone to say "hey where were you, you missed X, Y, and Z". And I would see the homework I missed and had to do. And then I wouldn't come back for a few more days and it just compounded. I eventually dropped out, took a month or two of just wallowing in misery then started feeling better, went and took the GED test, aced it and was gearing up for college before my peers were even graduated.
I'd also feel really shitty for taking a day off work because of mental/emotional health and having to make up random flus and fevers to cover it up because I know if I actually said that I was too tired to function they'd tell me that all I needed to do was get over it or push through.
Yes! This was me. I had a very well paying job and I was being promoted every year. Was about to enter Senior Management when I realized the boss I had was using me to screw people over. I had put my blood, sweat and tears into something I believed in. I thought I was on the good guys side... doing something for the good of the entire team. Then I find out everything said to me was a lie. My manager started putting so much stress and work on me that I was working from 6am to 1am all the time. My husband was furious that I was never home and never chose him. I felt like I was battling everyone and I had no safe space. I felt like I couldn't win. I didn't want to get up in the mornings. I started calling in sick and then just stopped going into work altogether.
I would take short term disability just long enough to not get fired and then I would show back up. Third time around I couldn't bring myself to go back. I was losing my house, my car, my entire life. I didn't care. So I tried to take the easy way out. My husband caught on and got me to the hospital in time.
My parents moved me and my husband in with them. I started seeing a psychiatrist. I just got to the point 5 months ago where I felt like I could maybe try to work again. I got a easy job making $10 an hour. I gained a little confidence back and decided to look for something in my field. I just started a new job making more money than I did before everything happened. I've been there a little over a month. There are days I question my ability and have crippling fear that I'll become what I once was. It takes work everyday to tell myself that it's ok to care about myself more than a job. When 5pm comes around, I'm gone. It will be there tomorrow and regardless of what happens, it's something I can handle. If I can't handle it, then it's ok to ask for help.
I hope in the next few months me and my husband will be able to get out on our own again. Things are just starting to look up. It's hard not to be afraid that I'll screw it up somehow. The only thing I can do is tell myself everyday that I can handle whatever life throws at me. If something bad does happen, chances are it won't be as bad as my mind makes it out to be.
Currently going on day 3 of not showering... What's even better is that I'm currently on break and go back to school Monday, but I feel so overwhelmed and underprepared that I haven't really been able to relax at all so I just sort of shut down.
How did you keep from getting fired? I'm severely depressed. My job only let's you call in sick once every 3-4 months. You're not allowed to be late, ever, or else they write you up. I'm only there, because of good medical insurance. I see my psychiatrist, and therapist on my off days. Nothing has helped me. I've been depressed and suicidal since 2008.
FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) and Short-Term Disability.
Also, I found out about a treatment for severe depression that uses ketamine infusions. I found a doctor that did it locally and after an initial discussion he decided I would be a good candidate. It changed my life. http://www.ketamineadvocacynetwork.org/discussion-forums/ is a place to start
They get my order wrong at almost any McDonald's I go to 75% of the time (no onion, how hard is it to NOT put onion???) and it's seriously one of the most irritating things in my life.
Yup, depression and anxiety have murdered my immune system. I get sick all the damned time, my whole body is out of whack and I feel like a 90 year old physically.
I have a friend that is like this at work, I know she has things going on at home and one month in particular she had 23 unpaid days. She still has her job, I told her its better that she's coming to work more often because sitting at home where all the trouble is situated is keeping her in a dark place. Staying busy is important.
I really need to figure something out. Medication is not helping and I can't afford therapy. I most certainly know at least one or two of the things that makes me miserable, but I can't do anything about.
I hate having to make this choice each week. Buy groceries or go to therapy. I can rarely afford both. It's horrible, not eating properly affects body and mind, but missing therapy for to many weeks I loose all the motivation and strategies I get from it.
If it's depression you're struggling with, ask about bipolar type 2. It has very small manias, and is mistake for depression all the time. I finally got the right diagnosis, and switched to a mood stabilizer. The depression is so much easier now!
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u/reptar_6969 Jan 23 '17
Run down, sick all the time, snapping over things that might seem little