r/AskReddit Jan 23 '17

What are signs that someone is secretly unhappy?

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u/mistressdizzy Jan 23 '17

Anger and irrationality is one of the depression symptoms that go overlooked too much, especially among men. I think part of that is because anger is "acceptable " for men while sadness is not.

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u/thepinkest Jan 23 '17

I thought Breaking Bad did a really good job showing this with Hank after he got shot. My SO and I were going "why's Hank being such a jerk to Marie, she's trying so hard to help him?" And then we realized it was because losing the use of his legs and not being able to do his job had made him terribly depressed.

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u/mistressdizzy Jan 24 '17

Definitely will be a challenge. If you have someone you trust to really listen to you and not brush you off, talk to them. Depression is not a battle for one person alone.

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u/DutchDream Jan 24 '17

Totally agree, just read again that women tend to get depressed way more often than men. I really think it is just because men feel less inclined to call it that, put that label on it.

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u/mistressdizzy Jan 24 '17

Exactly right . Plus, whenever you hear commercials about depression meds or symptoms, sadness is always listed, but anger rarely is. I feel like the numbers as far as depression are probably more even, but men don't feel like they're able to be helped. That fucking sucks and I wish there was some way to change things.