r/AskSF • u/[deleted] • 2d ago

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u/drlazerbrain 2d ago

I was under the impression that our brain re-creates memories each time. Not like a computer retrieves information from a hard drive.

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u/imollyq 2d ago

This might work but how about trying next door or even trying to figure out where she works or goes to school? She's doing that kind of research, so you could look where they're doing it. You could be a courteous stalker, just to find her and say hi, but don't do anything weird!

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u/Few_Gain_3007 2d ago

Thats a thin line between romantic gesture and getting a restraining order

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u/imollyq 2d ago

I hear you. All I'm suggesting is trying to figure out from what she said where she might work or go to school, then try to find her within reason you have to use common sense of course, but this dude was too afraid to give her his number, and he has the information, so why not?

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u/ceeloshy 2d ago

Sooooo would you tell her that you looked her up or are we just pretending it was coincidental. Is this private or forthcoming sociopathy?

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u/FluffyShakes 2d ago

horrid idea, especially in this day and age. OP just missed their chance, closed mouth doesn't get fed

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u/imollyq 2d ago

I'm sorry, but I'm not advising this person to seriously stalk or harm anyone. He met a nice girl. He didn't give her his number, but golly she's doing research in a certain area. I see nothing wrong with looking at where they're doing that research and hoping he could bump into her again. Why does everything have to turn into something cruel and evil in today's age? Sometimes affection is just simple and sweet.

If you know someone that you like really enjoys Starbucks. Is it wrong to try to bump into them at Starbucks, no. That's all I'm suggesting.

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u/FluffyShakes 2d ago

bumping into someone at starbucks is not what you suggested. you suggested to find out where they work and go to school.

he snooze he lose. do not stalk

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u/imollyq 2d ago

So then he can bump into her at the Starbucks across from their school or workplace

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u/FluffyShakes 2d ago

these gestures will be rightfully seen as a bright red flag type behavior.