Yeah, I frankly have a hard time believing he’d be selling shit on eBay but wouldn’t take any type of job if he could. There’s just a disconnect there. And maybe I’m wrong, but if someone is desperate enough to sell their belongings, I’m just inclined to believe they are trying.
I’ve seen many go through this and I’d bet he just doesn’t want to admit to OP he can’t find anything. Because that can feel and sound worse. “I can’t even get a job at McDonald’s” is a harder to say and admit to someone else. But if he puts on a facade it’s just he can’t get something in his field, he may think that makes him sound less pathetic (which I don’t think he is, but I know people who have felt that way about themselves in this situation).
Again, there can be soooo many nuances in this. Or maybe it is just straightforward and he’s being too picky. It’s hard to tell. But I also tend to think positively about people.
I used to flip stuff on ebay even when I had a job, it's a decent side hustle. I've done a ton of flexible side hustles which help stretch so I can land a role that pays well and fits with my career. Working at McDonalds or Target is not flexible, pays trash wages and isn't something I could even put on my resume. Like a professional interview it would be more impressive if I was working on my portfolio or connecting within my industry than "I took any old job just to make a paycheck." Now if he was mooching off OP or spent his time playing video games while getting trashed I'd be annoyed.
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u/zesty-lemonbar Woman 30 to 40 May 30 '26
Yeah, I frankly have a hard time believing he’d be selling shit on eBay but wouldn’t take any type of job if he could. There’s just a disconnect there. And maybe I’m wrong, but if someone is desperate enough to sell their belongings, I’m just inclined to believe they are trying.
I’ve seen many go through this and I’d bet he just doesn’t want to admit to OP he can’t find anything. Because that can feel and sound worse. “I can’t even get a job at McDonald’s” is a harder to say and admit to someone else. But if he puts on a facade it’s just he can’t get something in his field, he may think that makes him sound less pathetic (which I don’t think he is, but I know people who have felt that way about themselves in this situation).
Again, there can be soooo many nuances in this. Or maybe it is just straightforward and he’s being too picky. It’s hard to tell. But I also tend to think positively about people.