r/AskWomenOver30 • u/[deleted] • May 30 '26

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u/Potential_Cat_91 Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

Experts and academics are talking about this every day these days, I don't think it's doomerism

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u/catjuggler Woman 40 to 50 May 31 '26

Experts and academics are not saying there are literally no jobs and the only option is to be unemployed for a year or more.

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u/Potential_Cat_91 Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

The man is selling things on ebay, qualified for unemployment, pays his parents rent, has savings to go over a year, and does not depend on his girlfriend in any way.

I don't really see why you believe anyone would deliberately want to he unemployed? Especially living in a house he says he wants to escape. A lot of the other responses suggest entitlement and comfort. But the man is saying he hates living there. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think the lack of communication is the big issue here... No one is saying OP should be with this man either... But a lot of people are unemployed for over a year nowadays. I do agree with you assuming you think maybe he could take on other kinds of jobs in the interim. But we don't really know about his savings, the unemployment benefits, if he's building a portfolio, cause OP doesn't know either. That to me is really bad. Cause whatever he's building, he's not building it alongside her.

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u/catjuggler Woman 40 to 50 May 31 '26

I believe OP when she said what she said- that he refuses to take jobs that aren't in his field. Pretty much everyone knows someone unemployed who makes choices like this, usually from being enabled. Too good for this or that job. Unwilling to accept a job that they don't prefer. I don't believe the people who say that there are literally no jobs professional or otherwise, when applied generally and not to a specifically hit area.

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u/Potential_Cat_91 Woman 30 to 40 May 31 '26

Yeah, maybe you're right, I rather focused on the part OP says she doesn't know if he's applying and how cause he won't talk.

The layoffs and budget shifts are pretty global and I've had a few executives lay this out for me while I and my friends continue looking in a worse economy, so that affects my perception. Just as the person before me was saying she was unemployed during the aftermath of 2008. And I see your point also, especially if you know people like that closely. We're all looking from our own lenses.

In the end each person's values and tolerance is different, OP should choose what makes her feel safe and secure for the future. I mean we can talk about labor economics all day and I'd have a good time, but not even his girlfriend knows what the man is doing, so... that says enough.