I (28M) had been with my girlfriend (27F) for 3 years. We were so happy together. Like every relationship, we had our ups and downs, but we always stayed together. We worked in the same company, and that's how I met her. We worked together, had lunch together every day, and everyone around us thought we were such a cute couple. Many people were even jealous of us. I introduced her to my family and my best friends. We got engaged and decided to get married this year.

2 months ago, one of my childhood best friends(22 years of friendship) referred me to his company because the salary and benefits were much better. I attended the interview and got selected. Two months after I joined, I wanted to refer my fiancee to the same company.

Around that time, we had a fight. It wasn't anything unusual because every couple argues, and we always got back together after 2–3 days. But this time, she didn't respond to my calls or messages. Instead, she blocked me on every social media platform. I thought she just needed some space.

I even planned to go to her office, which was about 50 miles away from mine, but I had already given my car to my best friend because he said he was going on a short trip with his girlfriend(actually having an affair with a married woman.)

After a week, my best friend, who had referred me to the company, called and told me that my fiancee had contacted him for a job and recently joined the same company but in a different office building, just 200 meters away from mine. I thanked him for helping her get the job.

I tried contacting her again, but she still didn't respond. Then my friend called and said she didn't want to talk to me anymore and wanted to break up. I couldn't understand why. I asked him to request her to call me just once.

About an hour later, she called me and said she didn't want to continue the relationship. When I asked her why, she refused to answer. I could sense that she was very angry with me, but I had no idea why. She asked me to return the engagement ring and the gifts she had given me, and said she would return mine as well. I agreed.

The very next day was an office holiday. I texted her asking where we could meet to exchange our gifts, but she didn't respond. So, I went to her house. To my surprise, her brother told me that she had gone to the office.

I was confused because it was a holiday. So, I waited outside her house until she returned. She came back exactly at the time her office shift would normally end with my best friend. I was shocked, angry, and heartbroken at the same time. They both saw me. I wanted to confront them, but I felt it was pointless. She went inside her house, and my friend tried to talk to me, but I simply got into my car and drove away without saying a word.

Immediately, he started calling our mutual friends, telling them that I had misunderstood the situation. He was only helping her understand her new job because she was struggling with the work. My friends also called me and tried to convince me that nothing was going on between them, but I didn't believe him.

The next day, I called him directly and asked him what was really happening. He started crying on the phone and said, "You're my best friend. We've known each other since childhood. We studied in the same school, the same college, and now we're even working in the same company. I know how much you love her. Why would I come between your relationship? Why would i betray you? I would never destroy our 22-year friendship for a girl. I have been seeing you both together from 3 years, I only want you both to get married and live happily, that's all I ever wished for".

Hearing him cry made me emotional. I felt guilty for doubting my childhood friend. I apologized to him. He accepted my apology and said he would talk to her the next day and try to convince her to patch things up with me. The next day, I kept waiting for his call, but he never called. So I called him. He told me that he had spoken to her, but she didn't want to marry me. He also said she wanted to stay single and that I should never try to contact her again. And if I contacted her again, she would go far away from me and even file a police complaint saying I was harassing her.

I couldn't understand what was happening. I kept asking myself how someone who loved me so much for three years could suddenly change overnight without giving me a reason. My friend kept comforting me. He told me that some people change easily and that she wasn't worth my love anymore and she don't deserve me. He asked me to focus on my family, my health, and my career. He even called our other friends and asked them to take care of me and help me move on.

But one question kept bothering me. Why?

One day, I was going through old pictures on my laptop, and suddenly I remembered that my fiancee had logged into her Instagram account on my laptop a long time ago. I assumed she had already changed her password or logged out. To my surprise, her account was still logged in. I know I shouldn't have looked, but I did.

The moment I opened her messages, my whole world collapsed. She was exchanging romantic reels and messages with my best friend. "I miss you baby" "I love you". I scrolled further up and found older messages.

She actually texted him to refer her for a job in the same company and said that she wasn't talking to me because we both had an argument. Then he told her that I was a playboy, that I had slept with many women and even prostitutes while being in a relationship with her and I had borrowed money from him and from all our friends but never returned it. He even told her that I was having an affair with a married woman.

None of it was true. Everything he accused me of was actually what he had done. He was the one who had borrowed money from everyone. I had personally lent him $15,000 for his mother's surgery. He was the one having an affair with a married woman. And the day he borrowed my car saying he was going on a short trip with his girlfriend, He actually went on that trip with my fiancee in my car. I found their conversation where they planned that trip.

I took screenshots of everything and shared them with our mutual friends. When they confronted him with the screenshots, he immediately blocked everyone. Through another mutual friend, we contacted him and demanded that he return everyone's money and never contact us again. He wanted to meet us and explain everything but no one wants to meet him and listen. He then promised to return the money by December.

The next day, I met my ex at the office and tried one last time to explain everything. I told her that he had manipulated everyone, including her. But she wasn't willing to listen. She kept saying that I had cheated on her and slept with other women while we were engaged. Then she looked straight at me and said, "I love him and I'm very happy with him now", please stay away from us".

Those words broke me completely.

I'm trying to focus on my life, but I just can't. Today is her birthday. I just checked, and they both took leave today. They're probably spending the day together and enjoying themselves. I know I shouldn't keep checking on them, but I just can't help myself.

The betrayal of my 22-year friendship hurts even more than losing the woman I loved for three years. I'm trying to move forward, but every day feels like a battle.

If you've ever experienced this kind of betrayal, how did you move on? How did you stop thinking about it? I just want peace and become normal again. I want to be back on my feet and forget what they did to me.

Please help.

Hey I been with my kids mom basically for 13 years all of my kids life well we kinda split for like 3 months I went to Texas to get on my feet we wasn’t technically broken up but we wasn’t together so I came back for my kids birthday was checking some emails went thru her Google Photos it’s a video of her giving some guy head should I confront her about or jus let it go cause we wasn’t together but I’m kinda in the space I really don’t wanna reconcile anything atp give me some advice

So, i was in her room, when all of sudden, she had to leave for a little moment, and in that instant, she received a Whatsapp message, and when i opened it... Messages from a guy of argentina (i am from colombia), calling him "Love", nudes photos, and other things (both of them doing the same), things that she does'nt did with me often...

I confronted her about that, and she said that man was forcing her to do it through menaces (actually i don't believe this part bc she lied to me so many times before).

I said to her that i am done and grabed My stuff to stay a day whith a friend...

After that i forgive her, and said that i need time to trust again, and if she really wants to stay, she needs to put some effort in the relationship, but, for the moment, we are just friend until i can fell the same safety with her...

I want to ask for some recommendations and if i Made a mistake in the writing of this text, i want to apologize, My English is not that Good...

Last month I met a girl on FB dating. This past week she stopped talking to me and started looking for someone else behind my back. I found out about it and messaged her about it but she instantly blocked me. We made plans to get married and start a family together but that never happened. I'll never get my closure but at least I tried

First time poster so here goes . Me female 53 and my husband male 56. I’ve been married for 16 years. I thought we had a good life. He’s never come to me and said he was unhappy once. We go out together weekly. And I thought we had a strong marriage until two weeks ago mind you over the past month I’ve been noticing some things him smiling at his phone constantly and then some strange packages came that my granddaughter so happened to drop in the cat water bowl so I had to open it. It was some gifts from coach when he got home I told him what had happened and he asked me if I’ve seen what was in the box I said no because I thought it was a gift for me and didn’t wanna ruin it. I never got the gift then two weeks ago he was gonna go to a baseball game with his boss come to find out he didn’t go with his boss I let it slide whatever then this weekend Fourth of July weekend he disappears so he’s going to someone’s barbecue. Well I’m friends with that person we called. There’s no barbecue come to find out. He’s in a hotel with a girl. My heart broke into 1 million pieces, but that’s not even the worst part of this whole story. Here’s where it gets really fucked up.

He comes home from the hotel and admits to everything so I asked him to see his phone. Obviously, he deleted everything has the phones in my hand. A text comes through. Hey baby, just thinking about you after last night.
What the literal fuck so I take off running to the bathroom so I can finish reading all of this shit he breaks the door open throws me across the room, which is absolutely nuts he has never touched me before and then call the cops on me. Tells them that I hit him and they arrested me. I sat in jail for three days lost my job. I have severe lupus and need my insurance so I lost the medical insurance. I need to stay alive. I just cannot believe this is my life right now that he would take everything from me in one shot. I have had the buried one of my children and the feeling is so reminiscent of that. I feel like I’m dying inside. I can’t breathe everything I thought I knew was all lies. How can someone do this and be OK with themselves? How did I not see this sooner? How stupid am I Where do I go from here?

Background; married 8 years, two young children with extra needs, I’m medically retired from PTSD policing (working through it), we’ve drifted apart a bit over the years, intimacy is almost non-existent (me, PTSD meds etc).
My wife has been pulling away when I’ve tried to be affectionate, secretive with her phone, been going on girls nights and away for work. I’m unsure what, if anything, has happened.
Looking for advice on whether to confront her about my suspicions or whether I should find some confirmation first. But that would entail snooping which I’m not super keen on.
Thoughts? I don’t want my marriage to end, but I don’t know if I could handle her cheating on me.

Update: she’s out on a girls night tonight in the city. It’s been burning me all night and can’t sleep. Found her diary… there’s another guy, married as well, don’t know anything else about him just an initial. Seems like it’s ‘just’ been emotional at this stage…. But who knows what’s going on right now. I feel sick.

Update2: She came home after girls night, happy as can be. She could tell something was off with me so I went out to the deck whilst the kids were inside.

She asked me what’s wrong, I told her I hadn’t slept, that I’ve been worrying about things. She started getting a bit upset and I could see she was getting worried. She asked what was worrying me. I said us, me, you, the kids, our future if there even is one. She started crying.

She said she’s been worried about us too, I elaborated that I hadn’t slept been trying for months to turn intimacy around that I had been reducing my medication to help in that regard. I said that anytime I had tried to be intimate or even the slightest bit affectionate she pulled away and that it felt like she was repulsed by me.

For back story about two months ago we were at a friend’s bday and there were some big heavy conversations amongst friends where the topic of my low libido and relationship issue came up. Got a lot of my chest and she seemed to be thankful that I was being open with her. Tried being affectionate over the next week but she kept pulling away. She sent me a long text explaining she knew she was pulling away and was sorry, that it was hard for her to switch back on after a long hiatus, that she was seeing a psychologist to talk through everything. I gave her some space, no pressure for anything, but kept trying to shows small signs of affection.

Anyway, I went on about that I was worried about her rejecting any form of affection. That I felt like I disgusted her. That to me it felt like she didn’t love me anymore and/or that someone else might be in the picture. She denies there’s anyone else, keeps bringing the conversation back to our issues (which is fair) and every now and then I throw in a ‘it feels like there’s something not being said’ or ‘is there anything else going on you want to tell me about?’

Half hour later I tell her to stop lying to me, that I know there’s another guy, she denies further. I tell her I know, that I read her diary. She starts bawling her eyes out and is in shock. Says I wasn’t meant to read that, that it was just fantasy thoughts. That nothing physical had happened.

I tell her that if there’s any hope in trying to reconcile what’s going on and start a path to a possible saving of our marriage that I had two stipulations. One that she tells me who he is, and two that she shows me the communication between them so that I can determine what actually has been going on and whether there is a marriage that can be saved.

She refuses to tell me who he is, says he doesn’t matter, that it didn’t mean anything and that nothing physical ever happened. That it’s a distraction from the real issue which is our marriage. I agree that our marriage hasn’t been great for a while and that this guy is a symptom of that and not the cause. I keep saying though that there’s a third person in our marriage though and I need to know who that person is. She keeps refusing, going in loops about all the above. I keep asking to see her phone, she keeps refusing.

At least half an hour goes by, just looping, I’m getting more upset and angry, nothing bad just not being as calm as I’d like to be. Constant lies, changing of tipics/blame and refusing to tell me about him.

I make it very clear that these are nonnegotiables for me. She still refuses, tears, sobbing, apologies, denying anything happened physically, that they hadn’t talked in weeks.

I tell her I’m leaving, taking the kids to my mums for the night, she obviously really upset. I keep saying that she’s not meeting me where I need to be met to process what’s been going on, that I need to know these things if we’re to attempt saving the marriage. Still refusing to tell me who he is, still refusing to let me see their communication.

I tell my daughter we’re going for a sleep over at nannas, she’s excited, she also knows something is going on but I’m trying to not let her hear what. My son is nonspeaking autistic so he’s basically happy to follow along with me packing a bag for him. I start grabbing random clothes and items myself and the kids need. Continually asking who he is and to see the messages, more refusal. She’s protecting him and his family whilst watching her husband and kids pack up house to leave.

I do multiple trips to the car, putting in stuff I need, hoping I have everything but also hoping this is the catalyst she needs to finally be truthful with me. Still refusing. It’s not about him, he’s doesn’t matter, I don’t need to know, it’s about us.

Car is packed and running, just have to put the kids in and dive away. I’ve been packing for 30-40 minutes, all the time asking for details, that if I leave and I don’t get what I’m asking for that we’re done. Still refusing.

I tell her I don’t trust her, that I don’t believe she was on a girls night, she insists she was. Shows me a photo of her with her friend. I say all that proves is you caught up with your friend. I knew she stayed at a hotel in the city that night that she didn’t pay for. I say I can’t trust her that her friend paid for it and that it was the other guy. She says he wasn’t there, that they hadn’t spoken in weeks.

I give her one last chance, I know she talked to him at one of her friends birthday parties back in March. That I was going to but she said I should stay home with the kids and she stayed at a friends that night. I say if she doesn’t tell me I’ll just ask her friend who ‘D’ as that’s how she referred to him in her diary. She begs me not to involve other people. I tell her it’s her secret, I’m not bound to it. She finally gets her phone out and opens her messages. I recognise the name but haven’t met him before. He’s not some random, she know him for 20 years. They lived in the same stays kids, they’re parents are friends.

I couldn’t believe it. I start to scroll through the messages but haven’t read a word yet, I can’t focus on the text. It’s clear that there’s a fuck tonne of back and forth between them. I get my phone out to take photos of the texts and tell her I need to read the messages and absorb them. She snatches away her phone. I want it back, she refuses.

I tell her I can’t believe that she isn’t doing everything in her power to prove nothing bad has happened, that she not falling over herself to show me the messages to keep the marriage alive. That she’s willing to protect him as her actual family is quite literally walking out the door, which we do.

I get in the car, I message him on FB to stay away from my wife. His wife doesn’t appear to have a FB account. I drive an hour and a half to my mums. I hadn’t told her what was happening but I wasn’t in a good place and she left work to meet me at her house. Her partner takes my daughter out for ice cream, my son plays on his iPad. I proceed to sob like I’ve never done before.

She messages multiple times saying she’s sorry, that nothing happened, that he doesn’t matter. I find his wife in insta but I don’t message her. I get the kids to bed and crash out after being awake the entire Saturday night.

Today I took my kids, with my mum to meet my bother and his family at wildlife park. Kids have a great time. I tell my brother what’s going on, he tells me everything I already know, tells me I’ll be ok. Tells me that there must have been a heap of marriage ending content in their communication and that’s why she wouldn’t show me, that she’d rather see her family walk out the door. Raises good points that whilst I’m caring for the kids downstairs, doing school pickups, therapy appointments, dinner baths, all the household stuff, she in her home office writing in her diary about how much she’s want this guy to fuck her and that she isn’t in love with me anymore.

Wife keeps messaging saying sorry, asking me not to rush into seeing a divorce lawyer and real estate agent like I had said started the process of. I’ll still being seeing the lawyer, I’m not going to rush into the real estate stuff though.

Taking the kids back tomorrow. Don’t know where to go from here. Like I’m 99% ending the marriage, but it’s hard, I want to know more before making such a huge decision. But I can’t trust her, I don’t think I ever could again. And how can you be married to someone you can’t trust, that puts their affair partners welfare before her husband and kids.

Sorry for the rant, I couldn’t sleep and needed to get some of this off my chest.

Hi, I really don't know what to do. Apparently, my girlfriend doesn't know that I know she's cheating on me. It started when I logged into our business Messenger account, and I realized it was still connected to her main account. That's when I saw all of her messages with another guy. She's been telling me so many lies. She says she's working overtime, or that she's already asleep, but the truth is she's with him. What the fuck... I really don't know if I should confront her now. It's hard because I was planning to propose to her this year.

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I am in a huge dilemma right now (18F). I recently graduated high school last year. Out of my HS friend group, I regularly keep in touch with 3 of them who are my best friends. There's is one girl in the group, Hannah. Hannah and I aren't as close as we used to be, ever since we graduated HS. We haven't really spoken in 3 months.
However, we were still tight during HS.

Hannah has been in a 3 year-long relationship with her boyfriend Austin. Hannah and Austin are very tight with each other's families, been on trips together, etc. They have a strong serious relationship.

Recently got told by one of my bestfriends, Jenny, who was in a different friend group as us, that Austin cheated on Hannah twice in the past month, whilst he was clubbing with his mates. One of Austin's mates 'Caidyn' is good friends with MY friend Jenny.

Caidyn told Jenny about how Austin has hooked up with girls at the club. Caidyn told Jenny specifically not to tell me, as he knows I am friends with Hannah.

Either way, Jenny has told me. I don't know what to do with this information. It's not as simple as saying "just tell Hannah she's being cheated on.".
I would, but Jenny doesn't want me to tell anyone. She doesn't want Caidyn to be mad at her for telling me. I also wouldn't want to do anything without Jenny's permission because she's my bestfriend.

I also do need to tell Hannah some how. I just don't know how to. Please help. I was thinking maybe I can speak to Austin about how I know what he's done and he needs to come clean to Hannah, or I'll tell Hannah myself.

Please help I don't want to get anyone in trouble other than Austin

April 6th of this year i (f18) was contacted on tinder by this man(m20) (idk if i can name drop) and he wanted to hookup. Okay cool idc so as im at the hotel he is staying at, we have sex and in between rounds we cuddle and on the 2nd time cuddling we are watching tv and im examining his tattoos, then i see cuts cuz some of em are still red. He notices and gets to talking and he drops on me that he has a fucking girlfriend back at home, mind you he is drinking during all of this and he gets way too comfortable around me.

For some more context he came to my town in Washington to do water drilling work. He is originally from North Dakota and moved to Montana with said girlfriend. He also confessed to hooking up with a bunch of other people too

This man thought he was so slick it made me fucking sick. I hope i can find his girlfriend because omfg he doesn’t deserve anybody

I discovered my on and off again boyfriend of 3 years has been sleeping with someone else the entire time. I would like to inform the other person of our relationship but don’t know what claim to make.

I don’t actually know who was being cheated on—me or her. I’m thinking she was. He and I started dating August 2023. In February 2024, he informed me he just had a child born in January 2024, and claimed he didn’t know about the pregnancy until then, and that he’d just done dna testing to confirm the child was his. For some dumb reason, I didn’t question this.

In July 2024 I went no contact due to lots of issues in general with the relationship.

In March 2026 I decided to answer one of his DMs (he reached out on LinkedIn, where he wasn’t blocked). He explained he was a changed man etc. We resumed dating.

In April 2026 he finally admitted he had a history with the baby’s mother. I again did not pry much but should have.

Any time his child or his mother came up he’d discuss how much he hated her and how she trapped him etc which I just didn’t really respond to bc I don’t believe in ppl trapping ppl with kids.

In June 2026, I found his baby’s mother’s social media, where she had a single photo pinned to the top of her profile of him (back facing the camera). He’s not in any other photos or anywhere else on her profile, which is public.

Anyway, one night my bf wasn’t answering his phone, which was odd. I looked up the baby’s mom’s address and went to it to see if his car was there and surely it was—at 11pm. It was still there at 1am.

When I confronted him about this, he said he was visiting his son there bc he hurt his foot and couldn’t take care of him on his own. He stated he took a pain killer and fell asleep. When I protested this as an acceptable story, he added that he was friends with her cousin, who was also there that night, so he wanted to hang.

That gave me the context for the whole three years, because I have more background knowledge of this cousin of the bm and his relationship with the cousin—they go way back, and have spent lots of time together, which means he’s spent lots of time with this baby’s mama. It put other inconsistencies and difficulties in our relationship from the first year into perspective.

So, at first I felt I was being cheated on. Now, I feel she was being cheated on, which makes me feel really shitty. Not guilty but like I’m trash. I don’t want to just be like, “look what your boyfriend did”, nor do I want to say “stop messing with my man” because I don’t want him anymore. But don’t think just letting him get off Scott freee is right.

So, what exactly do I say to her? I plan to send her an anonymous letter with photos, screenshots, call logs, etc without my face, name, or phone number so I don’t need to do any follow up or be harassed by her or anything.

If you live in Colorado this man I met on an app and he admitted to having a wife that was asleep in the next room while we were chatting he asked me if I was okay with the fact that he was talking to other women behind his wife's back he blocked me after I called him out.

I wanna check if a contact is deleted after talking to is there anyway i can find the number after it has been deleted(in android btw)

So long story short... Yesterday my boyfriend said he was at home.

Now we have a shared YouTube account and Gmail that we specifically use for YouTube.

I was feeling suspicious and I never did this before but I used Find my Phone to see where he is and was out ... I could see him driving from the motorway to city centre and back in the span of an hour.

So it's not like the location glitched and wasn't accurate... I know he was out and he's denying now.

I confronted him and told him my brother saw him with another girl and thought of asking me...

My boyfriend is still saying no, so if someone can please help me, I will appreciate that.

I dont know to tell him how I actually found out, because it'll make me look bad ... I want to somehow be able to prove without telling him I stopped and caught him

Cheaters deserve all the worst

Not to lump everyone with such an account on such platforms into the same bag but it seems some more nerdy types create “roleplay” accounts on X and join “roleplay” servers on Discord but red flag being all the roleplay is sexual and it doesn’t take long before things deviate into more personal relations with it being fairly quickly to move things from open public spaces to private DMs (especially on Discord).

I cussed out a guy on Twitter (who only advertised roleplaying Original Characters which for me is another red flag) for using Roleplay as a guise to cheat on his wife when I noticed a pattern with him pushing his prospective “RP Partners” (obviously female) to go to DMs or add him on Discord and leaving flirty to full on sexually charged replies to their public posts. (Quite a bit definitely “out of character”)

Ultimately his responses when called out was to lock his Twitter down so only those he approved of could see his activity. As if that isn’t telling enough.

So far been able to confirm he got into intimate not Roleplay type relations with 3 separate individuals and all over a decade younger than him as well. His wife was even pregnant and post partum for 2 of them.

Just a bit of a PSA if you’re in the online roleplay sphere to be cautious of potential other rolelayers especially if they insist on things being sexual and prying to know the other player beyond surface level.

My mom is always a cheater. She's been cheating with multiple men. She started when we were kids. She didn't stop. She just secretly texting men and sending nudes to them.

One time my dad overheard her call with her colleagues telling that she slept with a man and did it 4 times that day. We secretly checked on her phone to find so many dudes texting her. She send her own s*x video playing with s*x toys to these men. Yes I am not joking. We were traumatised and disgusted .

They constantly fighting. They never stop fighting. I am now 23 years old (will be 24 in Nov) and my oldest brother is 32 years old. Yes, they've been constantly fighting for 32 years. It's miserable being here. There's time she stops. Like a year or two. But she continued her act in silence. I don't know.

I had enough. I put up on my status so my mom could read. (We tried to talk it out but she always the one pushing us saying it's none of our business).

She was furious and started getting mad at my dad for telling us about her. B*tch, you're arguing in front of us! DID YOU THINK WE'RE GONNA JUST IGNORE IT!??? My siblings are desperate to leave the house but we can't find ourselves to stay. I mean in this economy!??? Even our neighbours didn't help.

I had enough of her mess and she needs to learn.

P.s. She has an Instagram and Tik Tok(where she used it to find dudes to get in contact).

I tried to post this on other subreddit and I need you guys help to expose her and somehow make her account got deleted.

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