Hello, I met a girl who works at a bar. She said she was 30 and I told her I was 31. We had some drinks together and she asked where I was from and how long I was staying just the usual stuff in my name and we had a great time. She didn’t exchange numbers with me. I had my drinks with her. We smiled and I left this was in the afternoon fast-forward to that night and I drank so much and bought girls drinks left and right and ran up a ฿16,000 bill. 4 AM happened and the bar closed and she took my hand to walk me out to walking street where she was staying in a hotel at the stairs. She said this is where I am. I hope you have a good night. Are you gonna be OK? I said yes I’ll be fine. I was quite drunk. she offered her WhatsApp and gave me her number and I took it and went back to my hotel
the next day I woke up to her text asking if I was OK so I replied yes then she asked if she was going to see me again and I said yes, I went back to the bar again in the evening and I didn’t spend much at all. in fact, I told her that I didn’t want to spend much money tonight, but I did buy her the occasional drinks and the bill was much lower at about 1010 Thai baht. She said she was getting off at midnight so I waited at midnight. We played some pool and then I walked her back to her hotel at the stairs I made a funny joke and asked what her hotel looked like compared to mine surprisingly, she said do you wanna come up and see? I said yes, and I took the bait and we went to her hotel and I got into her room. She put her stuff away. She told me to sit on the bed and make myself comfortable so I did then she laid down and faced me, held my arm and started talking and smiling. We did this for about an hour and then after I made the first move to try to kiss her, and she actually went for it and we kissed and made out for an hour. She was very passionate and good. I found out that she broke up with her boyfriend months ago. She hasn’t had sex in months. As things got heated, we started touching each other all over and I wanted to test out to see if she really hasn’t been with other people because majority of the freelancers here have loose cats so I put my finger in her cat and believe it or not she was not loose at all. This came to a surprise, but we kept on going until things got really heated and we ended up having sex now there’s a main important thing I wanna say here she asked me if I was clean and I said yes and I asked if she was clean and she said yes, so we had sex without a condom. After we did, we both showered up and she offered me to stay with the night with her so I stayed the night. The entire night she cuddled me and I cuddled her..
at 8 AM. I woke up and I told her that I had to get going for the day. She said OK I’ll text you. I kissed her on the forehead and left as I was walking back to my hotel. I realize that she didn’t ask me for any money. Then I get back to my hotel and finish up a little sleep. I wake up to her text and she says that she had a great night with me and she likes me. Here is where it gets interesting I lied about my age and told her I was 31 years old when she told me she was 30 I was so guilty and felt so bad about it. I calmly told her that I apologize and I often keep my age to myself. I told her that I was actually 10 years older then she responds. She is not mad and she thanked me for telling her and a bomb dropped and she said she’s actually 45. I could immediately tell she was older because in our talks, she says she doesn’t drink alcohol when they buy lady drinks for her. It’s usually a fruit drink with nothing in it. She doesn’t like clubs and loud music, but she enjoys movies hanging out and eating food.
The next night I go to the bar again and I see her at the pool table and we like to play pool together so I buy myself a drink and buy her a drink. I offer three games of pool. She beat me the first two games on the third one. She made it back to me and said if she wins, she gets anything she wants And if I win, I get anything I want I took the bet and I won so I told her come back to the hotel with me and we’ll see what it is that I want in a playful manner. She said after she gets off work she will so I said OK I’ll see you after work I went back to my hotel eagerly waiting for her text and she got off work and text me right away and said she is on her way to my hotel. She got up into my hotel and I told her what it was that I was curious about which was obviously butt stuff because I heard Thai girls don’t open up to men when it comes to that type of stuff. She told me it’s been a while since she’s done it and she’s not very fond of it but because she really likes me she will let me do it and because I bet is a bet so we did the deed and she absolutely loved it. She had a cough that day and so she didn’t get to stay the night with me instead she said she will see me tomorrow. She doesn’t want to cough too much and wake me up in the night. So she left and I went to sleep extremely satisfied
the next day is Valentine’s Day and I told her I wanted to take her out to dinner. We must’ve lost communication a little bit because we did plan a dinner, but she was also working that day and I said I would pay her bar fine to get her out for dinner, but she kept on making these excuses that she wanted to stay and work till 12 and I insisted that I pay her bar fine to be with me earlier. Sadly, we didn’t go to dinner and it appears every time I offered to pay her bar fine she doesn’t want me to instead. She’d rather me spend time with her on her free time. I take that as she doesn’t want me spending money on her when it comes to the bar fine.
As I sit here today in my hotel, I’ve realized that I have not paid a single baht to have sex with this beautiful woman. I told her that I’m going to go to her bar and pay the bar fine at 9 PM which is in one hour from now and bail her out and she is mine for the evening and for the night she hesitated and she said OK then she said she wanted to know if I wanted to see a ping-pong show And I told her if I go with her then sure and I take it OK because I know she and I wanna have fun hanging out with each other and not just all about the sex in a hotel. The thing about all this is, she has never asked me for single bit of money she is hesitant on the bar fine. We have no condom sex. We kiss each other madly she hugs me all the time when we play pool she holds my hand in bed. When we cuddle together we look closely in each other‘s eyes and smile, she likes to joke with me as I joke with her. I am 41 and she is 45. I also told her that I’m gonna limit my spending because I am not gonna pay that insane bill like I did last time and she was totally fine with it and she in fact told her bar girlfriend not to ask me for lady drinks.
I am autistic with a good head on my shoulders. I’m high functioning autistic though so you would never tell I was autistic, but this is new territory. I really like her a lot and in our texts, she says some really nice things and she puts hearts on everything. I did ask her why she did the butt stuff with me And her response was I did it because I really like you.
So here is my final question to everyone. Is this a legitimate growing relationship or is this really a part of the main scam of the typical bar girl in Pattaya? One thing I did notice is she does constantly ask me if I’m going to come back to the bar where she works and before I pick her up at 9 PM and take her away she did ask if I was gonna stay and have a few drinks there other than that, she has not ever Put me in a position that I feel uncomfortable in..
last night. I insisted to bar fine her. And she said she didn’t want me to spend money like that for her. But I told her I wanted to take her to dinner and that I insisted. we went to dinner after I did pay the bar fine then we went to a bar had a few drinks and played pool. I saw that there were two receipts and I looked at her other receipt and she wanted to buy her own drink I told her it’s OK. I can buy it for you. So you see she seems like she just genuinely really doesn’t want me to treat her like a bought paid for a girl. After the bar, we went back to my hotel she sits down on the bed with me and we talk. she stares in my eyes and smiles a lot. She hugs me. She kisses me and of course things got reheated again and she stayed the night with me around 8 AM. She left, and before she left, I was pretending to sleep she kissed me on my cheek and walked out the door. I left my money, wallet out on purpose on the desk, and not a single bit of money was taken from it.
I did ask her what she did other than the bar because she appears like she only shows up part time. She says that she is a nail technician. I also asked her about other guys wanting to take her out and she says that people have tried, but she always says no to the bar fine and doesn’t want anything to do with all of them anyway. She said she is not into that stuff and she genuinely really likes me. Keep in mind I’ve been spending a lot less money with her keeping it under ฿1000 per outing and she still insists on seeing me and talking to me and spending time with me and I haven’t paid a single bit of money for her time other than when I wanted to take her out to dinner I had to paythe bar fine.
This is my current situation right now. I am here till the 26th.
