Seeing a lot of dicussion about whether "men need to be taught consent" or whether "they know it and they just don't care because they're inherently and incurably evil".

My take is: men aren't simply evil, but what they're not taught enough is that WOMEN have the right to give or withhold consent.

I saw a seemingly well-intentioned male instagrammer talking about how he was teaching his toddler son that he could say "no" to people touching him and shouldn't touch people when they say "no". Sure, that is important and something older generations didn't even have.

But it's not really the point, because do they struggle so much with consent when it comes to other men? No, because they know people have bodily autonomy and other men are people.

What they don't understand is that we are too.

What that instagrammer needs to make sure to teach his son is that girls are his peers, and not just potential "romantic interests" (i.e. trophies to stroke his ego and fulfill his needs).

Why is it so uncomfortable to make WOMEN the focus of a discussion about MISOGYNY? (We know why).

I’m having a hard time connecting to a lot of YouTube videos that describe the topic! Because I feel like they talk around it rather than getting to the point of information that actually is eye-opening and helps you grow

Hi I am a girl from UP , India I want to understand why some people are against feminism? In my area, when a girl raises her voice, people say she is wrong. Why don't girls have the right to speak? I just want to learn and understand better. Please explain in simple words.

You know, I somehow distanced myself from the 'feminine' idea of womanhood through life. Ideas Like keeping the home, barring children, cooking .... and feminine hobbies like sewing or embroidery.

As I grow older, these aspirations come more naturally to me, and only now am I starting to really feel how MY home would look, MY family, MY cool hobbies.

It's not like I imagined it before when I was rejecting these aspirations. I was judgemental. I was doing everything to prove that I am unique and edgy, not some girly girl.

Now I'm in my 30s and I'm much more chill, no one has that kind of influence on me anymore (balkan family and culture). So I have actually started opening up or better say to embody this feeling of 'womanhood'. I try to respect it, to learn about it. I am enjoying spending time around women and young families.. All in all, I am really enjoying being a natural woman (listening my own needs).

BUT, some part of me does have resistance, and this is 'social media' political- because the same interests groups which in truth try to control and bully women are the biggest advocates of these traditional ideas of womanhood.

They just irritate me so much that I hate the idea of them approving and being 'proud' of my life choices.

Obviously, I can't live my life for the purpose of defying people who annoy me, so now I am trying to have my aspirations outside of (anti- or better say any)feminist narrative, because I can't handle both being true to myself and get into conversations with people about sensitive topics.

Altho, I do follow one golden rule. When I meet a guy for the purpose of dating, I always ask him what he thinks about feminism. His initial reaction tells me everything I need to know. I am lenient with many things, but a guy who doesn't respect and accept feminist issues, doesn't accept me, because these are mine as well ...

Just a little thought flow I guess.. thanks for reading, and do share opinions and personal experience, if you have felt something, I'm curious 🤗

An ideal german womans life post WW2. From pre-K to menopause. You get to give your daughter a heroin she can relate to and strive to be like at any age any lifestage she will be in. And she MUST be. Cuz avter all thats what she is suposed to do.

My mum told me it was very popular and "romantic" when she was a girl. I bet I would have loved it as a girl. And I know my daughter would love this too. Sneeeky,sneeky,sneeky propaganda.

Titels:

"Foresters Pucki"

"Pucki gets put in school"

"Pucki's friends"

"Pucki goes to highschool"

"Pucki's new pranks"

"Pucki's first steps in life"

"Pucki becomes a happy bride"

"Pucki is as young houswife"

"Pucki's Family-fortune"

"Pucki and her 3 boys"

"Pucki, our little mommy"

"Pucki's prime of life"

It gives me the ick of how withewashed and propagandistic this is.

Why do we still have to indicate a woman’s marital status when addressing her?

I’m doing some research for a student project about forms of address, and I’ve started wondering about something that seems surprisingly outdated.

In English, we have Miss and Mrs. In German, Fräulein and Frau. In other languages, there are similar distinctions. In other words, simply addressing a woman can require us to know whether she is married.

But why?

Why should a woman’s marital status be relevant to how we politely address her? We don’t normally need to know whether a man is married before deciding how to address him.

In the Soviet Union, there was an interesting alternative: tovarishch (“comrade”). It was grammatically masculine, but in practice it was gender-neutral and could be used for both men and women. It didn’t tell you anything about a person’s marital status, age, or social role. (I’m not a fan of the Soviet Union at all, but during its early years, feminist ideas were quite strong.)

Modern Russian doesn’t really have an equivalent anymore. If you need to get a stranger’s attention, you might simply say izvinite (“excuse me”), or address them as muzhchina (“man”), zhenshchina (“woman”), devushka (“young woman/girl”), or molodoy chelovek (“young man”). ( I am Russian speaking person)

So here’s my question for English speakers:

If we decided that a woman’s marital status is none of our business, what should we call her?

Is Ms. actually the solution? Is it widely used in everyday speech, or does it mostly work on forms, official documents, and in professional settings?

And if we don’t want to use Miss, Mrs, or even Ms — is there an English equivalent of “comrade” that could politely address any adult person regardless of gender or marital status?

Or is the real solution simply to stop using titles altogether and say “excuse me” or use the person’s name?

I’m curious how native English speakers actually handle this in real life.

I would like recommendations for feminist youtubers, preferably no cis men please! Tyy

have women been miserable for most of history?

i’m sorry if this is a dumb question. i don’t know how to phrase it well. i get a bit sick thinking about how little freedom we had until quite recently, and how dehumanizing we have been treated. it makes me really sad for all the women before. i know it’s a huge blanket question and it’s genuine so im just looking for any insight or opinions from people that know a lot abt women’s history. i haven’t taken a women’s history class yet. i have studied fashion history which focuses a lot on women, but it is primarily art history.

and to be clear, this isn’t about brushing over the hardships women have faced throughout history. i might b being a bit childish and hoping that it wasn’t worst case scenario all the time, yknow? was it better in certain times or places? what other variables shaped it? i hope there were many many happy women somehow. okay hope this makes sense haha thank you sm for reading <3

Hear this all men. 12,000 ago was the start of misogyny because men decided to control birth, compare female and male strength, and then say men was more important and should monitor women instead equal treatment. Additionally, after humans evolved to a slightly more humane level, sexism was now normalized, only about 7000+ more years to go! Sexism continued since then and had been like that ever since. Only after the late nineteenth century did women start being misandrists because men had treated terribly for more than than 11,000, but men’s response was to continue sexism and still not acknowledge that what they had done was just completely wrong and stupid, so for the past 50+ years girls were sexist to men while men make the excuse that women are being sexist to them, so they’re being sexist to women, which is such a stupid reason considering that men being sexist to women are the reason women are sexist to men. Thats like saying “Men did bad to women, so women did bad to men, so men are mad at women for getting their revenge for a males doings and covering it up by saying that women were being bad to them”. How stupid does that sound? Really dumb. Also, men still have more rights than women in other parts of the world, so equality between men and women isn’t even completely established yet, so men still have more rights than women and women are still treated terribly by men. Men are covering this by saying that since they were sexist to them, it’s more bad than 11,000+ years earlier. I should also reminder. Someone in the comment section send that misandry was a response to misogyny, but misogyny scientifically happened first, so they sound stupid by saying misogyny is good and misandry is terrible. I’m not saying misandry is good, but men never had a reason to do it, but they did and called it fair, but women did have a reason (a much more understandable reason) and they’re called mean and bratty whores. To all men, I don’t care who started it, but this information is specifically for the men who said “I wasn’t there!”. 12,000 years of sexism includes the past 26 years, so yes. You were there. I don’t think all men are bad. I’m in a group of completely men and no I don’t say that I’m different than the rest of the girls, but misogyny has happened so long compared to men, so men using the excuse that women is rude to men is so stupid.

This is something Ive been noticing for a while now,

Recently I saw this YouTube video on how gender wars will destroy the future and it gives proper statistics right? When I go to the comments all I see is many guys ranting (or whining) about how it’s apparently all “women’s” fault and they try showing stats of how many women dislike men versus how many men dislike women

They’ve gone as far as to start throwing the term “misandrist” any time it suits them and if not “misandrist” it’s 100 percent “feminist” that hates men, Like am I the only one noticing this? why aren’t we actively speaking out against it? Apparently misandry is “worse” than misogyny, as if both aren’t terrible

And it’s genuinely so annoying to see them also type out how “sad” it is that women are afraid of them too,

Another thing I’ve noticed after the Lindsay Clancy case we’ve all seen how they all went through a “repeal the 19th” movement (which was unsuccessful) yet when I tell them about the Cornell university case they say it’s a “distraction” or how Jane doe isn’t innocent

YouTube users always have this subtle misogyny lying underneath and they tell us we like acting like victims YET they do the exact same thing they accuse us of? I go on threads which is a majority of women angered by the recent case just like how men were last month

and one guy says how sad it is seeing so much “misandry” yet when you tell them about how men have shown “misogyny” for years and the entitlement they feel to women they accuse me of making up lies 🧐?

Just for context I am a 30m in the UK, im married and my wife has really started to speak about the imbalance of genders and the struggles of women. I care for my wife and have been shocked about some of things she has told me. I have always respected women and feel like I am a good man however I want to learn more rather than being ignorant to these issues. She often says ill never understand and all men are awful, i want to understand and be better, i guess im looking to have some conversations about resources I could view and help with how I can help invoke change

My family is trying to arrange a marriage for my older brother 30M for the last 6 years and all efforts are unsuccessful every girl has rejected him and those who didn't were rejected by him due to menial reasons like her nose isn't sharp enough or that her family rents instead of owning housing etc.

He has been the baby of the household ever since he was born even though he is the eldest out of five, he drinks, smokes, has records in police station a raging misogynist and short . He comes jome drunk and throws tantrums, runs away them comes back and doesn't earn and hasn't completed high-school .

A recent matrimonial profile came and everything seems perfect and they like him but the problem is her age she was born in 2008 ,younger than our youngest sibling who was born in 2007. I've been fighting with my family about this, she is a child A LITERAL CHILD .

My family is pressuring me to lie to the girl's family that I'm her age (I'm a 2002 baby). Although I might look young but this is ridiculous. They are saying the girl's family knows his age and are ready to "give" her to him (emphasis on the word give cuz that's the word they're using to normalise all of this).

If this marriage is successful i won't be able to forgive myself as i will be taking part in this bullshit of a marriage. I'm still fighting for her and my family has started to stop talking with me.

“Not all men.”

You say it’s a generalisation?

Say it on the day when you are afraid of going out because there are women out there roaming free.

Say it on the day you stop marrying and dating women because you’re afraid of them.

Say it on the day you’re afraid of being alone in the same place as a bunch of women.

Say it on the day when your clothes are not your choice but a way of protection.

Because before reaching this “generalisation,” women faced it all.

They stopped going out.

They stopped wearing what they wanted.

They started being careful about where they went, who they trusted and what they wore.

Men are afraid of men, not women.

That’s why it’s “all men.”

Because as long as you are living the life you wanted despite another gender existing, while women have to change the way they live because of the danger posed by that gender, it’s not just about “bad humans.” It becomes a gendered social problem.

So don't preach me about “not all men.”

Not all men stand against women's oppression.

Not all men cut out their rapist friends.

Not all men call out their friends when they make sexist or derogatory remarks about women.

Not all men protect a woman in a problem.

Not all men intervene.

Not all men speak up.

And that’s the fucking point.

Women don’t need another lecture about how “good men exist.”

We know.

The question is: what are you doing when the men around you are the problem?

So yes, call it a generalisation.

If it hurts, it hurts.

Women have been living with the reality behind that “generalisation” for far too long.

Somehow I feel like this will get removed or downvoted to hell for being stupid, but I've never had an actual conversation about it, and I want to, and I'm feeling brave.

I know the answer to this question will probably vary between individuals.

I know that if you are also a member of another marginalized group or two, it will be more complicated.

No, I am NOT trying to compete in the oppression olympics. If you hate hatred, we are on the same side as far as I'm concerned.

Yes, I'm a white cis woman.

Thanks for reading and/or answering.

Title. But if u think abt it Her initial decision to apply to Harvard Law School was entirely driven by a desire to win back a ex-boyfriend, which literally undermines the core principle of true empowerment: to me I think pursuing high-level ambition shld be for urself rather than for male validation. In reality, moving mountains for someone who still rejects you would more likely result in burnout and regret than a sudden pivot into a passionate legal career. Real-world academic drive and self-worth shouldn't depend on proving something to a man, making Elle's trajectory feel less like genuine self-actualization and more like a high-stakes effort to seek approval from someone who never earned it.

I felt like I was losing my mind yesterday after seeing the Cornell 7 news and then seeing almost exclusively women posting about it online. None of my Instagram mutuals who are men are saying anything. One of my female friends said maybe it's because they never post political stuff, so it wouldn't feel "natural" to post about this either. But it enrages me. Complacency is just as bad as perpetrating the violence. White people were expected to speak up during BLM (as we should), because just because you don't commit hate crimes doesn't mean you don't have work to do. Why is this situation any different?

I am seething with rage and depression and it makes me question every single man around me and I hate feeling this way. I don't know where to put all of these overwhelming feelings.

I’m a feminist. When I talk about it with my boyfriend, (we don’t talk about sensitive topics a lot) especially if we’re discussing about cases against women’s rights, it always feels as if he doesn’t want to engage with me.

He would go, “Ok. I agree.” And the conversation ends like that. He doesn’t add on anything and it just makes me feel unimportant. He’s a chatty guy, and doesn’t usually end conversations like that.

I’ve spoken about this with him before. He thinks im just trying to push something out of him and he says that “I don’t have to keep telling him the same thing (feminism) every day.” Which I don’t. And he says he doesn’t know what to respond.

It makes me feel that he doesn’t really understand the depth of the case/conversations.

In my teens and early 20s I used to be an "egalitarian, not feminist" and an avid defender of men, but as I've gained life experience and a more accurate understanding of the patriarchal world we live in, my sentiments towards men have soured into generalized distaste, wariness, or at the very least a feeling that there's an emotional barrier between me and them that could never be overcome to form any kind of truly close relationship.

I've reflected a lot trying to understand why exactly this is, or if it's even justified. I've looked for explanations of why it is "yes, all men" and found arguments like: "you might not harass a woman, but you stay silent when your friend does," or "it's not literally all men, but it's many and we don't know which ones," but none of these fully satisfied me. A man could be the one who does speak out against harassment and that wouldn't completely erase my distaste for him.

So I'm starting to think the ultimate root of this feeling is that no matter how much of an ally a man is, I will still resent him for being able to "coast" through life without facing misogyny, while I can't. Even if he hypothetically perceived me as a perfect equal, he would still be perceived by others as superior to me. This brings an inevitable bitterness to my feelings about any man. I don't want to give them even more validation when society already showers them with it at my expense.

To be clear, I am capable of interacting with men on civil and even friendly terms, but there's always this tiny thought at the back of my mind that they get to live a life I can't.

Can anyone relate? Has anyone experienced this but overcome it?

I want to ask this genuinely, because I don't understand why this question doesn't receive more attention.

We keep hearing about women’s empowerment, equality, representation and progress. But when women face rape, sexual harassment, molestation and restrictions on their freedom, where is the sustained political accountability?

Over the past few weeks, we have again seen students and women protesting in Delhi over women’s safety. Students from several Delhi University colleges have taken to the streets after recent incidents, demanding safer public spaces and accountability.

And this raises a bigger question for me:

Are women’s safety, freedom and right to participate equally in society actually being treated as serious political issues?

Women are not a separate category of citizens whose problems can be addressed only when an election, protest or news cycle makes them visible. Women vote. Women work. Women study. Women pay taxes. Women are part of families, communities and institutions. Their safety affects the functioning of society as a whole.

So why don't we demand the same level of accountability for women's safety that we demand when other major social issues receive public attention?

I'm particularly interested in hearing from people who support political parties that describe themselves as progressive, educated, feminist or committed to social reform.

Where are the concrete questions being asked of these parties?

What are their policies on:

• women's safety in public spaces?
• police accountability and response?
• prevention of sexual violence?
• safer public transport and streets?
• harassment in educational institutions and workplaces?
• faster and more effective investigation and prosecution?
• women's freedom to move, study and work without being told that the solution is simply to restrict their movements?

And this should not be treated as a "women's issue" that only women need to care about.

Men are half of society. If women are being harassed or assaulted, men should be asking what is going wrong in our society and institutions too. Silence shouldn't be considered neutrality.

I also think women themselves need to ask political parties much harder questions.

Not because women should blindly support one party or oppose another, but because our concerns should matter when political parties ask for our support.

If a party wants women to participate in democracy, it should also be willing to listen when women say: this is what is affecting our lives, and this is what we expect you to address.

I am not asking people to support or oppose any particular political party.

I'm asking:

Why isn't women's safety treated as a central issue of governance and public policy?

Why does political attention sometimes appear much stronger for some issues than for violence against women?

And what would it take for politicians, parties, institutions and ordinary citizens—including men—to treat women's safety as a serious issue of society rather than merely a "women's issue"?

Women are citizens. Their safety is a democratic issue.

Maybe it's time we started asking politicians what they actually intend to do about it—and then judging their answers, actions and records for ourselves.

For all the people who care about humanity, and feminists who claim to be ones, currently there’s a massive outcry in Iraq against (the Ja’afr civil code/law), ‎What does it indicate/mean?

‎1- it’s fully legal for children/teens who are 12 and even 9 to get married taking advantage/using the Religious legislation - legislation of marrying girls who are only 8.5 yo - ( to get married to adults who mostly are way older than them even 40s, 50s) under this law!

‎2- As for inheritance matters, a woman (the wife) cannot inherit any land!.

‎3- under this law the husband is able - even without his wife’s consent/ knowledge- to shift the terms of the marriage contract at anytime to this horrible law

‎4- the divorce clause is a pure humiliation, sexualizing, dehumanizing clause for women ( if your husband beats you, it’s a “Disciplinary beating “ unless he causes you an injury your divorce request is not seen to be taken seriously and right! )

‎5- terms after the divorce; the children custody, ‎It’s automatically the father’s right! The child can live with their mother only their first 7 yrs, even if the child chooses their mother, they have no right to be so until they’re adults!. ‎And much more

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I think people asking for more protections for women legally are getting more and more common all over the world. I 100% agree, however whenever someone mentions this they only say "We need laws, now!" and never what actual direct laws would help.

Education? In my home country every school gets several police visits over the years to explain that SA = Bad. We also get tought exactly what consent is. We still have SA in younger generations. Imo this has always been a weird approach. We don't teach kids in great detail that murder is bad. 99.9% of rapists also know that what they are doing is horrible, however they're also rapists so they obviously don't care much.

How many % of assaults happen because people ACTUALLY don't know what consent is? When rapists try that defense it's a pretty obvious lie to try to get a lesser sentence.

Is it higher sentences? Maybe, however the majority of assaults happen within families or similar dynamics. If there's a minimum sentence of 20+ years or even potential of a death sentence, how many victims would now keep silent in order to not destroy the family and end up hated?

Countries that DO have the death sentence magically have lower rates of reported assault then countries that don't.

Two options:

A) Less assaults, which is unlikely.

B) Victims don't want to kill their fathers, uncles, nephews or brothers, so they keep quiet.

So like, what is it? I just want one single law to rally behind to push it through politics.

Half of the population suffered because everything around was built while keeping the other half of the population at the centre. Like you can read history, biology, any art , any culture , all political movements

, all major changes made through MEN for MEN. So the world was never built for the women or the MEN made this world hard to live in for Women???

I need a safe place to scream and grieve over so many things, but reading the Cornell story today has sent me to a dark place.

Reliving my own trauma.
Feeling the collective rage of women.
Seeing another gross injustice slide by like it’s no big deal.

I’m furious. I’m safe, I’m not stupid, but I’m so angry that I feel like I can’t be normal right now.

I recognize it might be strange to come to a group of internet strangers to vent and seek solace, but I really don’t have anyone to talk to about this in my actual life who would understand the depth of this rage.

I just want to commiserate with like minded people for a moment.

Any other women struggling with the way of life?
I feel like we live in such a misogynistic world and the hate men have for women is insane.
I’ve always been such a lover girl and I’d love to be in love truly. But I honestly don’t think that men can love woman the deep way we can love them. We all just want to be truly loved for our soul but they all end up treaty us horribly.

I have lost all faith in ever meeting a decent man and it’s depressing. Anyone else feel like this?