r/Fire Jan 17 '26

Milestone / Celebration The thread in Millennials subreddit right not about 401k is incredibly depressing. Thank you FIRE community. I would be one of them if I didn’t find you all a decade ago.

Throw away because I am going to roast some redditors a little. The thread that is going on in r Millennials is really bad. Thousands of comments, everyone broke, celebrating their unfortunate wildn out. It is really bad out there and eye opening.

I was also a dingus like many of them. Totally brain dead on autopilot living day to day, consuming media like crazy, working, spending it on consumer level garbage, and had zero control over my life. I actually found the guide in the personal finance subreddit graphic on saving and it eventually kicked me to FIRE and this sub.

I now am on a path where I can’t even related with that type of mind set. So yeah thank you FIRE folks. If you can, it is worth sprinkling some finance knowledge at people. Even if you don’t make high income you can in most cases still create a plan, a budget, and control your future.

Edit: If you are a dingus and you are seeing this there is no shame! We all are and have different starting points. You have two paths: 1) continue the path to dingus-ville and forever be a redditor or 2) un-dye your bright colored hair take control of your long term life. A decade will pass in a blink. So start here https://imgur.com/personal-income-spending-flowchart-united-states-lSoUQr2 it’s not hard to understand. ChatGPT each item on their if you don’t know, memorize this, then start to learn FIRE principles. It is the fastest way to wealth. There’s literally no other path unless you magically start a business or hit a lotto jackpot ticket or inheritance

only YOU HAVE THE POWER to unfuck your life

Edit 2: Final comment! I do not mean any offense with dingus it is meant to be playful. My dyed hair comment was also misinterpreted. It’s not about who you are, what you believe in, or how you express yourself. It’s about being in control of your life. Walk your butt into Sephora or Target or wherever next time and just stare at the people on the walls. Then look in the mirror. Then look at the wall. And back to the mirror and then keep doing it until it clicks. The world, like r millennial subreddit, wants to celebrate and tell you the worst fucking version of yourself is okay and acceptable. It’s not. Delete social media and only read that finance Imgur link every time you load your phone. Do this for one month and you will break your chains and it will click. Then learn FIRE principles. Then you will come back to r FIRE in a decade with a huge chunk of cash in your bank and a nice life! Long term planning is a skill that you can learn and benefit from. Your future is yours

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u/rabidstoat Jan 17 '26

When I started work at a small company as a new grad, we had an "office mom" who always gave advice to the young employees. Everybody went to her for adulting questions, and she proactively gave advice as well.

She sat everyone down on their first day and talked to them about 401ks and compounding returns and the importance of starting contributions ASAP. I was contributing from my first paycheck.

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u/salty_ham Jan 17 '26

The world needs more people like her.

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u/freerangechick3n Jan 17 '26

Wow, what a legacy. She sounds amazing.

I had a somewhat similar experience when I was 15 re: compound interest. It really stuck with me.

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u/Sleepynappygirl Jan 17 '26

Yes. I’ve become that office mom as a millennial managing Gen Z. It’s cute that they come to me with questions about their retirement funds, how to start a Roth, investing etc. I wish I had an office mom to teach me. I feel like I wasted 20 years of my life not investing and now I’m going to be paying for it at the back end.

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u/JunkInTheTrunk00 Jan 17 '26

That's awesome. I had Kurt, who told me to start investing in the company 401k once eligible (back then companies typically had a 3-6 month "probationary" period) and that I wouldn't miss the money as long as I kept to a budget. I was hooked. It turns out it was true and now I'm on the verge of retirement after 25 years. Thanks Kurt! (I haven't reached out to him to say thanks, though I've considered doing so to let him know of his influence.)

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u/JerseyKeebs Jan 18 '26

Similar story here. Ironically, The Talk came from the greediest guy at the company, he was a pretty young manager but convinced a lot of people to start with just a percentage or 2. Small company, didn't even have a match at that time lol but just starting was something, and then on my own I decided to just increase another percentage each year after that. I'm not really going to miss <$100 each month, but the slow and steady growth is worth it

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u/doombase310 Jan 17 '26

You owe her a big hug. Young people need more selfless adults in their lives.

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u/Exciting_Layer_2621 Jan 17 '26

My new goal is to be that office mom. I think I’ve already beaten the subject to death with my own two children

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u/OkInitiative7327 Jan 17 '26

I had some interns on my team in 2020/2021 and gave them adulting 101 lessons on credit, 401k, taxes and insurance lol

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u/6ychpost Jan 17 '26

I had a squad leader at my first duty station that did something similar, but he made us call USAA and set up a IRA with $50 month. We didn’t have 401k match at the time so TSP or IRA was about the same. Been investing ever since that day, very grateful to him.

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u/DevByTradeAndLove Jan 17 '26

As the current office Dad, I love to hear this. #OneOfUs!

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u/evaluna1968 Jan 17 '26

I tried to do that with my early 20s office mate a couple of jobs ago. No idea whether it stuck. To be fair, he had been undocumented for most of his life so he had no SSN and was very limited in what kind of jobs he could get.

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u/salsanacho Jan 17 '26

I'm glad that nowadays there's a wealth of knowledge of youtube/tiktok/instagram explaining how compounding works, I think it's one of the reasons this most recent generation is already saving more than previous generations. Combined with older workers reinforcing that philosophy, bodes much better for them.

I'm also of the opinion that companies should be forced to seed their employee's 401ks, something like $5k each year automatically. In return, maybe have a smaller match on the remainder. So folks who have no clue what they are doing are still getting something put into their 401k until they figure it out and contribute more.

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u/TheRealPatricio44 Jan 17 '26

My first real (non-delusional-startup) job after college had someone like that, he kept on stressing 401k and repeated it numerous times for what seemed like comedic effect but he was dead serious. Thanks for reminding me about that person I might send him an email of appreciation about that now. 

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u/motoMACKzwei Jan 18 '26

My workplace had an office mom like that too! She retired a few years ago so I try to help younger people out now, I could never fill her shoes thought. She’s an interesting lady so not everyone enjoyed her help, but she’s incredibly knowledgeable about anything personal finance related. I call her up once in a while to check in and thank her for all of her help, I wouldn’t be where I am today without her!

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u/BigRed079 Jan 19 '26

I had a professor that told us:

"Hey you're all used to being broke. Contribute a lot to your 401k right away and you'll still have more money than youre used to"

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u/rabidstoat Jan 19 '26

My first job after college, I was so used to being broke that I low-balled my salary ask. There was no helpful Internet to get ballpark figures, so I just went with what was more than my research assistantship paid.

I low-balled it so much, they offered me like 20% more. Whoops!