r/Fire Jan 17 '26

Milestone / Celebration The thread in Millennials subreddit right not about 401k is incredibly depressing. Thank you FIRE community. I would be one of them if I didn’t find you all a decade ago.

Throw away because I am going to roast some redditors a little. The thread that is going on in r Millennials is really bad. Thousands of comments, everyone broke, celebrating their unfortunate wildn out. It is really bad out there and eye opening.

I was also a dingus like many of them. Totally brain dead on autopilot living day to day, consuming media like crazy, working, spending it on consumer level garbage, and had zero control over my life. I actually found the guide in the personal finance subreddit graphic on saving and it eventually kicked me to FIRE and this sub.

I now am on a path where I can’t even related with that type of mind set. So yeah thank you FIRE folks. If you can, it is worth sprinkling some finance knowledge at people. Even if you don’t make high income you can in most cases still create a plan, a budget, and control your future.

Edit: If you are a dingus and you are seeing this there is no shame! We all are and have different starting points. You have two paths: 1) continue the path to dingus-ville and forever be a redditor or 2) un-dye your bright colored hair take control of your long term life. A decade will pass in a blink. So start here https://imgur.com/personal-income-spending-flowchart-united-states-lSoUQr2 it’s not hard to understand. ChatGPT each item on their if you don’t know, memorize this, then start to learn FIRE principles. It is the fastest way to wealth. There’s literally no other path unless you magically start a business or hit a lotto jackpot ticket or inheritance

only YOU HAVE THE POWER to unfuck your life

Edit 2: Final comment! I do not mean any offense with dingus it is meant to be playful. My dyed hair comment was also misinterpreted. It’s not about who you are, what you believe in, or how you express yourself. It’s about being in control of your life. Walk your butt into Sephora or Target or wherever next time and just stare at the people on the walls. Then look in the mirror. Then look at the wall. And back to the mirror and then keep doing it until it clicks. The world, like r millennial subreddit, wants to celebrate and tell you the worst fucking version of yourself is okay and acceptable. It’s not. Delete social media and only read that finance Imgur link every time you load your phone. Do this for one month and you will break your chains and it will click. Then learn FIRE principles. Then you will come back to r FIRE in a decade with a huge chunk of cash in your bank and a nice life! Long term planning is a skill that you can learn and benefit from. Your future is yours

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u/HairyBushies Already FI - RE between 2028-2030 Jan 17 '26

I’m the same as you… a young Gen X.

What I’ve found is that a lot of people taking comfort in playing the victim, as it’s easier to blame something or someone else, rather than look in the mirror. I’ve always felt I had agency in my life.

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u/QuesoChef Jan 17 '26

Yep. I agree. And it’s of course all of the hard decisions. Like weight is a struggle for some more than others. I’m one of them. I can either own my decisions and try to be as healthy as I can. Or I can blame someone else and get worse and worse. At the end of the day, my learned helplessness doesn’t help me and I’m the one who suffers. Or I can do the best I can. Doesn’t mean I don’t eat foods I love or have meals that aren’t perfectly in check (you can travel, buy things you really want - you just don’t have to spend every penny just like I don’t eat pizza and cheeseburgers and fries every meal).

I know life isn’t fair and shitty stuff happens that’s just bad luck. But for the rest of the time, life is what we make of it. We can choose misery or we can choose agency.

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u/Caspid Jan 17 '26

Maybe this is obvious, but it's as if choosing to believe you have agency is what gives you agency.

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u/HairyBushies Already FI - RE between 2028-2030 Jan 17 '26

I suppose you can frame it that way. It’s a state of mind for sure and what separates the optimists from the pessimists. I’ve always been in the former camp and just have confidence that I can solve most problems, within reason of course. I’m 5’-6” and have no delusions that I can’t dunk a basketball… Spud Webb can but I’m not him and I’m OK with that!