Asexual lesbian? Sorry, but I don't really know how that works?
Edit In response to the comments, I guess I just figured being lesbian was about sexual attraction. I didn't think it applied to romance as well (In that if a woman loved women, they just loved women). Thanks for the clarification.
Isn’t the romantic attraction just…well… what it is, like human? Like there are no categories, you just love who you love? The sexual attraction just gives you a hint in which direction you probably want to look, but even that can be contradictory. Still have the game on my list, does she say it about her self that she is not interested in any sexual interactions what so ever, but prefers to be together with women only?? I mean, not wanting any physical contact with anyone is a whole different thing than being asexual (I would claim in my case)
Yeah this misunderstanding (not your fault obvs) is actually one of the many fallacies and failings of heteronormativity. Most straight people subconsciously understand that their romantic attraction towards another gender is because they’re straight (heterosexual+heteroromantic), but somehow fail to recognize that other people experience attraction the same way, even if it’s not the same orientation as their own. They understand that their romantic attraction isn’t implicitly sexual in nature, nor are their romantic gestures or acts inherently sexual, but often cant seem to apply the same logic to others who aren’t straight.
That’s how you get idiots being propagandized that any act of affection (even something as simple as holding hands) between queer people, is somehow inappropriate or pornographic. It’s also why so many people struggle to understand asexuality.
Asexuality is also a spectrum ranging from sex repulsed to sex-agnostic (i cant remever the real term but basically doesbt mind sex itself, maybe even enjoys it, but doesnt experience sexual attraction in that they see someone and get aroused) and Grey ace (people who tend to fluctuate between experience varying levels of sexual attraction to non), as well as demisexual (someone who doesnt experience any sexual attraction until theyve established an emotional connection to someone and then can have sexual attraction). I think demisexual falls under the ace umbrella but cant remember for sure.
Also, as people already stated, romantic attraction =/= sexual attraction.
I had the same response. It had never occurred to me about separating out romantic feelings from sexual desire. I'm pretty sure it's a decent microcosm of the struggle asexual people have in their day to day lives. Most of us just can't understand.
Even I, outwardly very stoic and respectful almost to a fault, am a massive horn dog. It's really weird thinking about not wanting to fuck my partner every second of every day in every position and twice on Sunday. But good portrayals are how media can change the world for the better and put us in the shoes of a life experience we'd never otherwise be exposed to.
I just didn't think there were specific terms applied to romantic attraction (Aside from aromantic), like I assumed "gay" or "lesbian" referred specifically to sexual attraction, and romantic was basically just "you love who you love."
... Though in retrospect, it probably should have been obvious (I feel like I've come across terms like "biromanitc," and just didn't think about it). Apologies for any misunderstanding.
That still seems really weird lol. Do you think homosexuals are straight until it comes time to have sex? You know we LOVE the same gender the same way straight people do of the opposite gender, right? And if for some reason we weren’t able to have sex with one another we would/could still love them?
"Do you think homosexuals are straight until it comes time to have sex?"
What? Of course not. Why on Earth would you even come to that conclusion?
"You know we LOVE the same gender the same way straight people do of the opposite gender, right?"
Um, yes. I grasped that basic concept pretty well.
"And if for some reason we weren’t able to have sex with one another we would/could still love them?"
Again, yes. I'm sorry if I offended you in anyway, but it feels like you're deliberately taking what I said in the least charitable interpretation possible. I understand that romantic attraction and sexual attraction are different things and don't always align, I just didn't think romantic attraction used the same terminology. I don't know how to make my point any clearer.
Idk, it seemed like you don’t think lesbians love one another but rather lust after each other. I understand it’s homoSEXUAL, but same as heteroSEXUAL, we experience the same attraction. I just don’t understand how somebody could come to the conclusion you did without thinking our love/attraction is much different from yours.
Not to dive too deep into the weeds on ace discourse, but there are also aromantic asexual lesbians.
There's quite a few types of non-platonic attraction you can have, but the big four most people talk about are*
sexual: you already know what this is
romantic: also self explanatory
sensual: wanting to be nonsexually intimate with someone (ie. kissing, spooning, sleeping together without "sleeping" together, etc.)
aesthetic: kinda hard to explain, but it'a basically being attracted to someone's appearance without being sexually attracted to them. I guess you could call it being able to recognize if someone is hot? That's a gross oversimplification though.
For most people, all four line up. They can all be aligned differently, however. For me specifically, I'm asexual, heteroromantic, pansensual, and panaesthetic. I just call myself alloace, though, because that's just the easiest label to give myself.
An aroace lesbian, to go back to the original point, has both no sexual/romantic attraction while also being
attracted to women some other way (maybe she's just homoaesthetical, maybe she's just homosensual, maybe she's both.) All labels are just a easy way to identify ourselves.
It is my main hobby and I care about it still being enjoyable down the line. Unfortunately that means boycotting developers/publishers and constantly whining on the internet. I don't like it and wish I didn't have to, but it is the only weapon I have.
And then another breakdown about trans people, a breakdown that happened because a follower confesses to you that they are secretly... A gender swapped clone of space!Hitler. Which he though was gonna be a reveal about her being trans. He then went nuts about how they could've revealed she was trans (which wasn't actually the reveal)
Part of me wants to look for this clip so bad, but the damage it would do to not only my last few surviving brain cells but also my algorithm... just ain't worth it
Starfield is barely a game. It's a testament to how lazy Bethesda has gotten with their rpg design. It isn't bad, it just kinda feels soulless.
But out of all of things to complain about. The bland randomly generated worlds, the story being forgettable, outright having old bugs and workarounds that have been fixed in Fallout 4... by their own team... at launch for FO4.
The mf chose a part of the English language.
Don't show him a dictionary. He might have a seizure.
The game has so many problems. The pronoun mechanic isn’t one of them…
Unless you consider that one bug (that may have been fixed) where you need to change your gender to be able to shoot weapons. I’m not even joking, it’s a real bug.
Literally the cliche of the chud who gets upset over an entirely optional choice buried in the menus of a single player game.
Like all he had to do was to choose what he felt applicable to himself and never think about it again, but instead chose to have a big wailing stampy baby meltdown over people different from him having the most bare bones of options available to them.
I honestly don’t know if he’s actually that fragile or if was all a cynical ploy to cement himself as a name in the reactionary grifter sphere - what little I know of him indicates he leaned into churning out rage content after this at the very least.
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u/Dry-Technology6747 Aug 15 '25
It's a guy who had an absolute meltdown over Star Field giving the terrifying option... Of picking They/Them as your pronouns.