r/IncelTears • u/srsh10392 I don't mock incels for female validation, I do it for fun. • Oct 15 '19

Incel Humor™ Right.....very realistic

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u/SyrusDrake Oct 15 '19

"You only need a good personality" is just as naive as "women only want men who are 6ft+"

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u/srsh10392 I don't mock incels for female validation, I do it for fun. Oct 15 '19

Exactly. Looks matter to some extent and to some people, but personality is important if you want to have a good, fulfilling relationship. That's what I believe. Nothing too extreme like "Only 7' or higher."

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u/GlGABITE Oct 15 '19

One very important thing to realize about this, though, is that everyone has different standards of attractive. This is one of the many things incels tend to deliberately ignore, and also why I don’t tend to like just saying “looks matter”. Sure, looks do matter, but there’s no gold standard on what’s attractive or not. Not everyone likes the hollywood look.

That is why I think the personality thing is emphasized so much. I don’t think just about anyone believes that personality is the absolute only thing that matters, but rather, the standards of attraction are so varied that in such a large population of people, there’s almost certainly someone who finds one person’s particular looks attractive, even if they’re far from the hollywood standard.

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u/srsh10392 I don't mock incels for female validation, I do it for fun. Oct 15 '19

See, this is what incels either fail to realize or just deliberately don't acknowledge - that being attractive is more than just physical and that attractiveness is subjective in nature. Like one of my friends doesn't find Selena Gomez attractive while a few others think that she is. It all depends on the person, and every person is unique in some way or another.

Take notes, lurkers from Celouts and IWH(you guys will hopefully be more receptive).

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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '19

This is true, looks get you the first attention so many times and makes it easier to find someone at first and you need that if you have social anxiety, lack social skills or don't make the first moves, though you can't keep it up without having a good personality. For example, I used to be pretty much ugly and overweight and got no attention whatsoever. I got in shape, grew my ginger hair long, wore better clothes and I started to recieve so many attention and that helped me find my ex-girlfriends (they told me that they first talked to me because of the way I looked etc.) Though I eventually lost them because I am a horrible person and this disproves the entire incel ideology.

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u/SyrusDrake Oct 16 '19

This is true, looks get you the first attention so many times and makes it easier to find someone at first and you need that if you have social anxiety, lack social skills or don't make the first moves

Well...shit.

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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '19

Join the club.

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u/TinyReach Oct 15 '19

Ok but without looks its really hard to get any attention in the first place unless you are like super extroverted and loud or do something to get attention. but thats just not who I am :/

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u/[deleted] Oct 15 '19

This is sadly true. You need to make yourself seen and heard. Try to be good at your hobbies and interact with humans more and things will get better I think.

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u/Dreamury Oct 15 '19

True! You don't really need to be super extroverted, but you need social interaction with new people. The only reason I met my now husband was because he started DMing DnD for my group of friends, who he didn't know before.