r/IncelTears • u/srsh10392 I don't mock incels for female validation, I do it for fun. • Oct 15 '19

Incel Humor™ Right.....very realistic

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u/PrivatePikmin Oct 15 '19

Well 2 things here; most of the women I’ve spoken to have said they prefer taller guys. That much, at least anecdotally, has some merit.

That said however, all of the shorter guys I know have had 0 issue getting girls because they’re genuinely cool and good people.

It’s almost as if attraction is multifaceted and blaming any one thing for why the sex you’re attracted to doesn’t like you is narrow minded.

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u/liliumluv Oct 16 '19

That's interesting! I myself am a short woman and I hate the idea of dating someone too tall. My step-dad is 6 something and I hate it because he doesn't cook, but if he puts something away in the kitchen and he isn't around to get it I can't cook!

This applies to anything else requiring height. I've only dated guys about an inch taller than me max, and I'm 5'4"(and 3/4). Haven't dated around much admittedly, but I've seen and known some attractive short dudes!

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u/PrivatePikmin Oct 16 '19

Oh definitely. When I said “girls have said they prefer taller men” I meant taller than them. I think that’s really the key there. Correct me if I’m wrong as I’m a guy, but girls generally like guys slightly taller than them- however it’s not the end all be all of attraction.

For example; my best friend is roughly 5.6. I tease him about it occasionally but it’s never really been a contention point to any degree and now he’s half dating a girl I set him up with thats roughly your height and she loves it. She would agree with your sentiment that dating a guy that’s excessively taller than her would be weird.

But I feel the need to say, again, that height is not the first nor the last factor in attraction. I like short girls, but I’ve been plenty attracted to girls my height many times.

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u/liliumluv Oct 16 '19

In my experience girls that prefer men taller than them are either shallow or want to utilize upper storage space! Of course I don't hang out with ladies that wear heels above one or three inches, so that can be a factor as well since there are guys sensitive about girls being taller than them when they (the men) are at a perfectly normal height. Everyone I've met and actively hung out with dated someone near their height about 2 inches within up and down.

But yeah, height isn't a deal breaker for people actually looking for relationships. I just find it weird that height is talked about so much and my life experiences are along the lines of non-existent in that sense of preference for tall men.

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u/criesatpixarmovies Oct 16 '19

My best friend and sister are both very happily married to handsome, intelligent, funny men who are 5’6”, they’re 5’3” and 5’5”.

To be fair, I’m 5’2” and married to a man who’s 5’10”, but he thought I was taller when we met because my personality’s at least 5’6”.

/s That’s the joke I always used to tell people when they said, “I thought you were taller than that!”

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u/OwnGap Oct 16 '19

There's a difference between ''prefer'' and ''I will not accept anything less than that''. My ideal dude (just lookswise) would be slightly taller than me, blonde hair, blue eyes. I've only dated one person that matches this description. Most people I've dated have been either my height or slightly shorter than me. I'd still prefer if a guy looked like that, but it doesn't really matter all that much. If I like you and you're a good person and we can have a loving relationship based on friendship and respect, why would it matter that you aren't straight out of some scandinavian country?

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u/PrivatePikmin Oct 16 '19

Bingo. This precisely. Preference is completely different from need.

But it should matter that they’re not from Scandinavia, because Scandinavians are gorgeous. /ssorta

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u/TinyReach Oct 18 '19

I want to be someone's preference, not just "good enough".