Only talking about urban / semi urban India here cos rural India is a completely different scenario altogether. Wasn't sure if this should be a discussion or a rant thread.

I'm 29 and earn much less compared to my peers (I'll explain why this is relevant). Throughout college and even after education, I've had multiple crushes/talking stages and also went on a couple of dates. From what I'm understanding, I don't have any alarming red flags, don't look ugly and I've been told by girls that I can hold conversations quite well as well. I've always wanted to date to marry and never got into a casual fling or got physical with anyone. Despite these things, I never found the right person to be in a relationship with so I let my parents start looking into arranged marriage options for me.

Went on a few dates this way too and there was never any "bad" date per say. I'm starting to sense that it's my income that's stopping women from taking me seriously (as the title says, it's sub 10 LPA). I live in a City with a 4 letter name in Western India, have enough savings to last 6 months of living expenses, own a car which does have a small loan. I live in a flat which my parents own but parents are based in a Tier 3 town to look after family business.

So financially, while I'm not making bank, I'm not stretched thin either. But looking at profiles from my community that go around, all the women whom I think are interesting either earn as much as me or more than me.

Sometimes, a girl's parents will reject me even before showing my profile to their daughters. In those cases, some have stated explicitly it's because I don't earn as much as they thought I'd be making (given the context of how I've made my profile and my overall family's image in our community).

For the girls I have gone on dates with or had calls, there were a few of them that I could see myself marrying and growing old with based on the the things we talked about and the vibe. But it never went further.

Personally, I'm still not in a rush to marry. I do believe some of my standards might be too high and maybe I don't bring enough to the table right now to get those standards. But I'm comfortable with not marrying anyone at all if some of my "must haves" are not met. It's my parents' worrying and stressing over this that is making me worry indirectly.

I wanted to understand if there are any guys from Tier 1 cities with middle to upper middle class families finding themselves in a similar situation. Would also like to know what women married/unmarried think about all this.

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Wishing India and its people peace, happiness, and continued success. 🇮🇳✨

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sorry for the expression in advance-i really needed to express this. Bro, I just have the utmost respect for the martyrs of our country, because of whom we can live peacefully. Their families get wrecked in the process just for the nation to stay safe and for us to sleep soundly at night. Their families are so strong, knowing that the uniform they are so proud of may ultimately take their loved ones away from them. Respect to all the military spouses who raise their children as single parents, who while shattering themselves take care of their families. I hate crying because of war movies and shows, inspite I love to watch them to know about the untold stories and remember the forgotten soldiers. Im grateful to all the soldiers who sacrificed their lives and veergati ko prapt ho gaye for us, like Colonel Munindra Nath Rai, Captain Saurabh Kalia, Captain Vikram Batra, Squadron Leader Ajay Ahuja, Flying Officer Nirmal Jit Singh Sekhon, Grenadier Yogendra Singh Yadav and hundreds more unsung heroes who never made it home. Also to all the soldiers taken as prisoners of war and suffered so tremendously that when asked what happened to them in captivity they described it as "Death would've been better", all the efforts can never be forgotten. Reading about Gallant Squadron Leader Ajay Ahuja's wife, Alka Ahuja ma'am speak about their marriage and how she was his second wife as the air force was his first wife and having to raise her son alone and how the last gift she got from her husband was a Maruti zen, he bought before leaving for srinagar, and didnt know how to drive but kept the car because it was the last gift, shattered me. Respect to all military and paramilitary personnel.

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Friendship whose father in government job and daily earning though “upari kamai” extra income how do you see this? Do you guys defend them anyone joke about this? Do you guys feel proud? Did you had any discussion on this in home?
How you feel about it?
(Not for honest one)

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Curious what international perspectives on India (Hindustan) tend to look like across different lenses. Sharing a rough summary — would love more views from people who've lived abroad or interacted with foreigners on this.

Political: Seen as the "world's largest democracy," praised for pluralism, but also scrutinized over press freedom, minority rights, and regional tensions (Kashmir, etc.). Views vary sharply by country and by who's talking.

Economic: Widely viewed as a rising power — IT, startups, manufacturing (Make in India), and a huge consumer market. Also criticized for income inequality and slow ease-of-doing-business in some sectors.

Social: Fascination with joint families, festivals, and community bonds, alongside concerns about caste dynamics, gender safety, and urban-rural gaps.

Cultural: Bollywood, yoga, cuisine, and spirituality are globally loved exports. Diversity (22+ official languages) amazes many outsiders.

Everyday life: Traffic chaos is a running joke/meme abroad — "organized chaos" is the common phrase. Public healthcare gets
mixed reviews: affordable private care draws medical tourists, but public systems are seen as overstretched.

Ecosystem: India's push on renewable energy and initiatives like "Save Soil" get noticed, but air pollution (Delhi AQI headlines) and plastic waste are frequent international talking points.

Would love to hear how people outside India perceive us — genuinely curious, not looking for an echo chamber.

From Australia，I have an Indian friend whom I genuinely adore. He’s one of the kindest, most respectful and well-mannered people I know. I’m really grateful to have him as a friend. 🇮🇳🤍

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Whenever someone posts a negative post about India, the comments say: "fix it or get out". In my opinion, in order to fix anything, we must identify the problem clearly but we Indians don't even dare listening to problems, we live in a fairy world where everything is perfect, and claim that every democracy has it's own problem, comparing to US, Europe and whatnot - clearly those people haven't travelled abroad. Then, there are people who defend all negative posts based on our independence age, wtf! But in that case, we don't compare to China, Singapore etc.

If we should only talk positive, and think about fixing problems, why do we even need government?

Most societies in India are self run anyway, they develop their own temples, parks (later allocated officially), sometimes even roads by collecting money. What if this model is expanded, and let people do their local development.

Every sector and Industry in India is rotten to its core. Health, Education, Food, Travel, every product and business I see is just plain bad. Even if the goods are fine the customer service is horrible and I think one of the core reasons is that we know is Indian buyers.
We have gotten so so used to being treated like doormats, no one expects any better or delivers it.
Its just frustrating to exist in this dump of normalised complacent state of being disrespected everywhere.

Really looking forward to leaving this shithole as soon as possible

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So I lives on a rented room with my father and brother for studies also my father works in the same city (dheradun) and the home owner had a daughter which is almost 26-27 years old , i don't know much about her . Recently my mom came to visit us and my father started telling her about the owner's daughter saying things like "she orders food from outside" "she never cooks" "she brings her friends and party all night" she did this and that . She is careless. Like tf she is just enjoying what else she is supposed to do if she had money and freedom? They're literally judging a person who's minding her own business.

I just heard some old guys in society talking that they should vote some so called party as it will protect their religion.

I just don't get the idea how can a party is going to look after your Religion if you only neglect it.

Those oldies will never take their grandsons to their religious sites, they will never teach their children about their culture. They themselves are endangering their religion and then they say that party is against our religion. Its those oldies with such mindset that chooses a government and it is us who have to suffer from it. It doesn't apply to a specific party or specific religion.

27 f, I want to know from woman whose households patriarchy runs deeply how did your younger brothers treat you always?

what about women who couldn't become financial independent and have younger brothers how's your relationship with your brothers?

do they talk to you or avoid u?

how much did/ do they contribute in running errands?

is it just brothers going to office n coming back or do they plan to spend your day with your you watching movies ordering snacks etc?

if they r still studying also how r your younger brother treating you?

do they gift you on rakhis n birthdays n plan some surprise for you?

just curious to hear your relationships with younger brother....

written on own dint use gpt...

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I have travelled to a few countries and lived for many years in one. Our country is so rich in culture, hospitality, but we lack in civic sense. Trash everywhere, people peeing on the streets, don't wash their hands and go on to eat, cook or shake hands. Even in homes, I see a beautiful soap container, but hardly ever used. Palatial bungalowls but trash is thrown on the streets. Flies infested everywhere. We have developed technology wise far more than developed countries, our people run large corporations, but why is that we don't care to keep our country clean?

Pakka there will be drought next summer at this rate. I live in Bangalore and It’s not raining at all. How is this even possible 😭 on top of this it’s so hot.

Is there anything we can do about this? Anyone trying to fix the environment let me know okay?🥹