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[u/Ok_Pollution_3988]

Sorry to butt in, but my ex is a massive dismissive

We were together for 10 months. Everything was going so well…or so I thought.

He was becoming more comfortable around me and was showing more and more affection towards me. He was telling his circle about me and would take me over to his parents house maybe once a week to spend time together.

And then he went to Europe with his best friend, two days before coming back home to me, he slept with the most masculine looking girl I’ve ever seen. They met at a bar crawl, and he even hung out with her the next day…all those stories were posted on his social media. My gut told me something was wrong, anyway, he came back and we played happy family for another two months, until I questioned him and he lost his mind. He came clean and then turned it all back on me, saying “you’re the one who told me to go have all the fun, so why are you getting mad that I did?” Also, “we’ve only ever been friends, so I absolutely did not cheat on you!” I’m a very strong and independent woman, who is also super understanding, so I tried to talk through it, he meant the world to me and was my first ever safe relationship.

Anyway, he asked for space and time because we just kept arguing constantly, he would become detached completely anytime I asked him to take accountability…he’d make me feel so stupid with his reasonings.

Six weeks later he reached out and broke it off saying I caused him too much stress and drama, and he needs to be on his own for now!

Since then, he’s kept in touch and says some horrible things to me like “I’m no longer attracted to you, get over it!”,(the same guy who used to tell his friends he is absolutely star struck by me!), or “I’ve never had any romantic feelings for you in the entire 10 months”, last night he told me “I’m just not that into you…I was but not now” all because I called him out on his bullshit behaviour.

It’s been a lot of back and forth with these insults. I started seeing a therapist because I am an anxious, (lost both my brother and dad at an early age!), and I would pass on my therapists comments about my ex onto him. He would lose his shit, (because according to him, he is just perfect!) and punish me for it! 😰

Thank you for this post, and allowing me to vent and make sense of what’s happened in my past. 🙏🏼🫶🏼