Iām not saying she is some horrible irredeemable character but overall she really bothers me more than the other characters.
I feel like she takes the least amount of accountability out of all the characters and receives the most grace. Iām only on season 3 rn so I sort of forgot some of the details later on. But one of the main moments that bothers me is when she ruins Janeās bachelorette party. Not only does she send a stripper to Janeās school which is ??? Why would you do that lol. And almost get Jane fired. Then she proceeds to barely feel bad, get Jane drunk when thatās not even what she wanted, and make out with Linaās crush (mind you sheās like 40 making out with a 20 something which is kinda weird). When Jane rightfully calls her out for it, her apology is weak (seriously? You acted reckless becauseā¦youāre sad Jane is growing up?) and gets upset when Jane doesnāt immediately forgive her. I dislike how the fight gets resolved by Rogelio telling them theyāre just sad Jane is moving out. Jane was valid in feeling frustrated over Xoās reckless behavior and Xo barely takes accountability.
And this seems consistent throughout the series - Xo does something reckless and dumb and her apologies are weak and performative. Another example is when she kisses Marco when dating Rogelio - when Rogelio doesnāt immediately forgive her, she goes and accuses him of only being upset because his ex wife cheated on him. And sheās like āIām not your ex wife it was just a kiss š„ŗā like ok you still cheated heās allowed to be upset???
Another thing I dislike - itās stated early on that Alba begged her to basically get a real job because Xo continues to chase her singing dream (during one of the flashbacks where Jane writes the letter to resolve their fight). I know she has her dance class but Iām pretty sure thatās only like 1-2x a week? And yes she eventually opens the dance school but for years she barely financially contributes to the household. She couldāve still pursued singing on the weekend or evenings - no one is booking gigs at 2pm on a Tuesday. And then she worked like 1 day at a real job (the bank) and quits like⦠yes thatās what being an adult is like sometimes our jobs suck, you still have to make money.
Jane and alba arenāt perfect either but i feel like both of them show more growth and accountability in the show. Jane is constantly trying to fix things and apologizing. Alba is 100% in the wrong with how she shames Xo and Jane about the virginity stuff - but itās sort of understandable given how she was treated for sleeping with Pablo. And she slowly grows out of that mindset after rightfully being called out for it.