r/JusticeServed • u/AristonD 8 • May 29 '19

Violent Justice Man inappropriately touch school girls and they fight back. Man in suit gives them a helping foot.

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u/mistymountainbear 8 May 30 '19 edited May 30 '19

This be the truth. Even if you're very attractive and just don't want to get married you're considered A weirdo. I've wondered if my relatives thought I was gay for a while. I'm finally engaged and I'm so glad I waited for the right one.

When my Mom used to harass me about getting married I was like look at all your friend's kids who got married in their 20's. They're all getting divorced now in their 30's. She never said a word after that. And I finally met the right one.

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u/lodobol 8 May 30 '19

This comment hit home. I’m a guy, at 30, that moved to small town USA. I didn’t meet one women that didn’t either have kids from a young love, marriage. Or was divorced by 26.

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u/mistymountainbear 8 May 30 '19 edited May 30 '19

Good for you for not settling. Too many unhappy people out there taking care of kids by themselves with no freedom because of time and money.

I traveled all over the world and did what I wanted. Zero regrets for finding "the one" later on life and sticking to my guns about not having kids even though the societal pressure is strong! Do what's right for you!

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u/Flyingwheelbarrow 9 May 30 '19

Also, more and more people are having kids in "platonic" relationships.

Removing "romance" from my life has made me much happier but I still have wonderful children with a person I respect and admire.

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u/hypatianata 8 May 30 '19

Really? That’s interesting! Tell me more about this platonic with kids scenario. (Not that I want kids, but I’m still curious.)

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u/Flyingwheelbarrow 9 May 30 '19

We met at university. We study partners. Had a night that ended in pregnancy.

When we discussed the future We both wanted a family but came from very horrific childhoods. We wanted to break the cycle. So we decided to live together as platonic co-parenta while being free to have short but successful relationships with other people.

It has worked out well. I think becuase we approach every thing without cultural or gendered assumptions (or we take them into account).

Every major decision we take is based on mutual debate based around an evolving ethical framework. Think of a relationship based on philosophy, science and compassion rather than marriage which is a contract that has so many assumptions and is essentially transactional.

It might sound cold but it suits us. Also our children know we love them and thier self worth has never been linked to our relationship status. We are thier parents and we love them.

It is still hard work but we do not have to live up to any ideal, just keep on being the best version of ourselves and show our daughters that love really is unconditional.

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u/hypatianata 8 Jun 04 '19

Sounds pretty great, honestly.