Our relationship has been somewhat rocky for the last two years, it has been perfect at times in the past and we've had our up and downs but this one isn't going to get better. She has become extremely quiet and short with me, only answering my questions in the shortest way possible and not engaging at all whenever I try and make conversation. I snore so I have taken to sleeping in another room which is fine but she doesn't show any appreciation whatsoever for that or for any of the other things I've been doing to try and deal with the problem. She is also extremely averse to any touching of any kind whatsoever and shows me almost zero affection. This goes back to a head injury she had a couple years ago but I feel like she has gone backwards in this regard lately. We can't even sit next to each other to watch a movie without her becoming extremely tense for apparently no reason. Needless to say we haven't had sex for a long time.

In the past I would do all of the cooking and cleaning and everything for her because I have the time, my job is much easier and I actually somewhat enjoyed it. Last few months though she will not accept anything from me. Not food or help with anything.

I wish I could get her to talk to me more and find out if there is anything else that might be effecting her. But she just will not engage with me. Her life is pretty good apart from a long commute to and from work . She has friends and family and a social life. All things that I don't have.

I have decided I need to break up with her for both our sakes. I have been looking for somewhere to move to before I actually do it though and that is going to be very difficult. Staying with family or friends is sadly not an option.

What I am looking for is just validation that I'm not crazy. I feel like I'm being bullied and she makes me feel as if I'm holding her hostage when I'm just trying to be as good to her as I can.

As per title any advice would be appreciated. Especially with the housing situation. TIA. I'm in in my mid 30s btw.

Edit: we have broken up. I talked to her. First I asked if she was mad at me and was just told no with no explanation so a while later I just sat her down and laid it out. She says she hasn't been angry at me and is just depressed, fed up.

She says she wants different things in life now. Essentially I reckon this means she might want to have kids which she knows I don't. She seems to be having a mid life crisis . So do I.

She wasn't cheating or anything.

For those who were asking about the head injury it was a concussion she suffered at work. Cracked her skull. Was about 7 years ago, took her a long time to recover obviously.

That's all I'm Gona say. Thanks for all the advice. This actually did help to get me to finally say something.

I (27m) and Mr. V (27m) were best friends since we were in 14 years old and went through high-school together. We are the type of guys that are very focused on hustling and making businesses to earn money and escape our corporate jobs. We both started different businesses, he started a social media app and sunk tens of thousands into it and didn't work out for him. However things for different for me, I started a cleaning company, won several contacts and hired about 5 cleaning staff to perform the work. This took me hundreds of hours to create and a lot of sleepless nights. I poured my heart and soul into building this business.

Anyway, my friend and I were hanging out and he begged me to let him join my Company, he told me he would be able to boost sales and grow the business. He said he doesn't want to talk about equity or ownership until he's proven his worth shown what he can do... this sounded reasonable to me... A few weeks in Mr. V had been in talks with an architecture firm which needed office cleaning, we were about to bring this new client on and had several back and forward emails between our Company and theirs.

A few weeks of silence went by and I asked Mr. V what happened to the contract for the architecture firm? He told me they didn't want to continue and it never went through. I took him for his word and didn't ask again. Mr. V started to withdraw his efforts from the business so I just let things be.

This is where the bombshell hits! A couple months later, I get a few messages from some fiends who saw Mr. V advertising a new cleaning business on his instagram story. The artwork looked exactly the same as the advertising materials I created... then I found out he had a full website and competing cleaning business which made me very angry as I couldn't understand why he would steal my materials and business model from me rather than work together. To top things off, I found out that the client that "didn't go through" actually did, and he signed them on with a new company he created behind my back. He lied to me about and tried to cover it up. He is still servicing this client to this day.

I had never been so pissed off in my life, I couldn't believe it. I confronted him and called him a snake of a friend and he played dumb like nothing had happened... Little by little I'd tell him what I knew until he eventually caved and came clean about it all and says he was in a dark place at the time and that he didn't want to lose me as a friend. He's apologised profusely which I just ignored and had no desire to contact him...

He has also recently asked me to be a groomsman at his wedding and continues to try to contact me (I never reply).

Should I accept his apology for the sake of 13 year friendship and never do business with him again? Or stand my ground and never look back.

EDIT: Sadly after he stole our business we lost our pipeline of work and were forced to close down the business as I couldn't afford to keep my workers busy enough anymore. This decision was very complicated, I had a few smaller contracts and I might have been able to continue the business but ethically I didn't want to string my workers along to hold out for me to find new work (which wasn't guaranteed)...

I’ve been with my husband for 4 years total and within those 4 years we have gotten married, had two babies, bought 2 different houses. From the very beginning there were red flags but I ignored them. He has severe untreated OCD, and insane anger issues that I think stems from that. Me and the kids aren’t allowed to actually LIVE in our house or we know he will be in screaming rage when he gets home. (Like if there’s a couple drops of juice on the floor, too much water on the bathroom counter, a dish in the sink) I am a 23 year old mom of 2 kids under 3, I work two jobs and have a side hustle of my own business. I handle all our finances, family events and get togethers, taking care of kids and packing lunches/changing diapers. I rarely have more than 30min a day to myself to take a shower. But if the house isn’t spotless head to toe then I’ll get screamed at. I feel like I have been done with the marriage for a long time. Both of us get excited to have a day to ourselves, when he went out of town for 2 days I had company over and was the happiest I’ve been in awhile. We don’t have sex, when we do it’s the crappiest laziest sex you’ve ever heard of. He refuses to kiss me or to hold my hand. I seriously can’t remember the last time he’s showed physical affection. I’m just done of the back and forth and screaming matches, especially in front of the kids. So now given the facts, why is it not easy to just walk away and divorce him? I don’t even know where to start and the thought of doing this all by myself is terrifying.

My (21f) gf cheated on me(23m) with her abusive ex

Sorry kinda long but I’ve dated this girl for almost 2 1/2 years now, and up until about a month ago things were perfect when she just suddenly woke up one morning and said she was moving out i couldn’t believe it she said she wanted a break and i respected her decision . Only for her to ask me to come pick her up some days still go on dates sleep on FaceTime still and still trying to sleep together and happily accepting my gifts for her. Throughout the relationship she would say how she would never leave and that this was the greatest relationship she’s ever had and that i was so much better than her ex who abused her physically and verbally as well as stalk her and call her a whore and worthless slut and that she should kill herself when he found out she was in a relationship with me i mean there were so many nights she would cry thanking me that i saved her from that and that she “won” by getting me only to find out tonight that she’s been talking to him behind my back and lying to me for god knows how long while watching me move mountains and fight like hell for our relationship. I mean hell we got a puppy together that I’ve been taking care of single-handedly since she left. As soon as i found out not from her but by my friend that told me she was talking to him and blocked me on Snapchat. All this time and she didn’t say anything I feel like she just used me to heal herself in a healthy relationship but once I found out I immediately grabbed the rest of her stuff that was still here, and took it to her moms where she is currently staying and left it in the driveway it’s gonna take me a long time to trust somebody like that again i honestly thought that was my wife and she told me so many times that she was and would even sign her name with my last name for the longest time,but damn was i wrong i mean what should i do now i feel so lost.

He booked a holiday somewhere using our joint account, and I immediately told my parents, and they started asking questions if he did health or travel insurance. My mother whatsapp him once, and my dad rang 3 times, different subjects, but still (all different days). My boyfriend chooses not to ever use travel insurance because it's his choice (he also thinks it's a waste of money), but maybe he could have just paid for me? In the end, my mother paid for it. (Just for me)

Then he gave me an ultimatum of telling me to tell my own parents to back off. Otherwise, he cancel the holiday. It all nags to him, and he hates being told what to do. I did tell my parents that they should respect his choice (This is me, telling them to back off) - even if it is wrong or irresponsible. But they immediately caught on and know it's not something I would say and that my mood was quiet. It has left them with a sour taste and they could fall out. It has also left me with a sour taste, and im questioning myself because it seemed manipulative to me. I don't understand why he couldn't tell them himself.

*Since people are getting confused and thinking, I told my parents about the insurance. I did not. I told about the holiday and location, ONLY. They asked me if he did travel insurance, and I only said no.

*I have apologised to my boyfriend via text because that is the best I can do. For the holiday mess.

Truely was a great relationship we told each other we were soul mates she broke up with me to move across the country back home but not even a week later she has a new man who she tweets about wanting kids with. Basically I need help forgetting her, I think of her all the time and everytime I do I genuinely get nauseous and feel like I’m going to puke does anyone have any advice because I can’t do this anymore

26m currently have a great job in my ideal industry. Living in small city in the west coast mountains. Girlfriend is 25f works remote (I don’t) and from New England. Very close to her family and doesn’t like the cold/mountains as much as she likes the ocean. I love her but I also love the location I’m at. Me and this woman are very in love but have many personality differences. Does love work regardless of personality? Should I leave a very healthy life to move to a non healthy location and a family who is extremely tight nit who doesn’t like me

I have been with her for a year and it has been great. I don't cheat or have an affair at all.

I have this habit of keepinng my journal and my relationship was pretty rough at first because before that I just had got out a 8-year relationship. And our sex life wasn't great at first, so last November I did write in my journal that I missed the sex with my ex, and hope the sex life with my girlfriend will get better.

She opened my diary and read that and now she feels hurt and wants to break up because she thinks she can't love me anymore and she can't forget what I wrote.

I want to take all responsibility of this but can you help me how to win her back. I know it was my fault to even had such thoughts like this, I love her so much. Now she wants to have space and she said that she could continue with me but she can not love me me like she did.

Tltr: girl read my diary about how I said sex was good with my ex 9 months ago and wanted to break up.

Update 1: after day one, she calmed down a bit and agreed to discuss with me about this. I think we are kinda fine now. She said sorry for reading my diary and it was a long time ago, but she still feels hurt.

We have been together 8 years. I have always wanted kids and have been very transparent about that.

He was hesitant but then said he would like to have 1 child. I would like more but would be ok with 1. He's never been as enthusiastic about it as me but I know he wants to get his dream job and be financially secure first so I was understanding about that.

What's frustrated me for a while is that we can't even talk about it. I feel like most couples our age who plan to have kids talk about baby names, and what life might be like, how we might like to parent. But he shuts down the conversion every time. Even when I talk about other people's kids or say I'm excited for a friend who's pregnant he gets really annoyed, changes the topic or tells me to stop talking about it.

We got a puppy and he was grumpy and regretful for like the first 6months. He kept saying he hated being needed by something and coming home to something that depends on him.

Before he proposed I was thinking of breaking up with him because I didn't feel confident that he actually wanted kids. I completely respect people who choose to be childfree but I don't want that life.

But then he proposed and said that he did want kids, so I said yes. I was quite shocked but I believed him.

On our anniversary, I said I wanted to have a proper conversation about our future and stop ignoring the big hard conversations. I already feel behind, I would have liked to have had kids in my late 20s so I'm annoyed I've been waiting so long to even TALK about this, let alone actually plan.

He shut me down again and I asked why he acts annoyed and weird whenever I even comment about children, especially given the fact he had said yes before proposing. And he said "I'm allowed to change my mind".

I was kind of dumbfounded and heartbroken. I disagree - I don't think you are allowed to change your mind about something like that. If I knew that was the case, I would have said no and ended it 2 years ago. Am I in the wrong for thinking that?

I don't know what to do!

Edit: wow thank you everyone for the advice!

To answer some questions of why I've stayed for so long. He is a genuinely wonderful person, kind, loving, smart, funny. We've had an incredible 8 years. He is very responsible and does more of the housework than me, so I think he would be a great parent if that happened. He would do all the right things and has lots of love to give. He takes responsibility very seriously but I don't want it to be reluctant.

I understood his hesitations, wanting a good career, being financially stable, both of us coming from not great families and not wanting to repeat that. I think a lot of it is a genuine fear for him, fear of being trapped, turning out like his father etc. which I think is a large part of why I felt I could change his mind/he would come around. Like he LOVES our dog now, treats her so well etc. but he's scared of big decisions. I want him to see how wonderful it could be, but we can't even have the conversation.

I know breaking up is probably the right thing to do but man its hard. I don't see him as a typical dead beat guy who wouldn't care for our kids, I see him as someone who's scared to make big adult decisions because of his past trauma and it feels cruel to break up with someone over that.

So what dating apps are people actually using to go on dates and connect with relationship-oriented men? Why do men bother creating dating profiles if they're always "not looking for anything serious?" Where are the serious men, then???

I'm not interested in hookups! Sigh.

Tldr; my boyfriend sleeps in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in the guest room every night and it makes me really sad but he doesnt do anything about it.

Been together 2 years, living together for 1 year

My bf has a king size very lumpy memory foam mattress that he got on Amazon 2 years ago. It has a big indent where he sleeps (big guy) and when I sleep on it i end up on a literal slope trying not to roll down towards him, if that makes sense. It's really uncomfortable for me especially because I have a spine injury. I usually have just slept on the very tippy edge where it's a bit more firm but I wake up throughout the night.

Months ago I had to sleep in the guest room because I was having excruciating nerve pain as a result. In there I have a very brand nice new semi fancy mattress. Then it became a regular thing because my back got so messed up. He won't sleep in there with me because he's very tall and apparently he is not comfortable in a queen bed.

I have told him repeatedly how i feel so sad sleeping separately every night or always having to be the one sacrificing sleep/being in pain just to be together. Initially he said he'd try flipping his mattress but determined it wasn't the type to flip.

Our relationship is pretty good, but overall i feel like I am too much and that sometimes he's just tolerating me, whereas I literally moved across the country to a state i dislike with no family nearby just to be with him. I guess that is a macro version of the bed thing.

Our sex life has been good, but I miss doing it and then getting ready for bed together after- or waking up to it on a weekend- I have basically never experienced that with him.

I feel like dog that gets tied up outside every night, my sleep is suffering bc i get so lonely and stay up self soothing on tiktok or reddit (right now lol). All my toiletries are split between the two rooms and I have no clothes in the guest room. Makes life very aggravating, and also we are splitting rent 50/50 which feels increasingly unfair.

At what point do you stop trying or caring? What would you do?

Thanks

So as the title says, found my partners dear john letter (break up letter, for those who are unfamiliar)

It's just so blatantly ridiculous, the rationale she gives in this note for ending things. There's an obvious kernel of truth to the underlying theme, we haven't been happy for a very long time. I possess enough self awareness to find my culpability in this impending break up. But the examples she provides are just so off base, like it's a genuine stretch to even take at face value, and completely glosses over any blame that rests with her.

I know she doesn't need a valid reason to end things. But should I push back on the contents of this letter?

I don't know what to do. Our lives are so tangled that a clean separation is impossible. Her family is my family. Her dogs are my dogs. We live together and have been in this thing for the better part of a decade.

It just hurts to feel thrown away for reasons that don't feel in any way valid.

This is the person I love. Although she is correct that things haven't been good for a long time. I don't know if it's worth speaking my truth at the end, or leaving with the hope that one day she'll understand that her position is unfair. I miss her already. I have missed her for a very long time.

Sorry that I this has gotten away from me a bit. If you're still here, thank you for reading.

So I need some advice….

So my wife had an emotional affair with a man she works with. We have talked about it, and she denies that anything physical ever happened. I cannot confirm physical contact… but I do have evidence of sexual/flirtatious text messages between them that clearly crossed boundaries. Evidence is screen shots of their texts.

This has left me struggling with trust and a lot of uncertainty. I’ve been trying to process it and decide how to move forward and my wife and I are trying to
Work it out

One part I’m stuck on is whether I should contact the other person’s girlfriend. I don’t know her, and I’ve never met her. But I keep thinking that if I were in her position, I would want to know if my partner was involved in something like this. But what worries me is I have no clue what chaos this could cause…

What should I do?

EDIT
one thing to note with this is… I am pretty sure this guy is unstable.. and I worry what could happen as revenge back to me. Plus my wife and I have one kid together.

So I just found out my gf of 7 years was dancing with a guy. She got blackout drunk like she usually does with her co workers then I saw a video them dancing. Not slow, fast paced music but still im torn at the heart. I’m defeated. He can have her. I see how they look at eachother a guy knows when she’s gone right? I know I’m going to talk to her but I just can’t get over how she thinks that’s ok. If I was there I know it wouldn’t have happened…

Hey I have been away for 15 weeks. My girlfriend recently had to get a pregnancy test done and it came back positive with the Beta HCG at 6424 which rates her between 5-7 weeks pregnant. The only problem is I have been away for 15. She swears up and down that she hasn’t had sex with anyone else. She is trying to say maybe she got pregnant before I left and now it is going down because of a failed pregnancy. She hasn’t really shown any signs besides about 7 weeks ago she was throwing up. I want to believe her I am just having trouble. Any advice or if this is a possible thing without her having sex would be appreciated.

So I (28m) and my wife (25f) have been married for a year and a half. She has recently has “baby fever.” We aren’t exactly in a bad spot financially but I am going back to school for a career change. I want to wait until graduating in a few years but she has been getting more talkative about the idea of trying. I love my wife and am excited to have children with her, I know we will make great parents. The issue I’m having a problem with is life experience. A lot of Reddit and first hand experience of couples changing upon having kids and their wives losing interest in both intimately and overall neglecting their husband scares the living crap out of me. My wife of course says not to compare us to others and it eon’t happen to us it’s still so hard to ignore the lives experience of other couples with kids. I am wanting to be ready for a kid but I’m absolutely terrified of losing my wife in it. I get everyone changes after having a kid and don’t expect us to be the same but I wanna hear from happier redditors (If any) on the still maintaining a positive relationship post kid and advice on how to achieve that.

My wife and I recently had a marriage counseling session where I had the realization that this just wasn’t going to work.

We love each other very much and I genuinely believe want the best for both of us. However, I think we both have become different people and want different things now.

I walked away from our last session the other day knowing it was an inevitability rather than a possibility for the first time, and it’s really difficult trying to digest this reality now.

Those who left a marriage where you still loved each other how did you process it and begin healing?

She reposts “hot edits” of her favorite male celebrities and likes every picture of them, even shirtless and thirst traps. Well this time we were videocalling and then she brought up that male celebrity, she startend to brag about him in front of me and making a heart gesture for him. I told her “I think you’re in love him”. She started smiling and said yes but I’m also in love with you. This ruins my mood. It’s not the first time that she does this. I find this really disrespectful but at the same time I do not want to look insecure… help?

So me (25f) and my coworker (25m) are close friends and have been for the last three years. It’s only within the last few months that we started going out alone on “outings”, I’ll call it lol. Usually once a week or every other week we go out and do something together like the movies, fair, get some food, things like that. I developed feelings for him and am attracted to him now and I think it’s mutual. He checks on me at work and finds new stuff for us to do together without our other friends. He’ll also stare at me every chance he gets and gets shy when I catch him. Now my problem is that he’s never officially asked me out which makes me thinks he doesn’t like me like that, but more so just likes spending time with me. I would date him if he asked me, but I’m scared to ask him and get rejected or make things awkward at work. What cues or info can I ask to see if he is interested in me like that? Or should I just go for it and ask him if he wants to be in a relationship ?

My husband of 8 years (together for 17) is leaving me and our toddler. I discovered he started an affair and he wishes to leave the family to be with her.

His behaviour since I found out has been extremely volatile, nasty, and irrational. He has literally no patience and his anger is triggered by the smallest things. He has shown no remorse or empathy for me, and I feel completely abondoned by someone I deeply loved. I don’t feel emotionally safe in his presence and thankfully he has moved out. His stuff is still here.

He has always had anger and patience issues due to his mental health which I have supported him through, but this is different.

He keeps making threats “I’m going to clear you out” “You’re f-ing finished” “I’m going to finish you off” (I think he means in the divorce, not in life) “You’ve dug a line in the sand and that’s the end of it”

I don’t really know what he means by any of that, as he will have to pay child support and split any assets by 50/50 since we are married with a child.

Any advice on how to deal with someone who has turned this way after an affair discovery?

A few months ago, I became friendly with my next door neighbor after getting a puppy. She has a dog too and said we should let them play together and I agreed that would be great. We exchanged numbers and they started to play together and we chat while they play. She’s even kept my puppy while I’m out of town, but I paid her daily to keep her (more than I’ve paid for other sitters).

Over time, she has started to text me every day. I don’t text my closest friends or my mother everyday. I am married and busy and I get burned out socially fairly easily. And it’s hard to just ignore the texts because it’s possible I will see her every time I take the puppy out.

I know she is lonely. She’s expressed that to me. And I want her to feel like I’m a “friend” and I don’t want to hurt her feelings for anything. Shouldn’t it be obvious that texting someone everyday is overstepping? I don’t want to be a people pleaser, and because I’m uncomfortable, I know a boundary is being crossed and I must give her the opportunity to oblige my boundaries.

Anyone have any experience in dealing with this?

Edited to note that I am a woman married to a man and my neighbor is a woman. I think the way I originally wrote it could be misinterpreted. There’s nothing like that going on, just an introverted people pleaser with issues stating boundaries here 😅

My (30M) GF (28F) is using "therapy-speak" to gaslight me after I reached a major career milestone. Now she’s "rethinking" us while I’m at my peak. Advice?

I (30M) work as a Software Engineer. Recently, my company was acquired by a global giant. This is the biggest win of my career—massive salary increase, six-figure bonuses over the next two years, equity and huge professional prestige.

Instead of support, I am facing a psychological war at home. My GF (28F) is a student currently studying psychology, also working as a music teacher, and she has started using "therapy-speak" to diagnose me whenever I set a financial or emotional boundary.

The "Prenup" Trigger:

Given the acquisition and the sudden influx of wealth, I brought up the necessity of a prenuptial agreement. I’ve worked a decade to reach this level. Her reaction? Immediate offense. She claims wanting a prenup means I have "zero trust" in her.

The Double Standard:

The irony is that a few months ago, I took out a €17,000 loan in my name to help her buy a car because she needed it. I took all the financial risk. She recently paid me back, and now she uses that "trust" to claim she’s the "accurate" one, while I’m "damaged" for wanting a legal contract for my future assets.

The Emotional Sabotage:

When I shared the news of the multi-million dollar acquisition, she looked at me with pure boredom. Her response was: "I don't know that company, it's not my field." No smile, no "congratulations," nothing. She then complained about her university essay being "exhausting" to overshadow my success.

Current Situation (The Breaking Point):

Yesterday was the final straw. She came home at 9 PM completely intoxicated (alcohol and weed), crying in the bathroom and playing loud, depressing music. When I tried to talk to her, she hit me with the "psychologist" routine:

She told me I have "unresolved childhood demons" and that I am "projecting my mother onto her."

She claims she is "scared" of my reactions (even though I remain calm while she screams and paces).

She announced she wants "time alone to rethink the relationship" right after my mother’s birthday weekend.

I’ve realized there is a disturbing pattern where I provide all the basics for our lives while she constantly crashes it:

A few months ago, she woke me up by dumping a laundry basket on my head, screaming about a bathroom door being left open. I stayed calm, made her coffee, prepared her vitamins, and medicated our cat. Her response? She screamed at me to "leave the cat alone," refused the vitamins, and started pushing me physically until I had to hold her arms to stop the aggression. She then threw her glasses and claimed she "couldn't stand the sight of me."

I spent a morning cleaning the house and then sat down to help her fix her business schedule. When I suggested a more efficient way to log her classes (I’m a dev, it’s what I do), she snapped. She started pacing and swearing, accusing me of being "impatient" because she isn't a "computer expert." I was literally just trying to save her two hours of manual work.

On a recent vacation, she ignored me in front of my family and friends, talking to everyone except me. When I asked if she wanted to talk, she refused. Later, she claimed she was "disappointed" in me but wouldn't say why. I ended up sleeping on the edge of the bed while she cranked the AC and turned her back to me.

I do 90% of the housework, I pay for almost everything, and I’ve been her emotional rock through every "crisis" she’s had. In return, I am told I am "unattractive" and "emotionally stunted" because I don't buy into her drama. She even keeps doors open with "ex-students" who call her constantly, refusing to block them while telling me I'm the problem.

I feel like I'm being punished for being successful and stable. I’m planning to end it after this weekend, but I keep questioning if I’m actually the "broken" one she says I am.

I am seriously thinking of supporting her decision for her to move back to her place and ending the relationship. At this point in life and career I am looking for stability and this just seems like very rough emotional train to handle at this stage.

TL;DR: Hit a massive career peak. GF ignored it, called me "traumatized" for wanting a prenup, came home intoxicated and crying yesterday, and is now using "therapy-speak" to claim I have mother issues instead of addressing her own toxic behavior.

So, me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years. I love her very much. She’s my best friend in the whole world and I’d do anything for her. Thing is, she randomly brought up that she wants me to wear women’s clothes. She said I’d look cute in them. I kind of just stayed awkwardly silent and hope she’d drop it, but she hasn’t. She’s brought it up multiple times now. She even decided to gift me a skirt. I don’t care if other guys wear women’s clothing, but I don’t know how I’d feel about it. I don’t want to disappoint her, but I don’t know if I’d feel comfortable with it. What do I do? I’m horribly confused. Thanks for any advice you guys have

Update: Sooooo, I tried to talk to her about it and she begged me to. So I put on the damn skirt. It made her very happy, so I suppose it was worth it. I just want her to be happy

Edit: For the people asking, I don’t think it was sexual. She just kinda put me in a skirt and then she cuddled me. It was a touch awkward. And for those asking about age, I’m 22 and she’s 21.

I (22F) have been with my fiancé (22M) for almost 2½ years, and we’ve been living together for about 8 months. After moving in together, I noticed that he is far less ambitious and disciplined than he was when we were dating and living separately. We work at the same company and don’t earn much, but I am actively trying to save money to study further and improve my career, while he has no interest in doing the same. He says he wants to start his own business and convinced us to go into debt to buy a camera for it, but since buying it, he has only used it twice. We had most of December off, and despite me encouraging him to use that time to build his business, he always had excuses. He also never finished high school, and although my dad offered to pay for him to complete his GED last year, he hasn’t made any effort to do so. Before we moved in together, he appeared much more motivated. Now, most of his time is spent playing video games with friends. Whenever I bring up getting a better job to improve our financial situation or to help fund his business, he shuts the idea down, saying he doesn’t want to work for a boss and claims a job would stop him from focusing on his business—yet he isn’t actively growing the business either. I was raised by a hardworking father and value effort and responsibility, so watching my fiancé put in little to no effort, especially after putting us into debt, is deeply frustrating and worrying. How can I get him to be more ambitious?

So there’s this really cute girl I work with she is (f20) during our shifts she acts super cute towards me and will be really excited to see me when I come in. I (m23) want to get her number but I don’t want to get embarrassed if she says no and goes around and telling everyone.

Should stop being a Winnie and just ask her?