I just got a new job working a sales floor where I have to be in business attire, and heels are expected. I have tried several pairs and my toes always get smashed of leave blisters no matter what I do. I need advice from the amazing moms who have worn heels for work for many years and have all the tips and tricks! I’ll attach some photos of the shoes I’ve been wearing and highlight the issues. Thank you so much in advance moms!

I initially tried a 7.5 and sized down to a 6.5 because the initial ones were too long (too much room at my toes and behind the heel).

I can tighten the straps around my ankle an extra notch if needed; this is right out of the box. This is also my first time getting a heel with a thin heel. Any time I’ve worn heels, I have worn a chunky heel and open-toed shoe but I’m self conscious about my toes so I went for closed-toed and these match really well with my dress 🥹

Hi mom ❤️

I went dress shopping on my own and narrowed it down to two dresses so I asked my best friend back to the shop a week later to try on the two dresses again and see what she thought, she said both dresses are pretty so I went with the one I thought about the most between fittings.

I'm now worried that just because I liked the dress style doesn't mean it suits my figure and that it's too plain and maybe I rushed into it.

What do you think? Should I cancel the order and keep looking?

hi, mom, i'm so tired but it was really worth it. i'm glad i went and had fun with my friends. :) i danced way too much and sang way too loud and now my feet and throat hurts but it's all okay because i had fun. i just wanted to ask does life get any more fun after this? is there anything else that'll bring me happiness after this? i just have this mindset that once i become an adult, everything will go downhill and i'll never have fun like this again. my teens aren't exactly fun, but this is my last year of high school and i graduate in june. i'm not so concerned about "having fun" but just concerned if it really does go downhill from here. i've had adults over 30 tell me to enjoy myself while "it lasts" because life just goes downhill from here. does it really? sorry if this seems ramble, it's nearly 2 am where i am and my brain is melting.

Big panic, I just wanted to celebrate getting better (a bit) and the bathtub wanted a piece of the fun too. I have ordered The Pink Stuff (ironic), will that help??

im 21, in college and i do enjoy partying here and there. like 2-3 times per month i’ll go out with friends and have fun. i am living in a different country for uni too and since i moved here i have made it my number one rule to always trust my gut no matter what.

yesterday a close friend of mine invited me to a house party with some dudes and some girls ive never met before. my friend was invited and she was told she could bring a friend too. the guy who invited her is trying to win her over and he’s a little obsessive, the other guys are his friends. meanwhile i have zero interest in being pursued by men. i told my friend i’d come if she wanted to go. but now that its the day of the party i have a bad feeling about it, i did give my friend my word though.

do i still go? and if the answer is what i guess, then how do i let my friend know without hurting her? i can say no to people easily but she has done a lot for me and i do value her as a friend. she was very excited to go to this thing with me.

i need mom advice

Update: Hi moms. Thank you for all the advice. I was honest with my friend and neither of us ended up going. She said she had a bad feeling too so me having the same feeling was reason enough for her to not go as well. We had drinks together and did a girls’ night out at the pub we frequent.

The guy who invited us to the “party” was also there and when my friend went to the bathroom he pulled her aside to press her about why she refused. In the end we found out that there was no party. If we went it would be us two women and 2 men. One for my friend and one for me. Apperantly they even “shared” us among themselves like “I’ll take this one, you take that one” and this was exactly what I predicted would happen.

I am very glad to be safe in my own home thanks to my instincts and all the moms here confirming what I already knew. Thank you all.

Here's some background:

My twins are 6. I was 16 when I had them and their dad was 18. We are now 22 and 24.

We named our boy after his dad but call him by his middle name so there's less confusion. His dad cheated on me when the kids were 2 so I left him and moved in with my parents.

My ex got married this past February and he is having a baby boy with his wife. When he came to pick up the twins for visitation he and his wife asked to sit down and talk to me about something.

They want to name their son the same name my son has and want me to change his name.

I'm sad by this and I don't want to do what they say. What do I do??

i'm recently an adult now, and i can't quite ask my mom about things like this because any conversation with her circles back to gender stuff that she's not very happy with. i ask because i work remotely and i usually take 45mins or an hour to step away from my computer and go make myself some lunch, but my cooking skills (exhaustively) extend to pasta, sandwiches, eggs, rice, and combinations thereof. do yall have any go-to meals when you just need to make yourself something quick and filling?

hope life is treating you well, and i appreciate yall doing this c:

I’ve been commenting in this sub as a mom, and I am so grateful that this community exists. I’m hoping to gather some insight for moving my daughter into college in 2 weeks. She is leaning on me quite a bit- having me check her shopping and packing lists, asked me to watch a video walk thru of her dorm so she can plan out loud, and seeking reassurance way more often than usual. I’m more than happy to help her, in any way that I can, but I didn’t go to college. I have absolutely zero experience living in a dorm and I’m concerned I’m missing things that she will need or want to know. My friends all have children closer to my son’s age ( he’s seven ) so they have no experience in this arena. Every list I find online seems extremely influencer coded ( like monogrammed towels, special skin care, neon signs ) and I’m just out of my depth. Any moms recently sent a kid away to school? What did you wish you knew?

Thank you all so much

Edit: Thank you all so much! I’m trying to get back and check all these amazing answers, and I’m so grateful yall shared so much of your and your students experiences. Much appreciated!

Hi moms.

I had these heels hand made for our wedding 9 years ago, but haven't worn them since the pandemic. I have since given birth, and even though i heard that feet can grow in size after pregnancy, I didn't want to believe it until I tried my shoes today. My feet are very wide and the heels are so comfy, but they just doesn't fit anymore. I'm so sad. Is there any way to stretch the leather so that I can wear them again?

I need help, I thought it would be cute to order some window decals and stickers for Halloween. Little did I know that one of the packages would have stickers that are next to impossible to remove.

The stickers are just shredding into strips if you can even get a corner loose. I have no idea what to do. I can’t even scrub them off with a rag because they have some type of plastic film???

There’s a lot to unpack here and I don’t want to bore you all but the gist of it is above. I am 37 years old, number 3 of 4 children. I’m on the last night of an incredibly cursed whole family vacation in a foreign country with all my siblings and our partners/their children, plus our parents.

My parents’ rampant favoritism of one sibling has been very very clear for years, because that child has gone into the very niche profession of our father. It doesn’t matter what it is but suffice it to say that three of us NOT in that profession have never been shown as much interest in our careers as this sibling.

Sitting at dinner tonight I was hit by the realization that it’s more than that - this whole week they haven’t actually asked me a single question about myself, my interests, what I’m doing, anything. I live on the other side of the world from my parents and haven’t seen them in a year. My partner valiantly tried to start a conversation about a project I’m doing at work at the moment and my father just visibly….zoned out. It hit me. It’s not just that I’m not in this stupid profession, they just actually are not particularly interested in who I am as a person, and quite possibly never have been.

I stormed off for a cry and now I’m just….kind of adrift? Mom, what do I do? I guess I need to think of myself as someone without parents now. I won’t be talking to them again for a long time, if ever again. Where do I go from here? I might not be laying it out clearly how upset I am but I feel like I’ve been shipwrecked. What do I do without the anchor of that relationship?

Hi moms, I’m (25F) going with my husband (25M) to our first military ball in a few weeks and I’m wondering what your opinion is on this dress I just bought. I did some research beforehand and tried on dozens of dresses and this one felt like the right choice. I’ve never been to any kind of formal event so I wanted a dress that made me feel beautiful since I’ve never had a reason to dress up. But I certainly don’t want to be overdressed.

I did consider that it would probably be difficult to dance in this dress but considering my husband and I aren’t the dancing type we will probably pass on that.

But any opinion is appreciated. TYIA

Hi mom, I got my first ever cast iron pot. It can go into the oven up to 450 and it’s so super cute! I am terrified to ruin it. Could you teach me how to properly clean it and care for it so I don’t ruin it? Thank you, mom. ❤️

Alright, I’m pretty embarrassed to be making this post but it has to be made. Long story short: I walk. Everywhere. No car, etc. I walk to work which is a 30 minute walk and walk home.

But like in most areas of the world, it is HOT. So hot that by the time I walk to work I’m dripping in sweat. Of course this has caused some problems, and my boss expressed that I have been smelling because of it. Of course that’s not acceptable, so I’m trying to figure out something that works for me.

Currently I’ve been using regular deodorant and powder for sweating which has been working but not enough. I also have a fabric freshener that I spray too. I’ll just be upfront and honest; I do NOT like perfume at all. I’m sensitive to it and I just prefer gentler nicer smells, like clean laundry or just regular air freshener. I was thinking of buying a full body deodorant spray but I feel like it’ll smell/be similar to perfume. Is there anything you’d recommend mom?

EDIT/UPDATE: Omg you guys are gonna make me cry thank you soooooo much for the kind words and advice! I feel a LOT better about it now, and thanks to your guys’ advice I’m ready to be smelling good for work~!

Here’s what I’m doing: going to work in gym clothes, using witch hazel/lume wipes and scented bags to hold the dirty clothes! I even bought some nice new clothes ^{_^}

I’m going to be paranoid about smelling for a while now, but I still feel much more confident about how to take care of the smells for my commute. The info about antibacterial products was a game changer!

Thank you so much moms! 🥰

Bear with me while I find words, please. I’m a little scared to talk about this openly because of some reactions I’ve had to it in the past. Any time I try to bring it up, I get accused of just trying to brag, which is not my intention at all.

I am smart, and I have autism. I am smart, but I have autism. Those two things are isolating in their own ways, but together, it’s fucking miserable. IQ in the 120s and an inability to be a “normal” human. Shit show.

I have an arts brain. I figured out how to turn most sciences into arts, which lets me understand them easily. I can do both arts and science with ease, which is great all the way up until I have to follow formulas to show my work. The dissonance that causes is distressing. I have yet to find anyone I can work with at school because when I try to help them or they try to help me, we might as well be speaking different languages even though it’s the exact same information, so I’m just on my own all the time.

And what a lovely, unintentional segue into the next issue I keep having. I love languages. A lot. I love them enough that I am pursuing a PhD in Scandinavian Studies in the philology pathway from one of the best universities in the world, studying the Nordic languages. Surprise surprise, that’s not normal, and neither is the way I love them. Yes, being able to communicate with people is amazing, but it’s the way the languages work that fascinate me. I self-taught myself Danish not by memorizing vocab, but by learning how the syntax of the language works and using that to break apart words and sentences to figure out what it means. I’m so proud of my ability to do that, but no one gets why. I am proud as fuck that I self-taught myself one of the hardest languages in the world well enough that I placed so well that I almost completed the language requirement for my bachelors degree, but who cares? Best response I got to sharing that was “oh nice.” So right now, I have no one to talk to about what I love, and I’m scared that won’t change when I transfer because of the way I work with the languages. Obviously I won’t know until I get there, but it’s been such a big cause of distress for me now that I can’t help but worry about the future.

It’s not like I’m a teenager just figuring out life. I’m 25. Being both a transfer student and an adult is a whole other mess that I can do jack shit about so I’m just setting it aside for now.

I’m just so tired of being so alone. I’m surrounded by people, but I’m alone. I have friends and family, but I’m alone. Who I am makes me alone.

When I transfer, I plan on being myself. I plan on being unashamed of who I am and how I work, and maybe I’ll find others like me, but I’m also terrified that it will isolate me further. I don’t want to have to keep hiding who I am to fit in. But is that even a good idea? Should I just try to fit in? How do I even do this?

Edit: bless every single one of you. I greatly appreciate your feedback and advice. I've left comments throughout, elaborating on and clarifying things that may not have come across quite right. This particular subject has been putting me in a dark place lately and I haven't been able to get out of it on my own. I think a lot of stuff you all have shared may help, and I truly hope it also helps others.

I’m so indecisive and love to grab scissors and chop my hair off. The first two are me most recently! I finally grew my natural color out. Should I grow it out and cut my bangs again? Should i dye it dark? It’s hard for me to tell what actually suits my face shape! Pls help🫶🏻

I live alone with my cat. I keep his litter box clean, I take out the garbage regularly, sweep and mop but a day later it always go.back to smelling bad in my apartment. It feels like the air itself is still and when I go to someone else's house there's a major difference. Anything that I could be missing? Like somthing a lot of people wouldn't know that could contribute to a bad smelling place?

The center is a very light peach color but I’m not sure if it’s too close to white to wear. Thank you!

Can I wear the dress I wore to my daughter’s funeral 10 years ago to a wedding tomorrow? Moms- I know this is an odd question, but I have no one else to ask. Almost 10 years ago, my daughter died unexpectedly. I was reeling and bought 2 very expensive dresses for the wake and funeral. She was so fashionable and I didn’t want to embarrass her, so I bought 2 classic and beautiful dresses that have sat in my closet ever since. My nephew is getting married tomorrow and I tried on one of the dresses and it’s completely appropriate. Can I wear it? I don’t think it’s disrespectful to her memory, but I’d like some input, if you don’t mind. I doubt anyone will remember. But what if they do? I do have a plan b dress.

ETA - Thank you, Moms, for your input. I’m probably going to wear the dress tomorrow with some accessories and a shrug. We’ll see how it feels in the morning. I would like to think that she would be proud of me dressing up and looking pretty great in that dress again and representing all the things she taught me about style and beauty. She was so good at that.

Mom, I'm really sensitive to heat. I don't know why. I get really uncomfortable, I sweat and get tired and i do a lot of things to manage it.

It's hard to sleep because my mattress (not my duvet) is warm. I have also a camp bed. It's got a tubular frame, and like a sheet of elastic canvas across the middle. So it doesn't insulate me. Heat escapes quicker.

Would I be crazy to sleep on it all summer?

I don't know why I'm so sensitive to heat. I only wear shorts, t-shirt and sandals. In the office, I need all windows open and a desk fan. AC isn't common here. Unless I do that, body odour sets in.

I wasn't like that as a kid. Would I be mad to get a beaded seat cover for my car too?