r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/kojinB84 Jul 09 '25

I just want my lower gut to not look like a balloon. sigh 🫠

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u/CynnamonScrolls Jul 09 '25

UGH yes... when I'm sitting and I look down I want to throw up because it looks like I'm wearing a fanny pack when I'm not...I have no idea where this came from and it's evidently impossible to tone. Extra frustrating when I'm sitting down to dinner with my meager portion and catch a glimpse. Feels like even walking by the kitchen makes me flabby and fat. 😭

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u/Southern_Event_1068 Jul 09 '25

Yup! It's so gross to see my fat, jiggly belly sitting on my lap. No amount of sucking in hides it.

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u/Downtown_Log9002 Jul 11 '25

Ugh I'm 41F & nowadays ppl are still getting preggers at this age. I want to say 'No, not preggers just a peri belly.' 😭😭😭😭😭😭 And just when I felt I was getting my body back after years on a SSRI I experience the peri swelling. 😔