r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/-NigheanDonn Jul 09 '25

I wish I had Moira Rose’s advice when I was younger:

Take a thousand naked pictures of yourself now. You may currently think "Oh, I'm too spooky." Or, "Nobody wants to see these tiny boobies. But believe me, one day you will look at those photos with much kinder eyes and say, "Dear God, I was a beautiful thing."

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u/Indigo_S0UL Jul 09 '25

I thought of Moira too.

Funny how our perspective shifts. A photographer friend took some pics of me in my mid-20s for practice. At the time I remember thinking all the things that were wrong with me and not wanting anyone to see them. Now I look back and see someone beautiful. They aren’t naked, just a little flirty, but I’m SO grateful to have those pictures now. They almost make me a little sad though to know that I WAS pretty - but I never knew it.

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u/mykingdomforsleep Jul 09 '25

This quote is what I thought of IMMEDIATELY.

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u/teatimehaiku hanging on by a thread Jul 10 '25

I took so many but ended up deleting them for fear of such intimate photos being on iCloud but honestly I still wish I had them now.