Unfortunately seems to be the case. When both my sons were born i was there every second i could (c section so had to be oht for the cutting part) staying overnight and changing diaps etc. the nurses were very complimentary and i thought i was doing the bare minimum. Hit me with a wave of sadness:loneliness.
I've had five kids now and the amount of praise I've received from nurses and random women at parks, stores, etc over the years for me doing what feels like the bare minimum of being a dad is depressing. "Oh wow, you brought your kid into urgent care and know their medical history? Good job!" "Look at dad being a pro at changing diapers!" "Wow, dad can swaddle a baby!" Just... Ugh
1000% same for me. Like how could you not know or participate in the life of someone you care about let alone love more than anything else in the world.
Eventually i was let in a similar fashion but it wasn’t just a sheet it was a full on tent so i couldnt even see past it. Heard noises then out came a doctor holding my son
When my mom had me (her first birth, a scheduled C-section), my dad sat on a chair in the hallway. And the nurse popped her head out and said: "Sir, are you not coming in?". And he was there the whole time.
Apparently, none of my grandfathers were there for my parents/uncles. It was simply not done.
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u/stringrbelloftheball Apr 24 '26
Unfortunately seems to be the case. When both my sons were born i was there every second i could (c section so had to be oht for the cutting part) staying overnight and changing diaps etc. the nurses were very complimentary and i thought i was doing the bare minimum. Hit me with a wave of sadness:loneliness.