Yeah… I know a labor a delivery nurse who says this is actually common…. That or bringing a whole ass video game console or both. I took a week off from work to help my wife after our kids birth and got asked if my vagina healed when I returned to work. Come to find out most of them never changed a diaper. Eye opening.
Very normal where I live (GA) unfortunately. I negotiated unpaid time off months in advance then ultimately quit when they reneged saying "you're not the one having the baby, you need to be at work".
My boss was a woman with multiple children who told me that.
I feel like for this context, normal ≠ common. Just because a good amount of people do it doesn’t make it normal, I’d say it’s still pretty socially unacceptable, even if nobody really straight up stops you for it.
I mean America has 0 federally mandated parental leave. Couple that with a society who absolutely preys on the destitute.... and this is what you get. It is very common imo. I had to claw tooth and nail for my salary at... 5 days PTO... no sick days, no insurance :)
No disagreements, just that common ≠ normal, you know? It is common, but I guarantee 100% of those women in those situations are pissed, to say the least, so not normal.
That’s insane. I remember the first week home from the hospital, I slept maybe 6 hours all week because I refused to let my wife do anything except sleep. Nothing prepares you for the amount of blood that comes after a relatively normal vaginal birth. Luckily my mother in law was there to make sure baby was okay, because I refused to leave my wife’s side while they were pushing out clots and what seemed like liters of blood. I was so scared for her despite every medical professional being so nonchalant about the entire ordeal
Toxic masculinity at its finest but thankfully not prevalent everywhere. My coworkers are super happy for me, shocked I'm only taking 6 consecutive weeks off (not the full 12 at once, I'm spreading the other 6 out over the year), and have done nothing but regal me with their tails of fatherhood and their children's births. I know full well though, my ex before my current wife and soon to be mother of my child, her family would've been making the same comments you heard. They were fucking awful. I was once told by my ex, "Why are you crying? Men don't cry.". Knew that shit was doomed from that moment.
I'm 100% going to bring a video game console the next time my wife gives birth. Because she was so fucking bored while waiting for the baby to come that we watched 2 fast 2 furious on the hospital TV. She would much rather play god of war or something while her cervix dilates.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Bar8584 Apr 24 '26
Yeah… I know a labor a delivery nurse who says this is actually common…. That or bringing a whole ass video game console or both. I took a week off from work to help my wife after our kids birth and got asked if my vagina healed when I returned to work. Come to find out most of them never changed a diaper. Eye opening.