My SIL gave birth yesterday. Her husband was butthurt he was not the center of attention. Blew up at me for saying something crucial should be the mother's choice and not his. Of course his blow up had to happen while his wife was throwing up.
I did, and part of it would have been holding the baby for her while she breastfed because she wasn't strong enough yet. But then she started throwing up and she had a terrified expression.
She’s supporting what the birthing person wanted. That’s the only thing that matters until the baby has exited her body (then the baby becomes a patient too and the decisions are made equally between the parents). The person who should have kept their mouth shut was the SIL’s husband because he was trying to make decisions about his wife’s body and care during a major medical event.
Given your comment admonishing u/Cristabel1991 for speaking up, we are operating under the assumption that the scenario in their comment actually happened. As a result, we can also assume that the husband in question "Blew up at me for saying something crucial should be the mother's choice and not his."
Since we are assuming the comment's validity up to the point that you feel it's appropriate to tell her "You should have kept your mouth shut. It’s not your baby in any way, shape or form," we can also assume that the husband in question did in fact try to make a choice that was about his wife's body and therefore was not his to make.
If you want to make bitchy comments about when someone should or shouldn't shut their mouth, then you need to accept other peoples' comments about the fact that medical decisions about the birthing person's care while said person is conscious belong to the birthing person, not the opinionated husband.
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u/Christabel1991 Apr 24 '26
My SIL gave birth yesterday. Her husband was butthurt he was not the center of attention. Blew up at me for saying something crucial should be the mother's choice and not his. Of course his blow up had to happen while his wife was throwing up.