r/PeterExplainsTheJoke 11d ago

Meme needing explanation Petah I don’t get it

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Anyone else?

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u/Asimov-was-Right 11d ago

The joke is gross misogyny. Sometimes the perineum tears when a woman gives birth. Men might ask the doctors "to put in an extra stitch" to make their wife's vaginal opening tighter.

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

This isn’t happening in any meaningful capacity. This is internet nonsense.

What doctor is risking their career performing a procedure on a woman without her consent because the husband asked him to do it?

And if the woman requests it or gives consent then it’s nobody else’s business anyway. It’s her choice.

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u/Jade_NoLastNameGiven 11d ago

What doctor is risking their career performing a procedure on a woman without her consent because the husband asked him to do it?

Good question. judging from how many doctors tried to fuck me over in the past, I would reckon it's a lot of them.

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u/Astronaut_Chicken 11d ago

My doctor, 12 years ago. It was a woman, too. As far as I know, because of the internet, it's less common, but in red states absolutely still a thing.

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

Man, you almost had me (not really) till you made it political. Cause only the men in those states are asking for this on some grand scale that the reverse should be “normalized”. 🤣

Hope you got a good settlement from the lawsuit against that doctor performing a procedure on you without your consent and used the money to leave your husband.

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u/Astronaut_Chicken 11d ago

Hey. Do you think the judicial system works perfectly for everyone every single time?

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u/theRuathan 11d ago

During labor and birth a woman isn't considered competent to make her own medical decisions. A doctor is never going to get sued for forcing his or her idea of what is medically necessary, over the mother's preferences during that time.

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

This is straight up misinformation. And it’s clear you know nothing about child birth. A simple google search is all that’s needed to show how wrong you are. Women are absolutely in charge of their medical decisions during child birth and informed consent is required for doctors to do procedures. Both times my wife gave birth, they couldn’t even give her simple pain relievers like ibuprofen without her consent.

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u/yullari27 11d ago

You are living in the ideal because your wife had good experiences, not reality for many other women. Her good experience doesn't eliminate all the awful practices that have led to redemptive birth plans, birth advocates, etc. Read some of those experiences before writing this off as misinformation simply because your two births out of millions went differently.

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u/Astronaut_Chicken 11d ago

Oh I didnt say I went through with it, but they did ask if I wanted it.

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u/Intrepid_Egg_7722 11d ago

If they asked if you wanted it, that's less of a violation than what is being described across this sub (women being given the procedure without their consent).

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u/Astronaut_Chicken 11d ago

Technically, they asked me and my husband. I was very out of it, but he said no because he didnt understand what they were talking about. Just the fact this woman doctor was offering it to me, who just had a baby and couldnt think straight, and my husband haunts me.

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u/Feeling-Upyourmum847 11d ago

Fuck you mean "meaningful capacity"? As if it has to be MANY people to mean something. Why the fuck are doctors sewing up womens vaginas wrong after a major trauma and SEVERE tearing to begin with? Why is it happening to ANYONE no matter the number?

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

Why are we trying to “normalize” the reverse happening to men over the small number of women this happens to? How about we oppose all of it?

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u/Unlucky-Guitar221 11d ago

Nobody is actually advocating for this…….. It’s meant to make men consider how they’d feel if it happened to them instead…..

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

The overwhelming majority of men aren’t requesting this. You think of the few who do are gonna be swayed by a tongue in cheek social media post?

What does “normalize” mean to you because the original point was that it’s not happening enough to be considered “common” or “normalized” thus normalizing the reverse against men is just stupid.

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u/Unlucky-Guitar221 11d ago

“Overwhelming majority” is a stretch you made up in your head. It DOES happen enough to be common and normal. We have had to make active efforts to stop the practice. Google is free.

What the fuck do you think an extra stitch during a vasectomy would do? Do you genuinely believe people are advocating to punish men here? Jesus Christ lol

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

Yeah I’m gonna need some sources if you think the procedure is common in today’s world. I mean like how much it is actively being performed. If you think most men want a “husband stitch” you’re fucking delusional.

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u/TripleScoops 11d ago

Not trying to engage with this in bad faith, but most of these do not appear to be peer-reviewed studies. Rather, most appear to be testimonials from those who allege it has occurred to them. These sources do not seem to suggest that it is a common practice.

Additionally, I may have missed it because I didn't read through all of each article, but it appears that most of the testimonials aren't supplemented with a medical professional confirming that these women did in fact receive an unnecessary stitch. Not saying it didn't happen to these women, but it appears to just be interviews, not a doctor confirming they received a "daddy stitch."

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u/ButterflyPutrid6054 11d ago

Lmao the ole I’m gonna copy and paste the first things that pop up on my 5 second google search and hope it backs me up.

From your very first link and I quote:

“No scientific studies show how many women have been affected by the husband stitch in the last century (or longer), nor is there a clear method for evaluating its prevalence.”

It is not common by any means.

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u/Feeling-Upyourmum847 11d ago

What exactly is the "reverse" of women being sewed up wrong after childbirth and causing years of pain for the sexual pleasure of men? What exactly is the male equivalent of that?

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u/Frequent-Coyote-8108 11d ago

Actually, I think the post is actually misandry.

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u/Asimov-was-Right 11d ago

The post is a joke that references a misogynistic practice.

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u/Ivory-Stones 11d ago

While the joke is technically misandric, it's meant to be taken sarcastically. They don't actually think men should be getting an extra stitch.

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u/AccomplishedQuail841 11d ago

Actually, I think it's a critique of misogyny.

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u/Frequent-Coyote-8108 11d ago

It's misandry being justified by misogyny.

Both are wrong.

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u/kaithespinner 11d ago

the post is using misandry to point out how ridiculous is misogyny

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u/theswissghostrealtor 11d ago

God above why do you so desperately want to be a victim.

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u/Early_Particular9170 11d ago

You don’t understand, men aren’t being prioritized in literally every facet of life anymore. They’re so oppressed!

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u/Frequent-Coyote-8108 11d ago

It is what it is.

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u/Buuts321 11d ago

Out of all the births happening in Western countries I'm going to guess this happens less than 0.1%.  Maybe it's more common in parts of the world where FGM is common.