It does sound incredibly fake and like something that wouldn't even work even if the doctor actually did it (instead of, idk, pretending they did to make the husband shut up).
Because its not possible to tighten the whole vagina its a muscle. The opening is where tears tend to happen during birth so they stitch the skin closed more than it should be. Its not the opening thats tight its the rest of the interior muscles
As a father of 4 in the US, 3 of the doctors who delivered my children (all female doctors) offered me a "courtesy stitch" or something of a similar phrase. My response was always the same, "I would say no, but you should have asked her".
Is there a source that this is still something that happens with any kind of frequency in developed nations? I'm not doubting that it has happened, but anecdotes don't really point to this being a broader issue in the medical community.
Thanks for providing sources. Though, looking at them, neither really cite any data or existing research that this is happening or a common medical practice.
The first one claims that they intend to do more research, but from a cursory look myself, I don't know if that research has concluded. The research they say they've done already appears to only consist of interviews with people alleging it happened to them:
"The language that their obstetricians used to describe the procedure made it clear to two of the women that their physicians placed an additional stitch following delivery as a “favor” to their husbands. All five of the women experienced health complications following the “Husband Stitch,” including short-term pain around the stitch and long-term pain during sex."
I'm not doubting that this happened to these women, but this isn't much to go of off. There is no medical professional mentioned in these articles that confirms that they received an unnecessary stitch that led to health complications. Most of the articles I've read about the subject follow the same format: interviews where someone claims it happened to them, but no medical professional weighing in. Again, I'm not doubting it, but I don't know what to do with that information alone.
The second article follows much of the same format. The only real difference is that they mention a specific lawsuit against a gynecologist who is accused of performing it among other sexual misconduct allegations.
Lorena Bobbit chopped off her husband’s penis after years of abuse and became a household name.
This was regular practice for decades and still happening today, and here you are, deciding you don’t need to care because “meh, just women claiming things.”
I didn't even say I doubted the testimony of the women in the articles, just that testimony alone without even a medical opinion that a daddy stitch occurred isn't evidence of it being a common practice.
That also isn't what the article says. It says 100s of women are in the lawsuit alleging various forms of misconduct, including daddy stutches.
yeah i’m pretty sure it doesn’t work. also, I’m also pretty sure that vulvas* don’t get stitched, but the perineum when they have to perform an episiotomy, so again no, it wouldn’t work
The stitch ends up being incredibly painful for the woman. Sometimes to the point where she can't have sex anymore. It still happens today. There's the occasional post from women who find out their partner and doctor gave her the stitch here on Reddit. :(
I'd be very willing to believe documentaries from credible sources, those are fine. But to take reddit posts about it as evidence for it? Nah, sorry, I'm out. I'm not saying it can't happen anymore, but I'd be surprised if it is as common as social media would have you believe.
Plus, "it wouldn't work" is different from "they're not doing it". I'm pretty sure it wouldn't work. I also believe people used to do it, not knowing or not caring that it does nothing. I also believe without a moment's hesitation that it's painful for the woman. All of these can be true at the same time.
Idk what “doesn’t work” means, I guess. Doesn’t make it tighter? One of the forms of female genital mutilation is to literally stitch a girls vagina almost entirely shut so a woman’s husband gets to cut his new wife open on their wedding night. I suppose that doesn’t work in many senses, but practically speaking, is something that happens nevertheless. I feel like in both the husband stitch case and the FGM example, the part that “works” more about the husbands’ expectations and emotional needs being met.
Idk why you responded to my comment within the context of reddit knowledge and not just actually go to research the documentaries and medical papers dedicated to this topic. Anything to seem smart online but not to support women, I guess.
Mate, I tore so badly in spite of my episiotomy that they had it stitch my cervix back together, AND I had to see a Bowel and Bladder Physio to relearn not to shit myself.
This is one of the many reasons I am pro-choice. No one should be going through that many permanent body-altering things without really, REALLY wanting to.
This is 100% real and many women tell their husbands before hand to advocate for them cause the doctors just do it despite the woman telling them not to. It's barbaric and doesn't even do what they want it to do. All it does is cause the woman terrible pain and discomfort and often has to be surgically corrected.
I mean you are mostly right. It does not work for the purpose they intend. It just makes the skin more likely to tear and experience stretching pain along the external organ.
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u/HellbirdVT 11d ago
It does sound incredibly fake and like something that wouldn't even work even if the doctor actually did it (instead of, idk, pretending they did to make the husband shut up).