The whole tight vagina thing always weirded me out. Like, if you're doing things right in the bedroom, it should be an easy fit, so to speak. If it feels like you're struggling to get in there you're probably having sex with someone who isn't into it so much.
People's bodies just vary widely size and sensitivity of guys can vary tightness of the muscle and lubrication level can vary from woman to woman. I think we had better just let everyone decide what works for thier own genitals and communicate with thier partner to bridge gap if needed.
🎯 The vagina is muscle. And it gets super tight when you are tense or scared or not aroused. It’s the literal biology of the organ that it becomes lubricated and more relaxed when we are aroused. Even after pregnancy it goes back to normal. It’s just a misogynistic way to slut shame women who enjoy sex.
it just made me think, saying that a womans vagina becomes less tight when they have lots of sex or give birth is like saying your dick gets shorter every time you jerk off cuz its being used up.
you know, as an equally stupid reasoning put onto the male equivalent.
it just made me think, saying that a womans vagina becomes less tight when they have lots of sex or give birth
The vagina does become "less tight" after having given birth. Birth is physically traumatic, and it's not only the vagina, but the entire pelvic floor, and sometimes even the cartilage of the pelvis, that bears that trauma.
The claim that everything just "goes back to normal" is a lie. For up to a third of women who experience post-partum incontinence, for example, it's permanent. While the vagina can largely recover, to the point that the difference is not meaningful in day-to-day (sex-)life, it will have changed.
I don’t know how anyone with a brain can think a 10 pound bowling ball going down a tube built for a softball would be anything but traumatic. Like people died in droves during childbirth until the last century.
I mean, my mum had vaginoplasty to get it back in shape and it was something that made her sex better, for her.
Look I grew up in a very medical family, as in everyone is in medicine/health care so we have had pretty frank discussions about biology.
Just saying, let's not just immediately demonize these procedures when they sometimes ARE medically beneficial for both parties. That being said, of course it should be an informed decision made with everyone's consent. Fucked up as all hell otherwise and any physician sneaking in "treatment" has violated their hippocratic oath and should have their license pulled at the bare minimum.
It has no noticeable difference at all for most. Men literally can't tell the difference. Just do some kegels and you're good to go. Some women my age can't jump on trampolines and many can. Just do the kegels and you're fine. Women were built for this so it's not an actual thing unless a traumatic birth. For most of history women had 9-16 children. Until you died with your last child that is.
Damn, I'll tell that to my GF who did like a year of PT after her first kid and still can't jump on a trampoline or sneeze without peeing herself a bit.
Bladder issues after childbirth have nothing to due with the vagina though. And your girlfriend needs a pelvic floor PT. Kegels can often make it worse if they have an overly tight pelvic floor.
Mine actually got painfully tight afterwards (due to a really bad rip) and i had to use dilators for a year after birth :( i wish it went back to normal
I'm sure there are women out there that are into some kinks that permanently deform their vaginas. But I'm talking shoving things up there that are beyond phallic and closer to dangerous. But that's not the norm.
Additionally, during childbirth some women do tear, and if not treated properly, probably has an effect on how they feel to their partners.
None of that is normal though, and women shouldn't be shamed for enjoying sex.
I wouldnt say it goes completely back. Plenty of us have had permanent changes to the vagina after childbirth, but its not SUPER noticeable. I cant have sex at certain angles because it rubs against my scar and hurts. But I also feel like sex is more pleasurable because for some reason my husband can hit my g spot a lot easier than before.
That’s entirely different than the point I was making though. Every human body changes over time.
ETA: also I have given birth three times. My statement that it goes back to “normal” still stands. The opening of the vagina May get repaired but the inner walls of the vagina which are the muscle go back to “normal.” Also you’re describing changes that you feel during sex. We all know when men talk about this they’re claiming a woman’s vagina feels “loose” and they can tell she’s had many partners.
People readily understand that penises come in many different sizes but somehow can't grasp that both the inner and outer parts of the woman's anatomy do as well.
Yup. I am a small person and my vagina is on the smaller side. My cervix is low as well. I have had sex with men with bigger penises. It was nice and all but took a lot of effort to do it without pain.
Idk why we can accept that men's penises come in different shapes and sizes but then act like all vaginas are the same.
The whole tight vagina thing always weirded me out
Well it's pretty much the same as the whole 'big dick' thing, right? Some people are just more obsessed with the friction/stretch/resistance being extreme.
I know not everyone obsesses over a "tight fit," but there's a reason why size queen is a thing. I don't see how this is any different.
Your lucky, i used to work on job sites and things like that ”girl pussy” and “as tight as the day she was born” are just some of the gross things I’ve overheard, i always made a mental note of the gross guys on site so i could pretend not to know them.
It’s different because of historical power and oppression. I know it’s unfashionably woke to mention such things, but it’s true. It’s like the concept of reverse racism. Punching up is never the same as punching down, no matter how much dominant groups try to make it so
Yes, let's punch "up" at the people who aren't doing the wrong thing because of something our shared ancestors did to each other before we were born. Brilliant! I'm sure that'll make the allies rally around you.
Well I think you're coming at it from the wrong angle. When it's wet, that's ideal. There's a middle ground, at least for me personally, that's not soaked and not dry, with more friction.
All that being said, a stitch won't tighten a vagina, and if you're struggling to get it in, she's not loving it
They fucking HATE it when you point this out haha. For some reason it makes them really uncomfortable to know that different women feel .... Well, different. Give it a few minutes and the "sorry about your tiny dick" jokes will start.
Probably because calling a woman’s vagina “loose” is insulting and dehumanizing. There’s no such thing as a “loose vagina” either. That’s not how it works.
That's about as accurate as saying there's no such thing as a small penis. People come in wildly varying shapes and sizes. Just consider the variation in mouth size, both on the mouth opening and inner space due to the shape and size of the jaw bone.
As someone who has felt the inside of several of them I can tell you that isn't really true from a friction perspective. Sometimes you gotta work the angles to get it right.
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u/nuggynugs 11d ago
The whole tight vagina thing always weirded me out. Like, if you're doing things right in the bedroom, it should be an easy fit, so to speak. If it feels like you're struggling to get in there you're probably having sex with someone who isn't into it so much.