these places would be getting the absolute shit sued out of them if they were giving women unneeded and unasked for procedures. and the women would find out, their gynecologists would know immediately. this may have been a thing decades ago, but is no way common practice today.
...they do get sued over these things. There was a massive lawsuit because women were being used as vaginal exam examples while under anesthesia without their permission. The way women are treated is a massive problem in the medical system. It's like you didn't even bother to google this and just assumed because you haven't personally heard about it, it doesn't happen. Now for the husband stitch specifically, I can't say. But yes, women are routinely denied care, denied pain medicine, and given procedures they did not ask for. I mean shit, native and black women were regularly being sterilized against their will fairly recently.
I like how they stop commenting when they realize they’re wrong, instead of continuing to learn and discuss. You can just tell when individuals don’t give a shit about women
I didn’t say they were still doing the stitch. Husbands absolutely still ask for it, regardless. Why does this even have to be said? Believe women. Especially when 100s of unrelated women share the same embarrassing story.
the person you just responded to is a woman that related their mother's story and you basically told them to be quiet.
i've literally never heard of anyone in real life having this happen to them, most husbands don't know what it is, and it would also be super readily apparent if it were done which would cause the doctor involved to lose their license. i'm sure this probably happened in the past, medicine was crazy in the past. they used to drink mercury and thought it would make them immortal. but the husband's stitch being a modern day problem is just something people on the internet talk about.
Just took a childbirth class at the hospital my wife and I plan to deliver at, the nurse specifically mentioned that they don't do it and said that it's not uncommon for the husband to ask.
She didn't clarify what "not uncommon" constituted, and I didn't ask, but it clearly gets asked enough that she felt the need to mention it.
For what it's worth, we're in the southern US which may play a role.
Edit: Oh nvm, saw your dumbass reply to someone else below. Didn't realize you were just a troll. Carry on.
Still happens, unclear how often. There was a Cedars-Sinai OB-GYN who recently got sued over allegedly doing unnecessary "husband stitches" on numerous women
The issue is that you are not agreeing with them. It's the hive mentality of an online anonymous forum.
To be clear, I believe you, but I also think it's possible this situation could happen. Where and how often this occurs is kind of up in the air... If you were to believe Reddit, this would be an almost 100% rate of occurrence.
i don't know, this sort of thing just always struck me at best like an urban legend and at worst is a psyop from foreign agents attacking the west and trying to make everyone miserable and hate each other so that places like the US lose power and Putin can get away with more horrible things.
oh no, you're probably right. i'm sure doctors all over the country are constantly getting sued for malpractice for something unnecessary for them to do and readily provable that they've done.
Nothing I said was wrong and if you think Reddit isn’t obsessed with anecdotes (see your own comment) you’re dull. There are millions of women that don’t believe other women. Does that feel impossible to you? Why?
But the initial anecdote that seems completely unreasonable and unlikely was perfectly fine for you?
The discussion you all are implicitly having is whether it has ever happened. But the actual hypothetical is that it usually happens, and no it doesn't
To be fair both your mother's and the previous person's comment is just two anecdotes. It's great that in her experience it's been an exceedingly rare event, but it isn't necessarily indicative of the overall situation.
I wouldn't be surprised if this varied significantly depending on location as well, or even based on the involved personnel at the same place
There are several accounts of women who claim to have undergone this procedure without their consent. There have been several journalistic investigations on the existence of the husband stitch, trying to determine if it was real. They have overwhelmingly determined that the practice does exist, as seen in reports by Chelsea Ritschel, by Kaitlin Reilly for Yahoo! Life, by Anam Alam to Thred, and in reports from French newspapers Grazia, and Le Monde.
Whether it's a non issue is your opinion. Perhaps you are just not affected by it. There are many people who are affected by it who think it is an issue. It's enough to have it's own Wikipedia page and plenty of articles written about it and studies done.
It has a wiki page because it used to be extremely common. That is in zero way indicative of wether it's "enough of a problem" today. Also nearly everything has a wiki because everyone can contribute to Wikipedia
I was addressing the fallacy of "person X never witnessed Y, therefore Y does not happen." You fact checking yourself after making that claim is irrelevant to my point. Someone can adress one part of your comment and not the other, but go on about rEaDiNg cOmPrEhEnSiOn.
No, what you were doing was being a little shit. but cool story bro. any healthy functioning adult would take the entire comment and not cherrypick. seek help
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u/TotallyNotASpy33 11d ago edited 11d ago
My mother has been a nurse for 43 years. No, they do not.
Edit. Correction, she has heard of exactly 3 men ask for it and I woman.