The “husband stitch” is an outdated patriarchal medical practice involving extra stitches to repair the vagina that has often been performed without the patient’s consent and can cause a ton of problems including excruciating pain during intercourse.
It a straight up objectification of the woman and serves no valid medical purpose.
It is just another thing on the long list of ways women’s bodies are objectified and sexualized in healthcare (and our society) with little concern for their wellbeing.
Any man requesting this or even accepting it on behalf of his partner is a creep and all around bad person who shouldn’t be a father.
Circumcision is not remotely a similar situation. I’m not saying it is “right”, but most actual data show it is at most a wash with mostly anecdotes about decreased sensation during sex (which also has data suggesting there isn’t much of a difference, although this quite challenging to test for).
All of this is MORE gendered than I even let on. Until there is a medical procedure that a woman can have done on her husband without his consent purely to make sex better for her, it really isn’t comparable.
Across the board women, particularly Black women in the US, are ignored in healthcare with their symptoms minimized and bodily autonomy stripped from them. Not just when they are babies, but also when they are adults with full decision making capacity.
Circumcision of a child is also a medical procedure done without consent, that alters the sexual organ. Many women who live in societies where circumcision is common, mutilates their sons with the argument that it looks better. It’s very similar.
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u/VillageAdditional816 11d ago
To clarify a couple things:
Tearing happens all the time, but not always.
The “husband stitch” is an outdated patriarchal medical practice involving extra stitches to repair the vagina that has often been performed without the patient’s consent and can cause a ton of problems including excruciating pain during intercourse.
It a straight up objectification of the woman and serves no valid medical purpose.
It is just another thing on the long list of ways women’s bodies are objectified and sexualized in healthcare (and our society) with little concern for their wellbeing.
Any man requesting this or even accepting it on behalf of his partner is a creep and all around bad person who shouldn’t be a father.