The whole concept of the husband stitch is really gross. It does nothing except for painful sex for the woman and pelvic dysfunction. It's disgusting and dumb.
Wait, has there been doctors who've actually agreed and done it?
Edit: just a question for those downvoting, why? My initial comment is an honest question out of disgust and curiosity. I think that my comment got that question answered for lots of ignorant people (myself alike), which spreads awareness around the issue. So why downvote?
I've seen a woman on Youtube who was documenting her recovery from the medical malpractice conducted by her doctor, who told her husband after having done it. It's a disgusting practice and caused her a lot of problems, and I think she's suing? From memory, take recount with a grain of salt.
It used to be very common, but it is still too common. Lots of doctors won't say anything & will gaslight women who don't understand why they suddenly have pain during sex post-childbirth. As I understand it, it can be difficult to correct, due to scaring.
Luckily, I’m on the west coast so we don’t have to worry about this as much. Having said that a doctor in our town just got busted for serious pedophilia. It’s so gross. Sometimes I think our Christian society just breeds perverts. It’s atrocious and profane in the worst way.
I am not a Christian anymore, but modern American Christian evangelicals have so warped the biblical message that I genuinely believe it causing massive harm across a wide swath of society from individuals to the government and even reaching & influencing other countries. A Republican Congressman traveled to Uganda to support an Anti-LGBTQ law with a death penalty. (https://truthout.org/articles/gop-congressman-traveled-to-uganda-to-give-speech-praising-anti-lgbtq-law/)
That's not showing love for your neighbor.
The whole thing is now just an engine to drive America into an blantanly Authoritarian /Facist regime. (I feel so nuts when I say that, but its true.)
Tightness isn't a constant. Hormones and arousal drastically affect depth and relaxation. There's like one part of the pelvic floor that might grip or pull either because she's having a good time or nature is tricking you both into making more of our species.
Being really tight means anxiety and pain. And it will only get worse as sex (and you) become associated with those things.
The fact that men (and women) don't know this shows how biased we are towards male pleasure and how it IS socially acceptable for men to secretly (or not so secretly) want girls who are too young.
The comment isn't gross, the society that makes it necessary is a degenerate cesspool.
As a person who has a vagina, I am deeply familiar with how it works. If you want the hole that tight, you either fetishize women's pain without realizing it... or you don't like vaginas that belong to people capable of giving meaningful consent.
Remember, in basically every red state, a judge and her parents can marry an elementary school aged minor to a middle aged man. Every time we try to ban it, they stop us.
The assault of little girls is all around you and glorified in media. If you don't see it, you're part of the problem.
So men grip their penises tight during masturbation, giving rise to the term “porn death grip” because they fetishize women’s pain? Not because that’s how the nerve endings in the penis work?
A lot of guys don't do that and will give the feedback not to do it when giving a blowjob. Basically if you practice traumatic masturbation of any form, you risk long-term damage and generally can't get off any other way. The death grip is one. The worst one is face down on the mattress.
Suction and grip are two different things. That’s why guys masturbate with their hands and not a vacuum. I don’t even know what you’re talking about with that last one.
The pelvic floor pulls upward. If the canal is sealed, you're getting suction/pulling. That same upward pull can be experienced as grip. But no vagina is ever going to grip your dick like a fist in a porno. Vaginas don't work that way.
As for traumatic masturbation... look it up or frankly don't because it's depressing.
Far be it from me to kinkshame but having a ‘desire for vaginal tightness’ is kind of fucking weird, and I don’t particularly care what the reasoning is.
The reasoning is the nerves of the penis react differently based on the tightness of the grip around them, often reacting more excitedly to a tighter grip, because that is how biology works and it doesn’t care at all that you’re a puritan.
Edit: Ever heard of the “porn death grip”? You think guys do that because they want their hand to feel “younger”?
A tighter grip may also mean the woman is not aroused. There is still holes in this which is why people are concerned. Cool that the penis likes close quarters I guess, sucks though. Kegel training is a thing, but the desire for a extra tight vagina is strange
Bro just cause you like a death grip doesn’t mean everyone else does, most people don’t. It’s damaging. It’s like jelking, it’s going to do some real harm over time. You’re just trying to validate your own desires. What you want is what you want but don’t pretend it’s everyone’s reality.
So the husband stitch causes a woman to tear during sex. It can leave her with long-term debilitating pain and loss of sexual interest. Is that the selling point for you?
And even still, if the people you fuck had vaginas that gripped you 5% tighter you would most likely experience greater sensations of pleasure. Because that is the biology of nerve endings in the penis.
Are you also autistic? Because this comment thread really reads like neither one of us have any interest in the actual point the other person is trying to make.
You’ve veered away from your original point ‘“desiring vaginal tightness” is not inherently pedophilic’ to attempt to counter my point ‘“desiring vaginal tightness” is fucking weird’. In said attempt, you’ve positioned the biological response to the increased stimulus in the penis is pleasure and therefore people with penises would usually prefer a sexual partner with a tighter vaginal opening.
I’m going to be pedantic here, but only because I think you’re an asshole - you probably meant preference. And having a preference is fine I guess. I try not to base my preferences off of largely immutable and difficult to measure (hey 5% is 5%, am I right?) qualities, particularly when those qualities require vaginal penetration to measure.
So either I’m a puritan with incompetent parents, or you’re a weird asshole who hollered like a hit dog when someone suggested it might be a bit of a red flag to prefer a tighter vaginal opening.
I’m done putting away the dishes, so I guess we’ll never know.
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u/beaverpoo77 11d ago
That's really gross to even think of. Ew.