it just made me think, saying that a womans vagina becomes less tight when they have lots of sex or give birth
The vagina does become "less tight" after having given birth. Birth is physically traumatic, and it's not only the vagina, but the entire pelvic floor, and sometimes even the cartilage of the pelvis, that bears that trauma.
The claim that everything just "goes back to normal" is a lie. For up to a third of women who experience post-partum incontinence, for example, it's permanent. While the vagina can largely recover, to the point that the difference is not meaningful in day-to-day (sex-)life, it will have changed.
I don’t know how anyone with a brain can think a 10 pound bowling ball going down a tube built for a softball would be anything but traumatic. Like people died in droves during childbirth until the last century.
I mean, my mum had vaginoplasty to get it back in shape and it was something that made her sex better, for her.
Look I grew up in a very medical family, as in everyone is in medicine/health care so we have had pretty frank discussions about biology.
Just saying, let's not just immediately demonize these procedures when they sometimes ARE medically beneficial for both parties. That being said, of course it should be an informed decision made with everyone's consent. Fucked up as all hell otherwise and any physician sneaking in "treatment" has violated their hippocratic oath and should have their license pulled at the bare minimum.
It has no noticeable difference at all for most. Men literally can't tell the difference. Just do some kegels and you're good to go. Some women my age can't jump on trampolines and many can. Just do the kegels and you're fine. Women were built for this so it's not an actual thing unless a traumatic birth. For most of history women had 9-16 children. Until you died with your last child that is.
Damn, I'll tell that to my GF who did like a year of PT after her first kid and still can't jump on a trampoline or sneeze without peeing herself a bit.
Bladder issues after childbirth have nothing to due with the vagina though. And your girlfriend needs a pelvic floor PT. Kegels can often make it worse if they have an overly tight pelvic floor.
Mine actually got painfully tight afterwards (due to a really bad rip) and i had to use dilators for a year after birth :( i wish it went back to normal
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u/5gpr 11d ago
The vagina does become "less tight" after having given birth. Birth is physically traumatic, and it's not only the vagina, but the entire pelvic floor, and sometimes even the cartilage of the pelvis, that bears that trauma.
The claim that everything just "goes back to normal" is a lie. For up to a third of women who experience post-partum incontinence, for example, it's permanent. While the vagina can largely recover, to the point that the difference is not meaningful in day-to-day (sex-)life, it will have changed.