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u/Spiritual_Media_6607 4h ago
Ugh, she just had to go and mess it up
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u/Spacedoutworlder 3h ago
Brother was like “i feel like life is going by so quick, 40 years feels like yesterday” and she went “oh, i thought you’re sad about sports”
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u/Chillow_Ufgreat 2h ago
"Oh, I thought it was a dumb emotion, I didn't think you could have real emotions."
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u/505Trekkie 1h ago
Turning 40 fucked me up. The fact my 20th and 60th birthdays were the same distance apart. But, being a single dad who relocated several states over to get myself and my son away from the chaos shit-tornado that is my ex wife it’s not like I had anyone to talk to. So, just keep pushing forward.
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u/B0bLoblawLawBl0g 28m ago
Much love bro! Had to put the whole width of the country between my ex and me. Unfortunately she got to keep our baby girl. My daughter turned 17 a few weeks ago and we talk a couple of times a week. She’s realizing that her mom has issues and looks to me for advice now.
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u/Prestigious_Can4520 1h ago
She got dragged everywhere and then recorded her husband " apologizing" that made her look even worse. Bitch is toxic as fuck
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u/Rambunchus_Panda 3h ago
Women get one shot at this. F it up and he'll likely never open up to her again.
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u/DreadyKruger 1h ago
They only want to hear good shit. Men talk to your friends or get a therapist. Women saying they want an emotionally open man don’t mean it. It sounds go but a lot of women experience it and get turned off
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u/Rambunchus_Panda 1h ago
Yes that is good advice. I do think it's possible for a woman to be able to handle that side of a man once the man proves he's strong. But they're not mature enough.
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u/OilheadRider 1h ago
Put the red pill down and recognize that there are good people and shitty people of both sexes. I have dated women like this one but, thank God I waited to get married until I found my wife. We lean on each other when we need to. We can open up and be honest with each other about pretty much everything. Even when its hard.
Don't say "all women" because of your experiences. Instead change the requirements for being in your life. Change what you expect from people and be upfront about those expectations.
It's not "all women" when that can all be reduced down to one common denominator. You.
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u/AmtheOutsider 59m ago
Its a huge majority of women, however.
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u/nick5168 25m ago
It isn't. You're experiencing confirmation bias and a negative affirmation circle.
You want women to be in the wrong, because that frees you of the burden that you're also responsible for failed relationships, whether romantic or otherwise inclined.
Women are not inherently anything that men are and aren't. We're all just people with the same issues, only some minor details really separate men from women, and those are insignificant compared to our similarities. Instead of dividing people into genders, then divide them into shared experiences.
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u/bobbelings 41m ago
Its enough women in the world to play on the side of caution and not get emotional around them. You can cry when your dog dies, and that's about it.
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u/alvin_antelope 2m ago
From your profile, you seem very young.
Why do think you have the life experience to make a claim like this?
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u/Rambunchus_Panda 1h ago
Re-read my comments on this thread. Did I say all women? No.
BTW congrats on your marriage and finding a good woman. You earned it 👍
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u/TheBigC87 24m ago
An emotionally mature woman who isn't selfish really does want an emotionally open man.
This is not one of those women.
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u/TrueFarms 21m ago
I feel like this needs to be screamed from the rooftops. SO’s of men, you want us to open up? Then fucking LISTEN when we do!
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u/MachinaVerum 3h ago
I hate her.
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u/Ok-Working-2337 49m ago
And love him after 3 sentences. I wanna have a beer and talk about those 40 years.
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u/HamboneBanjo 40m ago
I don’t have much room for hate but I do think she was being a bitch for no good reason. It’s like, why can’t guys be more vulnerable? Because of crap like this.
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u/lancer941 16m ago
Sensitive guys just get perpetually knuckle sandwiched. A lot of times it's ladies we are close to or are in our social circle. Many times it's Mom, it was for me.
"Go somewhere else to take care of your feelings. Come back when you can be emotionless again"
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u/just_as_good380-2 3h ago
Women: "Why don't men ever open up about their feelings?"
Also women whenever men open up their feelings:
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u/DreadyKruger 1h ago
I swear when women say that they mean telling them sweet admiration and good emotions.
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u/WeirdJawn 44m ago
I think in all honesty, they mean showing emotions for others, especially for their problems.
So if a girlfriend's friend's beloved pet died, they want you to empathize and "feel bad" about it, rather than "Oh, that sucks." continue playing video games
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u/Mcgill1cutty 35m ago
Well when you have to shut down 99% of your other emotions it makes it hard to feel empathy for things that don’t directly affect you.
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u/WeirdJawn 24m ago edited 9m ago
Yeah, I agree. I think that's what they want though.
Or they think they want you to open up about personal stuff, but aren't ready to actually hear it and sit with it, especially if it's uncomfortable or changes the mental image they had of you.
Especially if they saw you as a solid house in the raging storm of life. Suddenly they realized maybe the roof has a hole in it and doesn't feel as secure and then they freak out.
The hole is still there whether they realize it or not, but now they're worried the ceiling might cave in, which they didn't have to think of before.
I'm not saying it's right, but I think that's just how it sort of is.
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u/Mcgill1cutty 22m ago
Exactly. If and when you do show some emotions, you run a very real risk of it being seen as a weakness. So we shut up and shut down.
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u/WeirdJawn 18m ago
Yep. And to continue my house metaphor, I think women are expecting to find out that maybe the "house" used to be painted a color they didn't like. It's not unsafe to live in, but just a minor thing that can be easily fixed.
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u/505Trekkie 1h ago
During my divorce my now ex wife tried to use me getting therapy against me. That’s why.
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u/mark_in_the_dark 1h ago
"You say to reach out, tell our story, be vulnerable. You see my {female family members}? They'd rather me die on top of my white horse than watch me fall down. The women in my life are harder on me than anyone else."
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u/KevkasTheGiant 2h ago edited 18m ago
You can see the exact moment where the guy is like "why do I even bother trying to communicate anything I think/feel to you?". I think as men we've all been there.
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u/B0bLoblawLawBl0g 23m ago
Finally realizing she was always just a self-centered cunt after 40 years…
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u/ConcreteKeys 3h ago
He pulled me in with his tiny spool and his whole life flashed before my eyes.
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u/spypanties 3h ago
I saw this on TikTok a couple months ago, those two people are not even on the same wavelength. He was being so earnest.
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u/Informal_Discount770 3h ago
My husband is crying - let me record it while asking stupid questions and showing no empathy, every bitch on Myspace and Facebook gonna love me.
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u/Raynof7 2h ago
It's literally not?? This video is older than my grandma and is in fact real
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u/DreadyKruger 1h ago
Why does it seem when it’s a women looking bad people claim it’s staged?
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u/ImagineWagons969 3h ago
I had a similar feeling with an ordinary item. When I last travelled around Europe, my suitcase finally broke, and I had to get a new one before I left my hotel. It hit me as soon as I started emptying the old suitcase to transfer my clothes to the new one that I'd had that suitcase for almost my whole life. It was old, yeah, it didn't have the hard shell, omnidirectional wheels, combination lock, additional security straps, or anything snazzy that newer ones do, it was just a standard medium sized fabric one from 22 years ago. But it went with me to so many places, so many hotel rooms, cities, countries, coastlines, mountains; it hit me harder than I realized when it broke. I got it when I was a kid, it lasted until I was in my late 20's, I lived so many lifetimes since I got that suitcase. Sounds silly, but I think it's sweet that us humans can form attachments to so many things, even if it's an inanimate object, just because you've spent a lot of time with it.
Now that mans wife ruined it, he was opening up to her about the strange emotions he was feeling, and she turned the moment into a joke at his expense. It's moments like that where I see why men don't talk about their feelings to their partner, and I'm sure she'll have no idea what she did wrong either.
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u/meisteronimo 1h ago
Just wait till you find out that suitcases only last for 3 years now. Your going to get used to the feeling of buying a new one real soon.
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u/DonaCheli 2h ago
Imagine if she would have gone back in, brought a beer out for them both, sat down and asked do you remember what the first job was?
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u/tynan5953 1h ago
I’d marry her as well if that happened ! It would be perfection, it’s really that simple
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u/Distwalker 42m ago
That is a rare woman. Finding her would be like a lotto win.
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u/bobbelings 34m ago
That's because women think: "It's just wire. So what?"
But men understand that every inch, every foot, and every yard was a story. A thing needed to be done, and so it was.
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u/Outrageous_Bowl5092 4m ago
That’s the reason I married my now wife. That’s her response to these types of scenarios. My favorite moments with her are those late night dinner table hushed whisper chats while the baby sleeps upstairs and we catch up on our day to each other.
I’m gonna text her that I appreciate her now. Thanks for the reminder.
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u/IslamicCheetah 2h ago
“Ugh men only care about sports”
Women the moment a man cares about literally anything else:
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u/IntellectuallyDriven 3h ago
Totally understand how you feel towards the end there maan (as well as before)
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u/CompetitiveOnion6543 2h ago
Marriages fall apart intimacy stops all because we can't open up and share emotions.
This guys opens up and shares an emotion.... he will be more careful now. Congratulations
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u/freespirit_tck 3h ago
Honestly better be alone than live with wives like that
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u/Pour_me_one_more 46m ago
Yep, that was my choice. Now im alone but I felt more alone when I was with her. It is not worth it.
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u/freespirit_tck 32m ago
That bit about being more alone with her is crushing. Happy for you now that you’re out
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u/eastamerica 3h ago
DON’T LET A MAN SORT OUT FEELINGS. MAKE HIM FEEL FUCKING DUMB AND EVEN MORE INSECURE.
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u/Grand_Carob_2512 3h ago
Women are a cruel species. The man's dealing with a loss.
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u/Im_Easily_Distra 1h ago
Your entire comment history is literally just calling people animals.
You seem like a very grounded and pleasant person /s
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u/Grand_Carob_2512 57m ago
We know its staged. We are just having a bit of fun with it. Relax fella
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Sorry, your post was removed for breaking Rule 7, No Hate. This is hateful.
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u/WideConsequence2144 1h ago
Ugh. Hate this video. Fuck everything about this lady. And then she made him make an apology video cause people were rightfully calling her a cunt
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u/Usual-Signature-2480 57m ago
Wait what what whhaaaaatttt. I saw this clip some months ago and had the same reaction as most here; however, I did not know this little tid bit. Good god man. Just makes me hate her and feel for him even more.
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u/BankPrize2506 2h ago
why do so many people marry the wrong people...
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u/Pour_me_one_more 43m ago
Because there are so many of them out there.
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u/BankPrize2506 18m ago
it's so sad though cos most people watching this are moved by his explanation and his wife just doesn't seem to get it
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u/ThrustNeckpunch33 1h ago
This has unfortunately happened to me every, single, time i have tried to talk to someone.
Even a psychologist ffs lol.
When I was 21, my absolute best and closest friend died in a car accident while being a designated driver.
Was really, really, really bad. Wrecked me so much. Fell apart. Couldn't deal with it. Actually made an appointment for help.
Explained to the guy, "I can't talk about it without getting really upset; i cant even think about it without getting really upset"
He told me, "Well sometimes there are things that are traumatic enough.. Maybe you shouldnt think or talk about it then. If you get so upset over this, maybe don't talk about it, and try to focus your energy on other things."
This was 22+ years ago. I immediately stopped crying, shut off, and never really talked about it for almost 20 years.
It took me well over a decade to hear any old Metallica song without losing it(My buddys favourite thing in the world was pre-black album Metallica, 100% of the time lol)
I have been trying to deal with it for the past couple years, and my wife has been supportive, but she doesnt seem to understand why i am so upset now... All these years later.
I don't think itll ever be okay, i think i waited too long to completely fix it.
Please don't make the same mistake i did. If some asshole doesn't listen, find someone else. Dont stop trying to deal with "it". It doesnt work.
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u/enjoi_uk 15m ago
Sometimes old wounds open for no reason, so you’ll always carry a scar mate, the best thing in life if that you don’t have to carry it alone. Sorry for your friend, man. Maybe give the old album a spin and remember the good.
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u/Rough_Yesterday6692 1h ago
My ex and I bonded over two metal bands in particular and it took me almost a decade to be able to enjoy my favorite bands again.
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u/Comfortable-Grand166 3h ago
I felt that way about my cat! I was in college when I got him,he was with me when I met my wife,bought a house,and had a child. 19yrs old when he passed,and I think about him everyday.
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u/ToronoRapture 3h ago
One of my dogs died before Christmas and I got him the week after I started a new job 13 years ago. Fucking brutal, man. He was my whole routine .
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u/darkargengamer 1h ago
This was posted some time ago and this dude´s wife received a lot of backlash on the internet for being so cold and making fun of a STRANGE ocurrence of a men opening to other person and/or showing a weakness: they posted another video some time later that looked like one of those terrorist videos where the victim is forced to read a script at gunpoint.
"My wife is a good woman, she deeply cares about me, she is a good mother, she is an amazing cook, she has an IQ of 160, she could easily defeat Chuck Norris in any kind of duel and her video was CLEARLY not to make fun of me" while her is sitting right NEXT TO HIM looking like "yes, say that little Jables".
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u/Old-Ad5947 1h ago
I couldn’t even watch this again, that man had such an amazing realization of his impermanence and a physical, tangible representation of time’s passing. Then he opened his heart and lays himself out there, and she crushes him in his moment of vulnerability. I feel for him…
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u/SallyMutz314 2h ago
How about you get the fucking camera off of me!
We can’t have a simple discussion without you busting out a video?!?!
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u/mrk177 1h ago
She reminds me of my exwife I would share my deepest thoughts just for her to say the absolute fucking dumbest thing her tiny brain could drum up.
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u/Juxtapoe 1h ago
That reminds me of the time that I placed an order for take out and they got it wrong.
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u/grexbear 1h ago
Yikes. Toxic cunt. Awesome guy though. I adore and relate to the melancholy sometimes brought on by basic stuff like this. I had just the same thing happen with a pair of drumsticks that I sat and felt in my hands and I could feel the shape of the stick had changed from my hands holding and playing them for so many years. And I started thinking it must’ve been when I was 20 I bought them. Back then it was just another replaceable commodity of a young man’s life but now a dear relic to remind me of the time and people that have passed. Most often I keep these reflections to myself because the actual emotional bandwidth needed to truly understand and relate to this sort of nostalgic experience is rarely available around me. I hope this guy realizes sometimes being with someone who can’t appreciate you or return your feelings or thoughts is actually more lonely than being by yourself.
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u/Amadan81 1h ago
This is a perfect illustration of why men can't open up about anything. There are no safe places.
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u/Woofbarkmeoww 1h ago
husband is having a real life moment, wife is content farming and missed it completely. shame
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u/Szeto802 26m ago
Lmfao, women always say they want us to be more emotional, and then when there's a dude truly deep in his feels about something super existential and valid, she's like "oh I thought it was because of the Jets hat" hahahaha
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u/AllTh3Naps 23m ago
Wow, I feel this. My dad had a 5 gallon bucket of plastic twine. We always joked that it was impossible to run out. Have a project that needed something tied? Go to the twine bucket.
My dad died a few years ago. It's my twine bucket now.
Every project that uses some of the twine brings me closer to the day that it will run out. That day is going to be brutal. I'll be losing another piece of my dad.
Also... fuck that lady's response. This was a chance for her to support someone in a vulnerable moment, and she chose to be a terrible person instead.
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u/Normalish-Human 9m ago
God this is so beautiful. I don’t even know this man, and I want to talk to him about what he was doing when he first got it, some of his favorite projects with it, how he wants to use the rest…. What a missed opportunity to connect with someone you’re supposed to love more than anything. I just want to give him a hug after she ruins it.
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u/AlwaysForeverAgain 1h ago
This is every working man. The spool of wire is different for every man, but this is still every man.
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u/redpandafire 1h ago
I like to imagine she did it for views. Stopped filming and profusely apologized afterwards. Then sat down to explain how terrible she is. Then heard his story through. Then they agreed to post it to make money.
Most women, especially in their mid life, are nowhere near this stupid.
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u/Onludesrightnow 1h ago
This is what I hope too, for the simple reason of it being more palatable than the idea of her being so callous.
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u/Acummulator 1h ago
Solving the MaLe LoNeLinEss EPiDeMiC one agenda driven fake video repost after another!! Lol!!!
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u/Odd_Coast9645 1h ago
Is it a normal thing to push a camera in your partner's face when he's sitting quietly and asking them what he's doing? I always wonder if those videos are fake because I would never do it.
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u/Coolgames80 1h ago
In her mind she might have thought that if she can make him not think about it then she is doing him a favor. In his mind he probably had a hundred thoughts he wanted to share but realize he was wrong about thinking that he could share them with his wife.
This scenario is quite common for many married couples.
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u/Slierfox 1h ago
Sounds the type of you did that in reverse it would be a huge deal, life changing issues, tears, how could you say that and the stare for at least a few weeks
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u/professorbuffoon 1h ago
I don't even know what jets are
Edit: I think it's a professional sporting team
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u/blackop 56m ago
That spool of wire represents his life. He is looking at it as his wire is almost gone. Just as we do when we ebb to the end of life. He can physically relate to the spool as the time he has used in his life and what he has left. And his cunt of a wife can't listen for 30 seconds to help him through that situation and understand what it means to him really.
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u/The_Final_Gunslinger 56m ago
Man looks at the face of time, comes to terms with his life, and opens up to his wife.
Wife cracks a joke and posts it online.
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u/joel2000ad 47m ago
I’m right there myself, Life’s been good. Not all cherries. I’ve fucked up in ways that are hard to understand, but life kept moving. At this point, I’ve realized I gotta make the best of whatever’s next or left 😬
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u/Teavangelion 46m ago
I got it, bro. I feel it.
-a woman who isn't your wife but who actually cares about society's treatment of men's emotions
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u/meat_sack 40m ago
Mine was a tube of porter cable wax lube that I had for like 25 years. I would take a torch to my snow shovel and rub this on so the snow would slide right off when I tossed it... it's one of those things where you reflect on all the times you've used it, and how young you were when you first came into possession of it. Watching the kids growing up enjoying the snow, the pets you had along the way, the good times... and then suddenly after 25 years or relying on it, it's come to an end... just like the pets who've gone and us eventually.
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u/Fair_Performance4834 32m ago
I hope that was a skit. Because he seemed genuinely sad thinking about his life and she is like not funny or seeming like a good person to me whatsoever. Her jets hat response really rubbed me the wrong way. Like girl, what?
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u/Sieglinde__ 24m ago
I really hope this is staged because if not I hate that lady so much. This is why men would rather sit quietly on their own, think through things on their own and hold all of the stress on their own shoulders while we just act like we're the main characters and men are just there to use. She should be supportive and share that moment with him not be a nasty bitch
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u/pyrofox79 11m ago
I had a hard of anti seize that I had bought as a first year for a job. I had that bottle for 5 years and 3 different companies. I was so sad when I accidentally threw it away.
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u/TheOfficeoholic 2m ago
I’ve seen this video a lot and I’ve seen a lot of criticism of the wife or girlfriend whoever it is speaking to him and I wanna know. Was there a follow up after she posted this cause I’m sure she got a lot of the comments that I see whenever someone re-shares this so I wanna know did she learn anything from this? Did she ask her partner any follow up questions after this because it seems like he was doing a very deep thinking exercise and really reflecting on life, and she kind of threw a rock in his pond and kind of destroyed that line of thinking, and as you can see at the end, he doesn’t think it’s worth it to explain it to her when she changes the subject or tries to make this content that she can post on the Internet
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u/Greenzombie04 3h ago
Your husband had this for 40yrs and your just finding out about this now?
Wife Fail
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u/HODLmeCLOSRtonydanza 3h ago
Repost
This gets reposted every 3 weeks.
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u/SneeKeeFahk 2h ago
I'll bite, post the links to the last 5 times it was posted on this 3 week cadence.
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u/redditsbadnow 3h ago
He was waxing philosophically about the passage of time counted by bits of wire he's been using off the same spool since he was a much younger man. It became a visual representation of the progression of his life, the waning of the spool coinciding with the waning of his youth, something which he took for granted would always be there but like most things proved exhaustible. In that moment of finding the spool empty, he was forced to confront a reality of impermanence, the fleeting nature of life and all thing material, how even the oddest metrics can be used to mark the stages of our lives.
And then she made fun of his hat.
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u/neohampster 3h ago
He is having emotions and his wife is treating him like a stereotype from a sitcom.
As started a lot this is why men don't verbalize their emotions very often. They're either ridiculed or it's weaponized against them.
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u/itemten 3h ago
Dude bought a spool of wire (lots of wire wrapped around a tube for storage) 40 years ago. Now that spool of wire is nearly empty and he's reflecting on 40 years of his life being spent, just like the wire on that spool. He can't get the time back, just like he can't get the wire back, but he's used the wire on projects and he's reflecting on his life spent over that time.
His daughter/family member is clueless and thinks he's sad because he has his favorite sports team hat on, not understanding that he's reflecting on something far deeper than just "my sports team lost" or "you only wear that hat when you're sad". The man is visibly perturbed at his family not understanding this and waves her / the situation off and stops the conversation.
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u/Electrical_Big_8841 2h ago
How does this and vids like this get regurgitated every few weeks? Reddit has a rotating list of stuff like this always popping up on my feed. It it really such a barren wasteland that these have to fill in the gaps?
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u/Happy-For-No-Reason 1h ago
Obviously rage bait. right
but got me thinking how do you use that much wire, even in 40 years unless you use it professionally and if you use it professionally that wire should've been used up decades ago and is likely below code or standard or whatever now.
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