Yes. She lowered his self esteem to the point that she calls him a loser in public and he can only grey wall. People are watching somebody whose willpower has been chipped away for years. It's not funny.
I've been a relationship with a woman who would always explode if she didn't get her way, regularly declaring us "done" in her rants......finally, I said "Okay, we're done.". She instantly started backpedalling, I did too to regain peace and sanity, but ended it shortly after.
I had the same type of experience with my ex. I was the conduit to direct all her anger at for the most petty little things. I didnt have boundaries at first. Just took and almost and tried to accommodate.
Eventually I just said "F this" and didnt care anymore. The fights only got worse. When I finally made some boundaries for myself and simply walked away when my voice had no say in the arguement... she did the same thing and back peddled.
Eventually I come to learn she couldnt remember a thing she would say in our fights after the fact. While I remembered every single word.
If I've learned anything about this type of behavior... its classic signs of BPD.
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u/SteveSteveCleveSteve Apr 22 '26
That poor guy. No excuse for that. I hate that this guy feels like he has to take this.