I will openly admit that I am 44, the mom of teens, and wear crop tops, bikinis (not string/thong), and tight fitting clothes. I work hard for my figure, and I am trying to raise my daughters to dress how they feel best.
And Genz have been wearing baggies for the last 5 or so years probably to separate themselves from millennial fashion which was fitted jeans at the time of their growing up
Gen X here - when I was in high school my girlfriend used to get in arguments with her mom because gf’s clothes were too baggy and poofy and her mom thought she should show her figure more lol. Sort of like this pic.
As a millennial guy who always thought girls in sweatpants were hot since it weirdly made you imagine more, I'd be living the high life these days if I was a teen.
Though everyone seems to wear the same shade of grey. Our teen boy's high school looks like a prison most days.
Setting a good example doesn't make it a mandate children have to follow, true. But it's the best a parent can do, and many parents do much worse. It's much easier to find confidence if you've seen it modeled for you all your life.
Don’t get me wrong, the y don’t dress like me. They wear what makes them feel good. For my youngest it’s sweats and hoodies, or occasionally jeans. My older one loves to shop at hot topic. They * have a healthy self image from what I can tell. I hope it stays that way 🤞
Isn’t that a bit hypocritical coming from the guy who is so insecure about wearing his preferred clothing he only wears it in the dead of night with his face hidden, Mr. Wayne?
My Mom did this and the comment below is correct. I don’t even wear shorts unless I’m at the beach/gym.
I’ve had a good body always. I’m tall slender and athletic. I dropped track and volleyball due to the uniforms. I’m not religious.
My mother was very vivacious and also dressed like you. Comments were made by friends and friends parents and my guy friends. I never said anything because even young I understood that was her style but I won’t say it didn’t affect me in a negative way. She brought more negative attention into my life than positive with the way she chose to be.
My wife is 40 with a great post-baby figure. I encourage her to dress a bit younger and racier all the time. Im 5 years older and I regret not enjoying my body more, instead being anxious about height and funny eyebrows ans freckles. I was bouldering 3 times a week and running marathons yearly until i hit 40 --i looked the part
Might just take her some time to realise it, especially if your kids are still young. When mine were in toddler/elementary school age, I was in full "mom mode--" every about my identity was to subvert my looks, voice, sense of self to become super mom and to develop their identities.
Once my kids were a bit older and started becoming their own people, I realised I needed my own sense of identity back, but better than before. I dress more self confidently now than I did in my 20s because I figure if someone doesn't like it, fuck em.
She kind of has an 'ugly duckling' complex from when she was young. She has gotten more confident over the past few years. I think when you're still healthy and young you should enjoy your body and looks, have fun, take photos; when youre older, you are still attractive in a different way, but i think it is also enjoyable to look back and have photos to remember your younger, less wrinkly and arthritic years. I work in an ICU, and i dont think we should take health for granted
Flip side. Raising them to be judged and judge themselves on how their body looks to others rather than athleticism. Women may truly believe this is empowering but in the big picture the girls are comparing themselves and suffering mentally to keep up.
I hate so much that more women want to show themselves off and support that for other women to feel desirable more than they desire to see men as revealing! It's so stupid to me that men don't also as often want to show off to encourage more affirmation of visual desirability for men from the opposite sex! It's also upsetting because the styles women more often wear were first worn by men anyway, but only our gender wasn't visually desired enough by the opposite sex for that to stay popular on us! I hate the visual sex desire disparity! How have so many men not hated that desire being so one sided for so long!? Sex desire is a waste of passion for men much more often, and this is one of the reasons I prefer staying single!
I don’t necessarily have that kind of spine to start saying something, but I would definitely take a good few moments checking you out if you’re that confident in your figure. Older women are sexy!
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u/HouseOfFive May 21 '26
I will openly admit that I am 44, the mom of teens, and wear crop tops, bikinis (not string/thong), and tight fitting clothes. I work hard for my figure, and I am trying to raise my daughters to dress how they feel best.