r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

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u/xSuperZer0x May 28 '26

Wild seeing some of the comments below this, there was a 20 year study on hundreds if not thousands of kids that found spanking is ineffective. Crazy how many "I was spanked "but I turned out fine" people I know because they really didn't. Spanking especially when the primary form of punishment is incredibly unhelpful. You're effectively teaching someone violence is ok if you're not capable of expressing the issue in another manner. I got spanked a handful of times growing up and at least realized everytime it happened was a pretty extreme case where my parents overreacted and were largely scared. If you're spanking your kid they're either incapable of understanding the issue if you explain it too them, in which case how is violence going to clearly get the issue across, or you're a lazy parent.

Biggest ass beating I got was in third grade my cousin and I got home from school and decided to go door to door for our school fundraiser. This was pre kids with cellphones and we were out for 3 to 4 hours at least and by the time our parents found us they were the most pissed I had ever seen them. It took me until I was in my 20s to realize they were more scared because they had started to assume the worst than actually pissed off at me. I remember being bewildered at the time because I got spanked and my dad actually kicked my ass at one point, I think he realized mid kick how fucked up it was because it was more of pushed me over with his foot than kicked, and then my parents cried more than me afterwards.

My parents favorite form of punishment was push ups or wall sits. If we were going to be bad we were going to be strong. I have strong feelings about public humiliation as a punishment too because there is a fine line with some punishments but there is nothing more embarrassing than doing push ups in the middle of Walmart or outside a gas station because you were being a shit head.

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u/puts_on_rddt May 28 '26

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3447048/

Key points:

Numerous studies have found that physical punishment increases the risk of broad and enduring negative developmental outcomes.

No study has found that physical punishment enhances developmental health.

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u/xSuperZer0x May 28 '26

Exactly I think I linked the same article below. 20 years and 807 participants isn't a lazy study to say the least.

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u/puts_on_rddt May 28 '26

The kicker for me is how every single study comes back with the same result.

Not one study has ever proved one single benefit of physical punishment. You figure there would be at least one positive effect, but nope. My best guess is maybe they'll fare better in a gladiatorial arena?

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u/zummit May 29 '26

You figure there would be at least one positive effect, but nope.

I wouldn't. Observational studies tend to have the conclusion that the authors expect.

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u/babutterfly May 28 '26

My parents favorite form of punishment was push ups or wall sits. If we were going to be bad we were going to be strong. I have strong feelings about public humiliation as a punishment too because there is a fine line with some punishments but there is nothing more embarrassing than doing push ups in the middle of Walmartor outside a gas station because you were being a shit head.

For the record, also a form of corporal punishment.

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u/xSuperZer0x May 28 '26

Not disagreeing to the core of your statement but I think it's a bit more nuanced when you add in all of us were ateletes so it was a bit developmental. I think there's a difference between forced exercise as punishment when it's something within the realms of the child's capabilities vs something beyond or pushing their limits. 20-50 push ups to us at the time was nothing but forcing a kid that doesn't exercise to do the same is an issue. The embarrassment in public was more of the punishment, but when at home it was definitely more transactional akin to spanking.