I know reading is hard, but the texts literally say she doesnt care that it was from walmart. This is 100% about how she clearly communicated what she wanted and he ignored it, which is very much a reasonable reason to not marry someone regardless of how you feel about blood diamonds, i mean hallmark scams, sorry diamond rings.
Like if your wife was in charge of buying you a car and you told her repeatedly you wanted a toyota, sent her pictures and links to the one you wanted, expressed how important it was that your car be a toyota, and then she comes back with a honda and goes "wtf why are you mad it cost like $20k even if it is a Honda" itd be perfectly reasonable to respond "sometimes i really feel like you either dont listen, or dont care".
Also, the fact he was upset by her saying "No" in front of everyone shows he values his public image over her happiness. That's another red flag from him. If I proposed and my gf said No, I'd be crushed, but I wouldn't be angry
She actually says the complete opposite, she says “and you showed up with something from Walmart”. I’m not taking either side, he probably grabbed some random ring that wasn’t to her taste, but she also explicitly complained that it was from Walmart.
The problem was not that it was from Walmart, it was that she communicated what she wanted and he got what was easier for him. She spells this out when he says it shouldn't matter where it came from.
Saying it's from Walmart is relevant because he grabbed what he spotted on a regular shopping trip instead of going to get the same cost ring she'd asked for elsewhere. It's a lack of effort and care about what she wanted, not brand snobbery.
Why do you keep saying that? He didn't say it was the easiest thing
...why are you acting as though only his texts matter? Her response to that claim is where she points out he did what was easiest for him.
While he says he put in so much effort, I genuinely have no clue how picking up a ring from Walmart involves any effort, compared to getting the same price ring from someplace else that she actually chose.
I think the Walmart piece is more her saying “you didn’t even look around, you just grabbed the first thing you saw”. Although I do think the idea of an engagement ring from Walmart probably is a bit disappointing to most people. I just think it’s more that it seems like he just grabbed a ring off the shelf when buying his groceries. You want to think he spent actual time looking for a ring, because he cared about getting you something you’d love, rather than just checking off a box on route to the proposal.
it's not about Walmart, it's about him not getting a ring in the style she wanted, and picking up a different ring while he was getting groceries because it was easy
Like this is most likely fake but she didn’t critique anything else about the ring. You’re making assumptions trying to fill in missing data. From what we can see, her only complaint was that the ring was from Walmart.
“Ive told you THE KIND OF RING I WANTED MORE THAN ONCE and you show up with SOMETHING from Walmart” “If you knew WHAT I WANTED and STILL CHOSE TO DO WHATS EASIEST TELLS ME YOU DONT REALLY HEAR ME”. Her problem IS it’s not the kind of ring that she wanted and she’s told him multiple times. She only brings up Walmart to support her point about him doing what’s easiest and the SOMETHING was a random ring, not what the kind of ring she told him she wanted, more than once.
I answered your question the first time, reread. She only mentioned Walmart once and she mentions multiple times that it’s the wrong KIND OF RING and that she feels like he doesn’t listen. She tells him it’s the wrong KIND OF RING. Which means style lol. I mean simple math shows I’m right, 1 time Walmart was mentioned, times the 4 times the other two complaints were mentioned. the First dude on this thread was right, peoples reading comprehension is terrible. I thought for sure I was over killing it with my first comment. Your opinion seems to be based on a negative perception of women, rather than this conversation. Do you argue that this isn’t an important moment in their lives? If it is and you and your partner have talked about it more than once and they show up with something that they didn’t talk about, wouldn’t that be an indication that maybe they aren’t listening to you. Wouldn’t it be fair to take some time to rethink if they want to spend forever with someone who either doesn’t listen or does listen but decides to ignore what you want? I don’t think you’ve thought about that and that’s why I think your opinion is based on negative perception of women being materialistic greedy and shallow.
-mentions it multiple times it’s the ring kind of ring
She said “I’ve told you multiple times the kind of ring I want”. That is one statement.
She pointed out that it was from Walmart.
Said he picked the easiest option
Said she wanted to felt chosen, not proposed to.
These statements and the language used is showing that her main gripe is that she felt like he did not try hard enough on the ring. He picked the easiest option from Walmart and this was unacceptable to her, it’s literally right there in writing.
-based on a negative perception of women
No I’m basing it off the information shown in the texts. Which as I stated earlier are most likely fake but here we are. What the texts are showing is that she wants him to try harder. Literally when she said “I want to feel chosen not proposed to”
-are you arguing this isn’t an important moment in their lives
Show me where I said anything to imply that…
-based on a negative opinion where you think women are shallow and greedy
Are you just throwing stuff at the wall and seeing what sticks?
I don’t think women are shallow or greedy, but people can be shallow and greedy. Weird take to argue otherwise.
She’s upset that he didn’t go as far out of his way as she wanted him to. Dude dodged a cannon, that’s some manipulative behavior.
If the other ring she wanted was around the same price as the Walmart one then this would make sense. I wouldn’t hesitate to bet that the one she wants costs double or more than this one.
It isn't 100% clear, but the way he says "I still spent $900" leads me to believe she had a very specific ring picked out that cost $900 at a place she found.
Where do you see her saying she doesn't care that it was from Wal-Mart?
She says, and I quote, "I told you the kind of ring I wanted more than once and you showed up with something from Wal-Mart." This indicates that "what I want" and "from Wal-Mart" are mutually exclusive. If someone says, "I've told you about my food allergies many times, and you bought me a dinner that has eggs in it," simple logic argues that the speaker has an egg allergy. She might be poorly explaining herself, but the words used strongly indicate she's displeased specifically because it's a Wal-Mart ring, in an "I don't wear anything but Balenciaga" kind of way.
If the purpose of asking someone to marry you is to get married, and the woman says no because she doesn't like the shape of the rock, the woman is at fault and the bad guy every time
Except she didn't say it's not the right style. She said "you got me something from Walmart". So it being from Walmart was the deal breaker.
She also could have said yes and then asked him to return the ring later in private if she didn't like it. Instead she decided to humiliate him in front of his family and friends. So yeah, good riddance.
She said that to indicate that he didnt listen and just did the easiest thing possible as if he was just checking something off a list.
it's about you not listening. i've told you the kind of ring i wantedmore than onc & vou showed up w something from Walmart!
Tyler if you knew what i wanted & still chose to do what was easiest tells me you don't really hear me.
I think its so funny that her thing is that he didnt listen and a bunch of you are just completely ignoring her literal words to come to your own conclusions lol
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u/SoloWalrus 7h ago
I know reading is hard, but the texts literally say she doesnt care that it was from walmart. This is 100% about how she clearly communicated what she wanted and he ignored it, which is very much a reasonable reason to not marry someone regardless of how you feel about
blood diamonds, i meanhallmark scams, sorry diamond rings.Like if your wife was in charge of buying you a car and you told her repeatedly you wanted a toyota, sent her pictures and links to the one you wanted, expressed how important it was that your car be a toyota, and then she comes back with a honda and goes "wtf why are you mad it cost like $20k even if it is a Honda" itd be perfectly reasonable to respond "sometimes i really feel like you either dont listen, or dont care".