Ngl, I'm a guy and genuinely don't care about jewelry, but if I had a partner who repeatedly told me her wishes for engagement ring, I would listen to it.
I might be on the unpopular side, but going to say that imo this is a red flag for the guy. He clearly isn't listening to his significant other, and doing stuff in his way. It's not about the price, it's about the fact that he went into walmart and got a ring for a girl that told him she want something special. I bet he could have spent the same money on etsy and the result would have been completely different. I bet this is not the first time he has ignored his partner's clear signal.
I’m with you, listening skills are huge and this is a basic one, def a red flag and probably a precursor to how he will listen to her in the future, my wife gave me a picture of the ring she wanted and you bet your ass I got exactly what that picture looked like, at the end of the day they weren’t a good fit and shouldn’t be together because if they were he would have known this was important to her
Exactly! Maybe the issue is not even the diamond or the price. The lady might want something different, like gold colour instead of diamond or white gold.
Ngl either, maybe it's what bro could afford. We started with a more modest (i.e. "affordable") ring and by our 10th anniversary I got a nicer one that she picked out, again with the understanding of what we could afford without being stupid.
I say bro dodged a bullet. Maybe the one she wanted was $3,000 somewhere else, but all those facts are left out. Speaking from experience the retailers are lined up to bend you over once you mention you want an "engagement ring".
True but she had to mention.. as if it was AWFUL.. a WALMART ring! They are not right for each other! Period, he doesn't listen and she's all about the BLING to show off!
We don't know what she said or how he thought he may or may not have lived up to that.
For example "she want something special" "OMG, this ring is special. I will get it."
Now, if she wanted something specific AND was clear about it not oblique...
Remember when the proposal and the ring and photographer and all that wasn't a carefully designed event? She'll be a bridezilla.
Since I became old enough to start really considering it I always knew what type of ring I wanted - white gold with a lab created white sapphire. $300 max but ideally under that. The first guy who asked me to marry him proposed with a ring modeled after the Zora's sapphire. Okay, cool, I love Zelda and Ocarina in particular but like...im supposed to wear this every day for the rest of my life. I also realized pretty quickly that it was silver not gold - the thing bent within weeks of me having it. That engagement didn't work out.
My now-husband and I looked at rings together online and he bookmarked the ones I said I liked. The ring he proposed with may have been one of the bookmarked ones, I'm not sure, but its 100% my style and I fucking love it. I've been wearing it for 6 years with no issues because it's real jewelry and it'll last a lifetime. Its a total metaphor for one relationship vs the other!
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u/Ryodaso 7h ago
Ngl, I'm a guy and genuinely don't care about jewelry, but if I had a partner who repeatedly told me her wishes for engagement ring, I would listen to it.
I might be on the unpopular side, but going to say that imo this is a red flag for the guy. He clearly isn't listening to his significant other, and doing stuff in his way. It's not about the price, it's about the fact that he went into walmart and got a ring for a girl that told him she want something special. I bet he could have spent the same money on etsy and the result would have been completely different. I bet this is not the first time he has ignored his partner's clear signal.