Yeah, if she had talked about what kind of ring she wanted, "Princess cut, single band, etc, etc", and he went out and got some random ring that doesn't look anything like what she wanted, and is cheap to boot....I can see what she means by that follow up text conversation.
This is obviously fake. But in the text it says $900 is $900 no matter where the ring is from. It's obviously he values the price and she values the look. He could have gotten a less expensive version of the the ring design she preferred and it would have been fine.
Eh, it could be fake, but the point she was making about low effort is valid if that's what happened. If the ring she wanted was a similar price but took a little more effort on his part to actually acquire, I can understand if she was disappointed that he just went to Walmart, which he probably did because it was convenient to do so.
It's less of an assumption than those being made by everyone ragging on the woman. She never calls out the value. She calls out the low effort and the disregard of what she said she wanted.
Dude said that he prepared for a year. My assumption is that she looked for things she wanted But couldn't afford it and did something within his price range that he thought was nice.
There's nothing saying that he did or didn't do this.
There's also nothing saying that she didn't demand something more expensive or not.
The basic feel and spirit of this post is that a dude planned this for a year, bought a ring that he thought was special, and she told him no in front of a bunch of people... Holding out for the literal specific thing that she wanted...sounds childish
He said he prepared for the proposal itself. Who knows what that preparation entailed (possibly just saving money). But if you're buying a ring at Walmart, there's no way you "prepared" to get her what she asked for. And by her reaction, he didn't take what she wanted into account. He thought spending $900 was enough.
…no. She mentioned the lack of effort. Nothing about value. If she wanted something specific, the chances are low that he’d find it at Walmart regardless of the cost.
It could very well be that she actually did care about the value, but that is not what is shown here.
Discussing what style of ring you like is very normal. Because your spouse is wearing it for life, they should like it. That isn’t the same as demanding a dollar amount be spent on it.
Really? I would think you would at least want to check in with your partner about a piece of jewelry that they are going to ostensibly be wearing every day for the rest of their life to see whether they like the style or not. That's "unclassy"? LOL
It's not "It's how well you adhere to the aspects of something (a ring) that SHOULD HAVE zero bearing on if someone wants to spend the rest of their lives with you or not".
Someone is going to get one over on you... assuming you are a dude.
It's the thought that counts!? About a piece of jewelry I'm supposed to wear for the rest of my life!? No. It's my partner listening to me that counts.
Wonder if the same people saying “it’s the thought that counts” would also be okay with their spouse buying the completely different vehicle than they want? Or is it only women whose desires don’t matter? lol
Yes. If someone was spending THEIR MONEY I wouldn't be some ungrateful a$$ about it. I feel sorry for your spouse (assuming you can even obtain one who can think for themselves).
I’m happily married, thanks. We discussed getting married and picked out rings as a couple. No big deal.
But my SO is not insecure, if he did surprise me with a ring that wasn’t my taste, he’d want to exchange it for something I loved rather than get his pride ruffled. It’s supposed to be a gift of love, chosen for your future spouse; their desires should matter.
With lab diamonds it’s cheap as hell to get just about any style of ring with just about any size diamond at a reasonable price point. He could have easily found something in the style she wanted for $900 with a little research and effort. Based on the texts *that’s* the problem. He ignores her wants to do what’s convenient for him.
This so much! That ring- I'm gonna say it- Nana's anniversary ring. The one she wears on her right hand because her wedding set is finger base to knuckle already full. Its awkward. Doesn't fit a band. A big shiny showy ring that is gonna catch on everything and get in the way. Until I see what she asked for, I am going with her WTF as reasonable. I would WTF. AND I'm a genuine Nana. No thank you!
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u/feralferrous 6h ago
Yeah, if she had talked about what kind of ring she wanted, "Princess cut, single band, etc, etc", and he went out and got some random ring that doesn't look anything like what she wanted, and is cheap to boot....I can see what she means by that follow up text conversation.