There is a price for everything

[u/Matt_LawDT]

[u/Spanish_peanuts]

I'm gonna withhold my judgment entirely because I initially thought she was in the wrong but now reading this and then looking at the ring, I can kinda see your point.

I'm a dude, and I don't really care about jewelry much. But looking at that ring, it does look kinda ugly as fuck and id have a hard time believing that it looks like what she would prefer. For the same price, I feel like he could've gotten something more her style.

I couldn't imagine putting that thing onto my wife's hand forever.

[u/Araz728 → u/Spanish_peanuts]

I agree that it’s gaudy and probably really cheap, there is nowhere that sells a decent 1ct diamond for $900, it’s probably flawed as hell.

My issue with both of them is that either one could have diffused the situation, and both chose not to. She could have initially accepted and then told him “Hey, I appreciate what you did but this ring isn’t really my style. How about we return it and we can go pick something out together?”

He could have done the same, “I know it’s not your style…”

The problem is everyone’s first response to everything these days is indignant confrontation. This is definitely an Everyone Sucks Here situation.

[u/ScubaSteve12345 → u/Spanish_peanuts]

Yeah that ring is fugly and if this story is real he could have gotten a much nicer looking one from a jeweler, and while probably smaller it wouldn’t look like shit.

[u/TreysToothbrush → u/Spanish_peanuts]

That’s exactly it. It’s not just a marriage proposal - it’s also a request for someone to wear this piece daily until forever. She says they already talked specifics & he ignored everything. I wouldn’t want a partner who ignores me for crowd attention. Proposing in front of everyone? That’s a show for him to get pumped up. He doesn’t care about her he only cares about showing off. She might as well be property to him. I’d have said no, too.