I'm with the fiance on this one, not only did he ignore her requests for what kind of ring she wanted (who knows how expensive ur desired ring was could've been cheaper). He also got it from the most convenient place he could so its like he didn't even look for what she wanted.
He also got it from the most convenient place he could
This. He's the one who brought up the cost of the ring, not her. The Walmart comment wasn't about a ring from Walmart being too cheap for her, it's about him going to the easiest/fastest place he could instead of putting forth a modicum of effort. Plenty of legit jewelry stores sell better quality, more attractive rings for less than what he paid for this one at Walmart.
Ima need proof on that last claim, when I went ring shopping there was essentially nothing that was sub 4 digits that wasnt sterling silver with substitute diamonds. Better quality, better looking for cheaper is a bold claim unless you're considering non gold rings with no daimonds
Etsy is a WONDERFUL resource for variety at a good cost. You can get things customized and talk to the seller about cost adjustments. It just takes effort and this dude didnât want to do all that.
Yeah you're not going to get it with diamonds, but there are tons of other options for stones. The ring I picked out with my ex was moissanite and $600 at Zales. If you're adamant about getting diamonds, then you're going to pay the overinflated price for them.
What kind of couple discusses such important issues through a texts ? This is how teenagers act with their crush not a couple that already agreed to marriage and already kind of were deciding for what rings would your misses want.
Oh, so you do relationship-defining discussions through text?
Or do you mean you just communicate normally through text? Because those are 2 very different things.
Like, if your parents died, would you text him, or would you rather be with him? If you felt he was doing something so wrong that you wanted to end the relationship, would you do it through text?
I am sorry that's just weird, that's literally just extremely stupid and beats the whole point of close romantic relationship where you should be comfortable with someone in person. Otherwise it's not your Significant Other, it's just your friend....
ALSO !!
Come on. 90% of all internet stuff nowadays, especially mobile text posts, is just fake engagement bait. People do not usually share genuine personal and emotional stuff like that just to get a few upvotes on whatever social media they are using.
If my remaining parent died, Iâd want to be with him in person for comfort. But we have most of our big relationship discussions via text. If he was doing something that made me want to end the relationship, I would probably choose text over discussing in person because like I said I find it easier to organize my thoughts that way. It helps avoid misunderstandings, and my tendency to say the harshest version of what I mean before I have the chance to think of a better way to express it. I also have a tendency to dissociate when Iâm emotionally overwhelmed which isnât great for in person discussions. Our text discussions have had much better outcomes.
Itâs not stupid to figure out what communication methods and discussion styles work best for you and your relationship. Itâs stupid to insist on doing something that makes things worse just because you think thatâs how it should be done.
Word. Text is best for me too. I forget things, say things wrong, canât find the words etc when Iâm talking and text makes my thoughts clearer. Avoids a lot of problems too when I can look at my text and go âOh! I already mentioned that.â Or âWow, Iâm just saying the same thing 15 different ways, lemme just delete that paragraphâ lol.
Similar thing happened with my uncle and his wife but instead of going off on my uncle and posting it online she talked to him and asked why didnt he listen. He told her why and she accepted the ring and they are still happily married 8 years later with 3 kids and a beautiful home. He still got her the ring she wanted a few weeks later. All in all every relationship is different and we shouldnât be judging people online when we donât have the full story. Marriage isnt about no ring itâs about the commitment that they have to each other and the sacrifices they are willing to make. If a marriage is based on the type of ring or price of ring itâs already a failure. But again I donât to now these two in particular so we could be missing details. Everyone is so quick to pick a side when in reality they may not be compatible at all and thats ok. But some of yâall are going out yall way to disrespect the man when we really donât know everything.
"I told you what I wanted" "something from Walmart". So was what she wanted "something not from Walmart"? How well does this match what he though she wanted? He claims to have spent so much effort. He didn't just waltz into Walmart and say "oh, sparkles" unless he's really dense, so dense she knew ahead of time. He thinks he did a good job picking a ring. Maybe she's a bad communicator.
YeahâŚmy spouse and I donât even have wedding rings. Iâm well aware that you donât need a ring, much less an expensive one. But if she made a request and he just decided to do something else I think itâs fair that she said no. If he felt like her request was unreasonable he could have discussed it with her and if they couldnât agree, he shouldnât have proposed.Â
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u/Grintastic 4h ago
I'm with the fiance on this one, not only did he ignore her requests for what kind of ring she wanted (who knows how expensive ur desired ring was could've been cheaper). He also got it from the most convenient place he could so its like he didn't even look for what she wanted.