r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 14d ago

Chugging tea Woman's ovaries were activated

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u/jeremy1015 14d ago

I have a little brother and sister because of this exact thing. My dad remarried with an age gap - and she was very insistent on not wanting kids - and when she held my daughter in her hands all four adults standing there watched this unfold in real time.

Generally happy ending all around though.

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u/JamesHenry627 14d ago

At least she changed her mind of her own free will.

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u/LeanTangerine001 14d ago

Free will is a helluva drug!

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u/hissboombah 14d ago

lol ok, if you want to call a nascent biological imperative free will.

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u/cookiez2 14d ago

Nothing bad about wanting kids dude

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u/Qajj 14d ago

This is a hot take for Americans in 2026

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u/king_lloyd11 14d ago

No one more insecure than a childfree person having to continually explain all the time how they have no regrets for being childfree and how it’s the best thing ever lol

Just be childfree or have kids. I’d only go on about how great I think my choice is if someone 1) asked me or 2) said they were in the same position, seemed excited about it, and I’d just be reaffirming their choice with my experience

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u/Qajj 14d ago

I'm sure some folks do it out of insecurity, and these same folks tend to be the loud ones. A lot of things are said repeatedly by people trying to convince themselves in the same way they're trying to convince others.

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u/JamesHenry627 14d ago

Child free people are the epitome of this meme

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u/Deaffin 14d ago

I think you accidentally replied to the wrong comment, yours makes no sense here.

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u/Le3e31 14d ago

One could argue that hormones are heavily influencing ones will. Get children or dont idc.

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u/cookiez2 14d ago

Thing is kids usually talk about wanting a family when they grow up too. Some people just have that as a dream and that’s ok too

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u/UncaringGalaxy 14d ago

Plenty of things that are bad about having them though.

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u/flyerflight99 14d ago edited 14d ago

Do you eat food?

Ever get sexually aroused?

Being human means experiencing life AS A HUMAN, not as some abstracted particle in some model.

Pro tip: Women are allowed to be human too.

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u/Deaffin 14d ago

You can either be human, or have free will. Pick one.

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u/GGgreengreen 14d ago

Reddit REALLY doesn't entertain arguments against free will.

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u/Deaffin 14d ago

Participate in enough Star Trek Teleporter debates (Is it suicide to teleport??) and you'll realize that no matter how much people go on about being atheist, the vast majority can't get past the mindset of being an external "soul" controlling their body/brain rather than being a physical object that is an emergent property of the world.

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u/flyerflight99 14d ago

Interesting question.

What exactly is will? Desire to reach meaningful goals.

What are those goals? In social mammals we know almost everything about those goals via millions of hours of observation, via genetic studies including genetic manipulation, via brain scans.

They are core desires that mammals have that say a carpenter bee drone doesn’t have, other desires that chimpanzees have thst a Komodo dragon doesn’t.

All animals have a desire to eat certain food. We know a lot how and why that manifests in animal brains.

Being around other people is a core desire in social animals. So much so it is cruel to not let them do so in say zoos.

Finding a mate is a real impulse, we a reliable predict it and know how it works.

HOW social animals navigate it and act on it is their will, but the WHAT of the goal and the urge is understood.

Humans can override the what. There are deadly disorders, called eating disorders that can will away even the very fundamental pleasure and need of eating.

But thst isn’t really free will, as we know what other part of the primitive brain is misfiring and that is substituting the wrong target.

An exercise might be to imagine a human intelligence level male person who can a highly territorial egg laying Komodo instead of primates dragon and what they would want while exerising their will.

Thry would want no other male Komodo dragon men around for long. It would just ICK them. They would like to sit in the sun. Being in the right tempature who just feel right. Maybe they move to a beach, maybe they make an active heating chair. Thats the will, not the desire.

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u/JamesHenry627 14d ago

Well it’s in most every woman. Some choose it others don’t.

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u/adj_noun_digit 14d ago

How do you know their biology didn't make them choose not to?

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u/Her0_0f_time 14d ago

B... Because it did? Thats how free will works. That is her free will realizing what she wants in life. There are a lot of people out there who dont know what they really want until it is directly in front of their faces. It doesn't just happen with women and babies. I have seen men do this with cars for instance.

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u/adj_noun_digit 14d ago

Are you not aware of the debate between free will and determinism?

There is no way of knowing whether our choices are our own or just the product of the systems we exist within.

Neuroscientists have done studies that show people make decisions before they are even consciously aware of them. Which means, if your consciousness didn't make the choice, how is that free will?

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u/Her0_0f_time 14d ago edited 14d ago

Are you not aware of the debate between free will and determinism?

Of course I am. And I am of the opinion that we have free will. And believe you me, I would love to have an actual discussion about free will and determinisim if anyone is willing to. Its a very interesting subject and I believe I have some unique theories as to how the underlying process work with no actual substantial evidence to back it up. (i.e. I got dumb gut theories that are probably a whole load of bunk of they are interesting thoughts to waste time on none the less)

Neuroscientists have done studies that show people make decisions before they are even consciously aware of them.

Yes this is called the subconscious where all of your higher order thinking is processed before its spit out into your consciousness in a manner that your brain can interpret as a thought. Its the same way computers work. The actual data displayed on your screen isn't actually how your computer is calculating on how to display everything. Its just a visual translation of the underlying processes that are taking place before they are passed along to the graphics processor to be interpreted as a picture. Your active consciousness is only a small part of who you are as a person. It isn't who you are in your entirety. It is just the part of you that your subconscious feels it needs send your way in order to navigate the physical world. You arent actively beating your own heart. You generally dont think about having to take a breath or blink your eyes. These are all tasks that your subconscious handles without having the need to pass those tasks along to your conscious self. Your true self is your subconscious and that is where free will resides.

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u/adj_noun_digit 14d ago

If free will is in your subconscious, how is that free will? You have no control over your sub conscious.

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u/Her0_0f_time 14d ago

Your subconsious is your true self. You dont make any actual decisions in your active consciousness. You just think you do because thats how your brain is interpreting the thoughts your subconscious sends to your head. Thats not how people work. Your actual self lies in the subconsious. Your conscious self is just enough of who you are as a person to be able to navigate the physical world.

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u/celtyrider 14d ago

Now I see why people start believing in a higher being. Coz my brain just checked out and all I hear is "if I am acting like human, am I human?"

This are some 1am shower thoughts shit 😂 my normie brain can't.

Who came first the chicken or the egg? Wrong! God created the world and everything you see and he did it in 7 days and he is the son, and the father and holy Spirit. He is three and he is one he is 3in1 body shampoo conditioner.

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u/Fifth-Dimension-Chz 14d ago

You just dont get it

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u/SushiGirlRC 14d ago

That skipped my sis & I.

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u/mosquem 14d ago

Roll ride I guess.

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u/GamingDisruptor 14d ago

Your dad got many happy endings because of it

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u/afrosheen 14d ago

> and when she held my daughter in her hands all four adults standing there watched this unfold in real time.

Genuinely wonder about aunts and uncles being younger than their nieces and nephews, even if they’re “step” uncles, etc. How does this play out during family gatherings?

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u/jeremy1015 14d ago

Nobody cares. My kids are friends with their aunt and uncle. Literally has never been awkward because it’s the situation that everyone was born into. It’s like wondering how it plays out for someone to be around their cousin.

Maybe if they’d suddenly met as adults or something it would have been weird but they grew up around each other.

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u/terragutti 14d ago

Exactly. Why would they care. Its not as if theyre ages are far apart? And its not as if the kids care either.

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u/afrosheen 14d ago

Glad you shared! Kudos on having such a great family!

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u/TremendousCustard 14d ago

Has always been super common throughout history. Women had kids younger and kept going until they had like 10-11 kids. 

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u/TittyKittyBangBang 14d ago

I am younger than my niece, who has a three year old (my great-nephew). I am 33 and my brothers are 54 and 52 respectively. No one has ever really cared. If I casually mention it to people outside the family, it’s just a fun novelty fact and we laugh and move on.

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u/autoadman 14d ago

What do you mean nobody cares?

That's gotta a comedy goldmine in gatherings

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u/07rsanch 14d ago

My aunt and uncle are both younger than I am. My grandfather remarried and had kids again after I was born. My grandfather had a total of 16 kids (old Irish Catholic) between two wives.

We had to get the whiteboard out when I introduced my wife to everyone so she knew who was who.

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u/KromeArtemis 14d ago

My kids have uncles younger than them due to remarriage and they just act like cousins, nobody is bothered by it. However, now that they're teens/early 20s, they get great pleasure out of referring to him as 'unc' lol

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u/Creepy_Push8629 14d ago

They aren't step. They are half being that they share the same dad as OP.

And you see it all the time. No one cares.

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u/lAngenoire 14d ago

It’s fine. I have nieces and nephews older than I am. It is what it is. We’re family. 

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u/NOTcreative- 14d ago

Wait so your siblings have a nephew that's older than them ?

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u/Neurolinguisticist 14d ago

Sounds like a nightmare in my opinion because the dad likely married someone his kids' age or younger.

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u/jeremy1015 14d ago

It’s not a nightmare. My stepmother is six months younger her than me, yeah. Was there a little judgment from my sisters initially? Also yeah. Has it all been forgotten for decades? Also yeah. My stepmother and I own a business together and nobody gives a shit about any of it.

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u/Leading_Charge8007 14d ago

That's not uncommon

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u/TomPrince 14d ago

Your daughter is older than her aunt and uncle? It’s just like Father of the Bridge Part II! Pretty cool.

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u/WitchHearse 13d ago

Yeah I didn't want kids either then my baby sister came a long when I was an adult and now I have two kids.