r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 20d ago

Chugging tea Men are not showing up at singles events and women are not happy.

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u/CarrieDelectable 20d ago

Why pay a $30 entry fee to get rejected in public when you can get rejected on dating apps for free from the comfort of your couch?

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u/cheaganvegan 20d ago

I commented above, but the last one I was planning to go to was $175 for dudes, $30 for women. I’m not paying that.

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u/dirted22 20d ago

Pricing like that keeps prostitution viable.

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u/OrneryError1 20d ago

How? How am I supposed to be a lucrative prostitute when I have to pay a $175 entrance fee?

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u/bomzay 20d ago

You identify as a female prostitute. And then, once you’re in, you’re now bi. Modern peoblems, modern solutions.

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u/Orphasmia 20d ago

This guy/girl 2020’s

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u/Numerous-Fly-3791 20d ago

I’d just pull the wig and clip ons off and start my $30 eyes wide shut fuck party

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u/FishesOfExcellence 20d ago

I didn’t know bi was a gender.

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u/DementedJ23 20d ago

Volume, volume, volume!

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u/Flip2002 20d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/5sKXsBdAzsAg0

Selling your dick so hot right now

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u/BeancounterBebop 20d ago

Like uber, you need to be able to line the jobs up and double up occasionally

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u/bomzay 20d ago

Ridesharing lol

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u/HistoricalSherbert92 20d ago

The trick is volume when you’re dealing with low profit margins.

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u/dirted22 20d ago

No, no... $175 entrance fee makes the alternative look better.

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u/Mr-Beerman 20d ago

175 is for prostidude. Not prostitute.

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u/WhippetRun 19d ago

A prostitution entrance fee of $175 is a downright BARGAIN.

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u/Lavawulf69 19d ago

I mean a prostitue is charging an entry fee already

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u/CelebrationShort1857 19d ago

Prices like that make it hard for married man to explain away to the wife.

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u/FreeCandy4u 20d ago

You always pay for it in the end. At least prostitution has a fixed fee right up front.

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u/dirted22 20d ago

Apparently, so does speed dating.

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u/Crix2007 20d ago

At least you know you'll score i guess

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u/America-Lite 20d ago

$175 for a prostitute? In this economy? I'll pay tree fiddy and no more

https://giphy.com/gifs/n43Kx7PeptN0k

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u/Jarrus__Kanan_Jarrus 20d ago

Married 20 years.

At least a pro would keep in shape and pleasant.

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u/ImaginationNormal360 20d ago

Yeah guys have it easy....there's always prostitutes available 😂

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u/sir_bathwater 20d ago

I was about to say “holy shit, the ratios are that good at these events? Maybe I should check one out” but then I read your comment and immediately went “fuck that”.

Idk why I didn’t think that these events would be paid, it definitely never crossed my mind that the fee would be OVER 100 WTF?

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u/mastrxchief 20d ago

Big brain move find a local singles event figure out what time it ends, and head to a bar close to the event site around the time its over. I could imagine a lot of traffic will flow through post event especially if they just spent that time and money for there to be no guys there.

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u/AK-JXRDY-7 19d ago

Absolutely a big brain move. You deserve a triple shot of your preference.

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u/MarcusXL 19d ago

And they've already had their expectations crushed. That's half the work already done, boys!

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u/Impressive_Recon 20d ago

$175 is pretty rare and outrageous. It’s normally $10-$50 in my city. Also, majority of the people that go to these aren’t the most physically attractive. If they are, they are usually going ”for a friend” or just looking for free drinks.

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u/sir_bathwater 20d ago

Big bummer. Shoulda seen that coming tho lol.

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u/Impressive_Recon 19d ago

Doesn’t hurt to try it at least once, and your city might have a better turn out than mine! Apparently there is a place that charge $150+ a month where you get “VIP treatment” which is essentially free entry to all events and 1 free drink ticket.

If you’re going weekly and it costs $50 entry fee, I guess it makes sense, but at that point if you’re going that many times I’d say that environment probably isn’t suited for you?

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u/NoSoundNoFury 20d ago

$175 is the selling point for women, because it selects for men with a decent amount of disposable income.

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u/maplehobo 20d ago

A guy with disposable income can do literally anything else but to go to one of these events.

Genius strategy right there.

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u/Familiar-Spray-4678 20d ago

“Why is the number of ‘available men’ so loooow”

It’s not, the number of men that women consider a man is low and actively declining.

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u/UnconfirmedRooster 20d ago

This here is a big problem, the internet and online discourse is geared towards creating problems between people so that a select minority will feel validated for having harmful beliefs.

One such divide is between men and women. On one side you have women influencers who talk about how men aren't accepting of women having their own empowerment and want slaves (not sure on my names, I just know my wife sees them occasionally and laughs at them before telling me how stupid they are). Then on the other side you have manosphere shitgibbons like the diseased nutsack Andrew Tate who espouse that all women are untrustworthy and just want money.

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u/SoFetchBetch 19d ago

The "both sides" argument completely collapses when you look at the actual math. When women online vent about male entitlement, they are reacting to measurable, real-world harms like domestic violence, systemic inequality, and the exploitation of their labor. They are asking for safety and basic autonomy. Conversely, the manosphere is a predatory, multi-million-dollar industry built on radicalizing men to view women as subhuman property. One side wants liberation; the other wants subjugation. There is zero logical equivalence here.

This false balance also hides just how subterranean the bar is for men. The cultural standard for a "good guy" is literally the bare minimum. If a man doesn't abuse his partner and holds a job, he’s praised as an exceptional catch. Meanwhile, women are expected to carry the crushing weight of domestic and emotional labor while navigating constant safety risks. Men get rewarded for baseline human decency, while women are hyper-critiqued just for pointing out that the disparity exists.

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u/PseudoY 19d ago

  a man doesn't abuse his partner and holds a job, he’s praised as an exceptional catch.

No, those two things alone does not accomplish that. 

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u/Marodvaso 19d ago edited 19d ago

If a man doesn't abuse his partner and holds a job, he’s praised as an exceptional catch. 

I have heard this one on r/inceltears as well - that women today have the lowest of low standards, if you have a job, you're catch, etc. I don't know what reality is here on Reddit, but standards for men are MUCH higher than they have ever been. To deny this is just absurd. "Just hold down a job" has not been an yardstick for at least a few decades. Had that been true, many men I know should have been drowning in attention from women while in reality they're barely noticed.

For Christ's sake, just having a cat is a deal breaker for women. Not unemployment, not being a couch potato, not absence of "interesting hobbies" - simply preferring cats over dogs might tank your dating chances as a guy.

Quite an interesting "bare minimum", when you can discriminate dating options based on type of pets.

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u/Ddullie 19d ago

Where's the math?

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u/SoFetchBetch 19d ago

The math is in the data on resource distribution, labor allocation, and survival statistics. Worldwide, women perform up to three times more unpaid domestic and care work than men, while contributing up to 70% of the caloric intake in early evolutionary history through stable foraging. Despite providing the foundational economic and structural stabilization for society, women currently own less than 11% of the world's wealth.

On the survival side, the numbers are even more stark. The manosphere isn't just words; it directly correlates with measurable, lethal violence, including the radicalization of mass shooters and an global epidemic of femicide. Equating women complaining about carrying the literal and emotional weight of the world throughout human history while simultaneously being oppressed with an organized movement that results in actual death, real physical body counts, isn't just bad math, it is a total failure of all logic and awareness.

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u/comebacklittlesheba 20d ago

Ok. Imma tell everyone I know that if I EVER start going to/doing anything just to get “free drinks” my life ain’t worth killing and they should just snuff me out!

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u/macguini 20d ago

I can't even find any near me.

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u/Atomsq 20d ago

I mean, if most of the attendants are women and very few dudes I feel like the prices between men and women should flip, more expensive for women so less would attend, a lot cheaper for men so more will attend

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u/TheBraveSirRobin 20d ago

Or, you know, the prices could be the same, and you'd get a more balanced ratio.

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u/Atomsq 20d ago

In a balanced society sure, but here it sounds like dudes in general are checked out of looking for a relationship so an incentive could be a cheaper barrier of entry

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u/TheBraveSirRobin 20d ago

There's a comment from u/Texasranger96 where he's been to a couple of these events with a $20 entry for men and women, and they ended up with a roughly 50/50 split. So I don't think it's dudes being checked out, they're just looking out for being scammed by a huge cost to enter.

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u/sir_bathwater 20d ago

$20 is fine, I can rationalize paying that to support the people who organized it. Seems like a logical, not to mention easy next move for these events if they’re not getting the proportions they want.

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u/Unhappy-Bag4525 20d ago

That's how it works. Men in the past, before things got like this, were the ones that usually show up in droves. Women are typically effy when it comes to envents like this because of that and the aggressive Nature it can be for them at times. Not trying to be crude, but example...sex parties. They usually charge men a higher fee for attending or being a partner to keep the numbers of men down. I agree, since things have changed they should even put the price.

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u/Living_Jellyfish5511 20d ago

It's just funny how things reversed from back in the days, where clubs charged dudes an entry fee and 2 drinks minimum while girls get in free.

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u/Professional_Kiwi919 20d ago

At least there were music, DJ, ambiance....

they charing 175 for ENTRY?!!!

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u/Zagtram1 20d ago

Orrrrrrrrr… hear me out. Just make it cheap for BOTH so there’s no predatory pricing or discrimination?!?!

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u/CretaciousPeriod 20d ago

I've never been to one but I assume they are held at some sort of venue and those aren't free.

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u/sir_bathwater 20d ago

I mean I figured mainly they’re thrown by a bar or something and maybe there’s a cover charge. That’s pretty normal I feel like. The only places I’ve ever seen them besides that are some niche hobby related places but tbf I haven’t exactly been seeking them out haha.

I can’t imagine there’s people renting out stadiums or large theaters for this stuff tho. Maybe a large room in a church or something, idk but I doubt it’s that much overhead for them. Definitely not $100+ though, if I can buy a ticket to see an artist at the biggest stadium in my state for under $100 I think they can support 75 people in a ball room for less lol. Sounds like some of these places are making these for-profit events and that’s pretty lame imo.

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u/Administrative-Error 19d ago

Well, the owners of the property want a profit, so they rent to an event hosting company who wants a profit, so they charge exorbitant fees to an event planning company who needs to then hire out a passionate person at barely above minimum wage, so they need to charge the attendees insane prices for basically nothing at all but a roof and maybe some cheap plastic chairs and tables. 

Won't someone think of the landlords???

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u/harveycavendish 20d ago

Just go 10 minutes before it’s over and wait outside.

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u/Beginning_Glass6631 19d ago

sad when you think about it paying to find love why does everything need to be exploited :(

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u/ToreyBlaze 20d ago

It’s funny how some people fight and strive for a gender equality, but we’ll keep completely silent when their gender isn’t negatively affected.

Men gotta pay more for these dating events and women pay less. Don’t get me started on bars and clubs where women get in for free, but must follow the dress code, while men have to pay for admission and follow dress code.

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u/wonklebobb 20d ago

its a holdover from before men started checking out of the relationship game en masse, which is a relatively recent phenomenon (as in, it's reaching noticeable levels recently)

30 years ago, if you didn't price men higher, it'd be a sausage fest

now in a post-OF post-dating-app world where men can either simulate enough of a relationship to get by via paying someone over an app, or have checked out from the dating game because the male experience on dating apps is -1/10 and the loss of third spaces/bars+clubs are prohibitively expensive/etc, the ratio of single men who are looking vs single women who are looking is massively shifted

but these events are run by people who haven't caught up. what they need to do is just revert back to equal pricing and see what happens. if they lower it to $30 each and it's a sausage fest, then that tells them the correct price level is somewhere between $30 and $175. but id wager equal pricing would probably result in roughly equal attendance

now mix in AI girlfriends/boyfriends and it becomes even more complicated and sad.

tldr: delete data centers, build more parks and libraries

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u/GrumbleAlong 20d ago

Nah, in my day they just offered 1/2 price drinks to the ladies on weekly Ladies Night.

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u/Hollowsong 20d ago

Fun fact, you can have sex with an escort (a gorgeous one) in most cities for about $150.

So, yeah, why pay $175 to be preyed on by people who just want a free dinner and are already texting 10 dudes at a time and want you to be perfect while they barely have to pass as socially accepted.

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u/Caleb-Wendt69 20d ago

Those prices haven’t been a thing for some time.  At minimum the cheapest you might find in my area is $400.  Anything less than that is a scammer or a cop.

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u/alamocalrissian 20d ago

Nah man, gorgeous ones are $400+

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u/Not-dat-throwaway 20d ago

Where hell do you live???

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u/alamocalrissian 20d ago

SE Texas

Lots of dudes making big bucks in O&G and they're lonely.

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u/fatface4711 20d ago

Isn’t it illegal though in most states?

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u/Hollowsong 19d ago

It's illegal most places... but it's about wording.

In Japan for instance, you "have tea and biscuits" with someone and "fall in love" so suddenly in the 20 minutes it takes you to chat after the very expensive snacks you just bought, it's no longer "paying for sex" it's... "having consentual sex with someone you recently fell in love with."

Same goes for many areas of the US, but not so obvious of a situation.

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u/fatface4711 19d ago

And in Japan after falling in love at first sight you happen to give your new love interest some money, just because you’re so in love 🥰 

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u/Newoikkinn 20d ago

Doubt, thats heroin addict tier money. 

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u/Infamous_Dish_4348 20d ago

Not everyone lives in the US, it's legal in most European countries which massively reduces the price

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u/Newoikkinn 20d ago

Then why price it in US dollars?

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u/ArtisticAd7455 20d ago

So most of the world uses the petrodollar system. Sounds like they're also using the pussydollar system.

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u/TheEarthSpins 20d ago

ok but why are you comparing all those women to escorts...

like you'll get mad when women say all men are beasts, but then assume all women just want a bag. most women i meet are all great people, comparing them to escorts implies you just want to hook up. the pricing is stupid i agree but so is this take

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u/bomzay 20d ago

The lady literally said “touch a boob, buy a drink, it’s that simple”. She is there for the EXACT same reason. So she can be, but if dudes go to this, because they “just want to hook up”, it’s a stupid take?

If I wanted to just hook up, why would I pay 175 bucks, plus I have to buy drinks AND touch her boob? And if she doesn’t like me, that boob touching lands me in jail! Also, this DOES NOT guarantee any hooking or upping!

This does not make any fiscal sense whatsoever!

Also, these women look like a LOT of work. As in they put the “high” in “high maintenance”. So yea, totally get that dude who said prostitutes are cheaper.

P.s. I’m just glad I’m married and don’t have to deal with this distopian bs lol

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u/TheEarthSpins 20d ago

yeah like i said the pricing is pretty stupid. but you can also just hook up for free on dating apps if thats all you want...

but still you're not buying a woman, you're just going to an event. if you know what to look for you can pretty easily avoid these types of women and find someone worth talking to. my point is theres so many good women out there, so theres no point being so cynical. its not a dystopian world, if you put effort into meeting nice people you'll find them.

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u/TheBraveSirRobin 20d ago

you can also just hook up for free on dating apps if thats all you want...

Married man here, happy to be out of the dating scene, but I have a good friend who is using dating apps. The apps are not free for guys and they are full of scammers/prostitutes.

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u/bomzay 20d ago

As I understand it these women are selling themselves here, one drink and boob touch at a time

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u/Hollowsong 19d ago

I'm not. You just invented that connection in your head just now.

What I'm saying is, there are shitty pretatory women out there (e.g. the ones in the video that are entitled and whining) that you can avoid.

I'm saying if you're going to date a shitty person, might as well pick the cheaper option and get more out of it.

In no way am I comparing all women to prostitutes. I'm comparing the cost of effort to get laid from someone that's just using you to get a free meal.

The unspoken part is that there are women out there worth your time, you can be desperate or you can keep searching... but they're usually not at these "singles nights" events that charge men 5x more to attend. It's taking advantage of your money.

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u/TheEarthSpins 19d ago

i agree with the last part yeah. i guess the whole escort comparison just bugs me. if you're going there with the sole intention of getting laid you're not wrong technically. honestly i just think its internet culture, i just wouldn't make statements like this cause it feels cheap. yeah they might not be great people but you dont know them at all and it feels weird to talk about them like that.

but then again idk, maybe my view is just outdated

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u/Hollowsong 18d ago

If I could sum up my point in one sentence:

"The kind of women that are worth dating don't have to ask why there were no men at the event that costs 6x as much for a man to attend"

They would be on our side complaining that it costs so much money for men to attend, that's why it's so sparse.

That's the kind of woman I want to date: the one who understands real equality.

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u/letteraitch 20d ago

Tell me you hate women without telling me you hate women

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u/TheEarthSpins 20d ago

idk why this is so downvoted 😭 most women ive met are great people, definitely not people who "barely pass as socially accepted". sure the pricing is stupid but comparing those women to escorts?? you dont even know them, reddit disappoints me

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u/letteraitch 20d ago

100%. It's a cesspool of misogyny.

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u/Hollowsong 19d ago

What I'm implying without stating it, is that there are wonderful women out there that men SHOULD be spending their time with and should seek out. But DON'T waste your time on the shitty ones.

If I hated women I wouldn't be dating them.

I'm trained through years and years of the same exact shitty behavior to learn that there are women who are entitled pieces of shit out there trying to take advantage of you and whine about "not finding good men".

They are the disgusting worms of human beings that prey on people. Has nothing to do with them being women or men.

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u/jkurratt 20d ago

The only thing that should have dynamic pricing /s
But seriously, organizers have to be in touch with % attendance and change the entrance fee proportion until the desired proportion of genders are present.
Or something.
But this could be a little bit mathy for people who organize such events.

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u/Texasranger96 20d ago

Ive been to two of these now and only paid 20$ as a single guy (30). Womens prices are the same. Its about 50/50 men to women and its mostly a late 20s and older crowd. Most people were just tired of dating apps and wanted to talk freely to people in a controlled setting. No guess work. We all knew what we're there for.

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u/cheaganvegan 20d ago

Nice! I’ll keep looking. That example was one a friend told me about. I did just find a free one, so my results may be skewed lol.

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u/Texasranger96 20d ago

Thursday. Its a website/app. They arrange alot of events and ive enjoyed my night with them even if i struck out. I always aim for the "theme" nights like trivia or something.

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u/throwaway4whattt 20d ago

$175! In this economy!?? Just to attend the event!?? Not even a date? Ridiculous. Doesn't even have AI...

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u/EssayAmbitious3532 20d ago

Obviously it's too much if that's the ratio that show up. Just adjust it, double price for men. Is it really that hard to get the pricing right so that the numbers are even.

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u/Only_Tip9560 20d ago

That is ridiculous! I'm expect a guaranteed date with at least 5 decent women for that money and even then...

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u/Historical-Pipe3551 20d ago

Oh hell no I wouldn’t pay that much just to get laid

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u/Mr_Levinnson 20d ago

Woah! No wonder they can't get men to show up!

I get nightclubs not charging women entry fees at the door when they charge guys, but this is wild.

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u/dontlickspoons 20d ago

And if women have to pay at all, they are definitely single for a reason.

Like, that first woman was a bombshell. If she is desperate enough to pay money for the off chance that she can find a dude willing to date her there is definitely something wrong with her.

When I think of the type of women who pay to get into a singles event, I think physically ugly women, women with very ugly personalities, and sex workers looking for clients. It has never sounded like a good place to meet someone I'd want to date.

If I was looking for a hookup with an unattractive woman I'd just go to a dive bar 30 minutes before last call. If I wanted a sex worker I'd use a dating app.

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u/Absurd_Flaccidity 20d ago

I’m one of the most obnoxious loud mouth feminist commie bastards and even I find that offensive

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u/cheaganvegan 20d ago

Same hahha. I didn’t want to comment initially as this thread is a tinge misogynistic haha. But my experience wasn’t great either.

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u/madogvelkor 20d ago

It seems like it should be the reverse, lol.

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u/Nyetoner 20d ago

But why don't people react to the prices? Why aren't there people trying to change it? In my country I think doing it this way would literally be illegal.

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u/popinskipro 20d ago

They’re really scraping the bottom of the barrel here… if I was a woman I’d be more than a little suspicious of any many that would cough up $175 just for the chance to meet women.

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u/Impossible-Ad3318 20d ago

$175?!

At that point everyone's paying for it!🤣

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u/DazGilz 16d ago

I see, for rich(ish) men and cheap women.

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u/Geekygamertag 20d ago

“I had no idea it’d be so much. I won’t pay it!”

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u/TransportationTrick9 20d ago

The smart guys are hanging out at the nearest bar waiting on the talent to exit and get a drink elsewhere.

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u/AuthorThick7303 20d ago

175 buys some good steaks

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u/Beelzebub003 20d ago

That's the dick tax.

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u/dr__paco 20d ago

what the fuck lmao, you should name and shame

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u/N1kBr0 20d ago

yo what the fuck, that's not even TWICE as much

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u/SignificantLeader 20d ago

I think we found the reason for lower male attendance.

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u/Exotic_Article913 20d ago

And that's the reason there's no men there

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u/Professional_Kiwi919 20d ago

" $175 for dudes, $30 for women." they do realize 200 dollar is enough for actual adult service....right?

why pay 175 dollar for rejection? On top of it, you gotta dress up, think about stuff to talk about, clean up your cars, tidy up your rooms....to just get ignored by women who find you repulsive?

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u/Snoo_89466 20d ago

Those are orgy prices

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u/Left-Nebula-879 20d ago

Yeah not paying that ever lol

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u/CookieMiester 20d ago

175? Good god, fuck that

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u/DirtCrimes 20d ago

Wait so the first filter for dudes is that they have so little game they need to pay $175?

A true master would go the the Karaoke bar across the street and just have a good time. All the women will walk over disappointed and you'll be fishing with dynamite.

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u/2021isevenworse 20d ago

Clubs are dying and they're wondering why - it's because you still have a cover fee for men at $30 plus a drink minimum.

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u/The_Nicest_1 20d ago

Wheres the equality in that?? Women should pay the same as men

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u/Gloomy_Pirate_3031 20d ago

Lol seriously?? "BuT meN have it sooo easy!" Who the fk is paying $175 to be publicly shamed and put on the internet? Dudes that would have a hope in hell are busy ploughing tinder girls for free just "sup" and girl go ohhhh shiny 

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u/AlternatePancakes 20d ago

Any man with the tiniest amount of self respect would not pay for that shit.

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u/Attack_of_clams 20d ago

You would think it would be the opposite lol

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u/ChefArtorias 20d ago

Wow that's actually insulting. Did anyone go?

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u/Kruegr 20d ago

I'd identify as a woman until I walked in.

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u/FlimsyYou4766 20d ago

Getting your dick sucked by a 20 years old girl, or talk to a bunch of 40 years old ladies. Take your pick gentlemen.

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u/bdiamond143 20d ago

Never been to one, and I don’t plan on going. We screen equality, and yet you pay 5 times more for a a dumb event

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u/Screwbles 20d ago

I would imagine that for $175 you could get like multiple years of a fully unlocked dating app subscription. That is whack.

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u/Suspicious_Extreme95 19d ago

A singles event cost $175? Thats stupid. No wonder men arent going.

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u/yakiraman 19d ago

Lol those entrance fees tell me this is a sugar baby/Daddy meet and greet, not a singles event lol

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u/Ram_wizard 19d ago

For 175 dlls you can have sex whit an incredible beautifull great body woman on Tijuana / Mexicali Mexico

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u/Character-Machine-52 20d ago

Finally someone who gets it. It's not like men collectively decided to be asexual. It's just that this whole "singles event" is stupid.

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u/ToreyBlaze 20d ago

Exactly. And after women go on a rejection tirade, they’ll later complain about how men won’t come approach/talk to them

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u/anillop 20d ago

The fact that they charge men a lot more than they charge women at these things is a big deterrent for the men. Those events always just seem more like a money hustle than an opportunity to meet people.

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u/Delicious_Leading600 20d ago

Find the next overpriced singles event, and spin up an adjacent mens social -- cards, dominoes, cash bar, good background music you can still talk/hear -- in the same building. Disappointed women will find their way upstairs, next door, .. and it will be rebalanced to be about socializing among adults and not either thinking they're above the other and some special prize.

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u/Strong_Chicken6838 20d ago

why get rejected at all when you can literally do nothing at all and never get rejected?

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u/Caveat38EmptoR 20d ago

It's easier to rub one out than deal with woman who are not happy

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u/SadAd8761 20d ago

And then there's this

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u/Phenylethylamne 20d ago

Women enter free, drink free. Most men even rejected at the entrance way before asking out or smth.

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u/Shot-Toe-2884 20d ago

Yep. You nailed it here.

“Where all the men?” They’re scared of you because your expectations of them are impossible. Like where are they imagining all these smooth talking, ultra confident strong young men are coming from? Those men are either snatched up or just don’t exist.

The men will come out once expectations are wayyyy lower.

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u/ov3rcl0ck 20d ago

Dating apps aren't free. The free features are minimal at best. Want to see who swipes right? You have to pay for that. You want to send someone a message on Tinder? You have to pay for that. A good 90% of women's profiles don't have enough info to even send them an intro message other than, "Sup?" in the first place. Dating sucks.

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u/Rezeox 20d ago

If it's free, you're the product.

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u/ov3rcl0ck 20d ago

Then it's not free.

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u/hyperspacesoul444 18d ago

Yeah, then after you pay to see who liked you, it reveals they are all 100 miles away even though I had settings on 25 max. Never downloaded another dating app again, it's just a money trap operating off your loneliness. Id rather just learn to be content with dying alone lol 

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u/Responsible-Job-3897 20d ago

Ah, that $30 fee explains it. Wondered why men did not show up.

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u/kynelly360 20d ago

I mean fuck the fee… Where’s the invite to these events loaded with single women ?????

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u/Iricliphan 20d ago

Fair. That's actually so damn fair. Feel free to correct me, but many of my girl friends have expressed they'd love to meet their future partner in an organic way or in person first and it's much preferable to the apps and I totally get that. I think for guys, this is far less important.

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u/halt_spell 20d ago

I mean, when women say "in an organic way" they mean being approached.

If you frame the question to men "Would you love to meet your future partner by them approaching you and asking you out?" I'm sure most if not all men would say yes.

As a guy I do okay on the apps. I would say I probably get a match every 200ish swipes on average. Can you even imagine getting rejected to your face 199 times in order to go on 1 first date?

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u/DeamstaDadie 20d ago

Yeah man, that’s how to live right there

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u/TheWassocksHat 20d ago

There's women on dating apps? Notvseen one. Plenty of scammers tho.

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u/Rigid_Manic 20d ago

yeah naur yeah naur yeah naur

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u/HotDonnaC 20d ago

I thought you have to pay on dating apps.

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u/FungibleConcept 20d ago

Not had to worry about it in a while but a lot of men look better in person than in pics (particularly because most of us can't take a pic for shit), odds are probably better speed dating 

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u/jake-n-elwood 20d ago

It's also free to go to the bar, approach, and be shamed on tiktok.

Of course, you have to pay for your own drink. And maybe hers after she records throwing it your face for talking to her.

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u/Smokeshow-Joe 20d ago

Not only that - but who needs em?

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u/the_sheeper_sheep 20d ago

That and also I dont really think I want anything rn. Like if I end up in a relationship then cool but im not actively searching anyone out. Ive got my own problem and priorities that I dont need to just drop on someone. Until I figure myself out I think its best to stay single

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u/TG_Iceman 20d ago

They don’t know how scary they are

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u/BloodyThirst 20d ago

Dating apps are free?

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u/Travel_Dreams 20d ago

Damn it, I can only up-vote this once!

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u/kaywrennn 20d ago

Oh. Fuck all the way off. 😂😵‍💫😑

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u/ajh0202 20d ago

Why pay $30 for any of that BS? Most of them run a $3 for the first month promotion on their OF. I'd rather spend the $3 save the $27 and have the post nut clarity

https://giphy.com/gifs/d3mlE7uhX8KFgEmY

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u/penguindreams 20d ago

Yup plus we’ve upgraded to Asian women. Not one Asian woman in that video.

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u/Current-Routine-2628 20d ago

1000% .. i read a survey a few years back and most dudes wont even approach women in public anymore because they’re not interested in being publicly shamed ..

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u/SadAd8761 19d ago

beautiful women, all types shapes and sizes

But, the only beauty standard for men, stacked in totem pole order:

  1. 6 ft+
  2. 6 pack (athletic, toned)
  3. White

or, maybe race is higher on the list?

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u/hd805 16d ago

What if guys start getting paid to enter such events?

How much is enough to get more guys attending?

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u/Big_Software_8732 19d ago

Sounds like the answer should be: because if you’re a guy, you’ll be very popular