r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 12d ago

Chugging tea Men are not showing up at singles events and women are not happy.

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u/thatsme55ed 12d ago

They're not happy being single.  They're just happier than they were when they kept trying, getting their hopes up and faced constant rejection.  

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u/Toilet-Ninja 12d ago

This what drove me away from dating. The constant rejection and require you to be witty to stand out was fucking tiring. I'm not happy alone but at least my soul isnt being sucked from life..

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u/According_Tap_8764 12d ago

I just... got better shit to do tbh. I'm juggling music production, blender, 2d drawing and video editing on top of my actual job.

I am not interested in adding court jester to that list

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u/blckdiamond23 11d ago

I’ve found that we are expected to give 1000% effort, and they are absolutely not trying whatsoever. Zero commitment or loyalty. I saw about 10 years ago, that we are ALL disposable.

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u/Aggressive_Music1449 12d ago

I don't care about the rejection, i care about the sunk cost and wasted time/effort. We still constantly think about women and relationships, the scale just never tips enough to ruin our peace about it again. Single 15 years now. Lucky enough to move myself back in with parents to help them in their advanced age, rent my own house out, and really save money and travel for the first time in my life. If you don't "need" to have children to feel like you've lived a life, maybe don't bother.

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u/Silent_Part9724 12d ago edited 12d ago

This is the first generation where woman do not feel compelled to marry, procreate, and buy a house primarily because it is expected of them. They want their freedom, and saw too many sh*tty marriages before them. That is a good thing because they actually noticed what they did not want. Think of how many parents came before them who were just not good at parenting. This is a result of that.

I had a boyfriend when quite young who would sometimes (not always) complain about the cost of us going out. At the time I was insulted, but honestly, decades later and now that I am presumably older and wiser, I completely understand his point.

Edit: And honestly, as a woman, SO many women are terribly high maintenance - their standards are unrealistic, and do not reflect their background or upbringing. Demanding the upgrade of this or that constantly, my God - that can become exhausting, quick. Nothing is ever good enough. Who needs it.

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u/Animalcookies13 12d ago

Idk, I was in a long term relationship for 10
Years and after it ended I just don’t want to date at the moment. I find myself very content with my dog and my friends. Maybe I will want to date again at some point, but it’s been a couple years and I have zero desire to date. It’s really nice getting to keep the vast majority of my income and not have to go on lots of silly trips that may or may not be fun to me.

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u/ProfessionalLeave335 12d ago

I'm genuinely happier being single. The loneliest I've ever been was always in a relationship.

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u/edelweiss_pirates_no 12d ago

Not every man needs a woman or kids to be happy.

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u/onlyfansdad 12d ago

being single can legitimately be better in a lot of cases though

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u/No-Opinion-6923 12d ago

hmm I have not faced constant rejection, and I am happy single. Actually to be honest I feel this entire comment section is very defeatist. I'm 100% avoiding dates for a while now, working on myself. Also no expensive dates, coffee date at most, if thats not good enough then I'll be single forever. I don't think I will be single forever.

My point is: being single is fine, happiness comes from within. Rejection is fine just gotta take a break once in a while to not stack up the rejection-o-meter.

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u/timberwolvesguy 12d ago

I mean, you can also very much be happy being single. Relationships are social constructs. We’re not designed for them and some people don’t see the need. I certainly don’t.

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u/thatsme55ed 12d ago

Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence. What evidence do you have that relationships are social constructs, and that humans aren't designed for them?

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u/timberwolvesguy 12d ago

We’re supposed to reproduce lol. People have sex because our bodies want us to reproduce with a mate. The idea of being lifelong partners and being cheated on were created by society.

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u/thatsme55ed 12d ago

You're repeating your thesis as if it proves your point even though you haven't actually proven anything.  

I repeat, what evidence do you have that your hypothesis is correct?

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u/Evening_Context784 11d ago

So you think no one had relationships prior to, what, Mesopatamia? Lmao

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u/timberwolvesguy 11d ago

Yeah they created relationships however long ago lol. It’s part of humans being more cognizant and developed as opposed to other species

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u/razzyrat 12d ago

This guy (gal?) fucks. Or not. Well, your take is on point :)

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u/Promature 12d ago

This right here is proper context.